9 TRUTHS to KNOW & Change Your Path!

Good morning, Believe Nation! It's Evan. My one word is believe, and I believe that you have something special that when you unleash it, it will be able to change the world. So to help you on your journey, today's message is stop doing the wrong things. Over to you, Jordan B. Peterson.

Stop doing the things that you know are wrong, that you could stop doing. Right? So it's a fairly limited attempt. First of all, we're not gonna say that you know what the good is, or what the truth is, in any ultimate sense. But we will presume that there are things that you're doing, that for one reason or another, you know are not in your best interests. There's something about them, that you just know you should stop. They're kinda self-evident to you. Other things you're gonna be doubtful about, you're not gonna know which way is up and which way is down. But there are things that you're doing that you know you shouldn't do. Now, some of those you won't stop doing, for whatever reason. You don't have the discipline, or maybe there's a secondary payoff, or you don't believe it's necessary, or it's too much of a sacrifice, or you're angry, or resentful, or afraid, who knows. So forget about those for now. But there's another subset that you could stop doing. It might be a little thing. Well, that's fine. Stop doing it. And see what happens. And what'll happen is, your vision'll clear a little bit. And then, something else'll pop up, in your field of apprehension, that you will also know you should stop doing, and that you could stop doing, 'cause you strengthened yourself a bit by stopping doing the particular stupid thing that you were doing before. That just puts you together a little bit more. And you could do that repeatedly for an indefinite period of time. And, you know, that doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to ever be able to formulate a clear and final picture of what constitutes the truth and the good. But it does mean that you'll be able to continually move away from what's untruth and what's bad. And, you know, that's not a bad start.

So I love the message of stop doing the wrong things. I think it's vitally important. The question then becomes how? And if we're eliminating the things that Jordan Peterson said are giving us some kind of benefit, then the ones that are left, at least in my opinion, are the ones that are giving you fear. The ones that you are afraid of doing and so that you don't go out and do it, or the fear is making you continue to do it. And so for me, whenever there's been that kind of fear, I'm doing something or I'm not doing something out of fear, the solution has always been to create a bigger fear in the future and bring it back to today. It's not pretend like the fear doesn't exist. It's not pretend like that big scary thing that you have to go and do isn't real. It's just I make the future fear a lot bigger than the current fear. And so think about that thing that you wish you can go and do. Think about that project that you really want to start, or that person you really want to talk to, or that connection you really want to make, or that thing is that's kind of gnawing at you that you really, really, really want to go out and do. But you're not because you're afraid, think about your life, you know, when you're 80, 90, you know, 200 years old, and then look back on this moment, and the fact that you did not take action on it has now led to a life of decades of regret. And I try to make that as painful as possible, as real and painful as possible, and bring that back to right now, so that I'm so afraid of the future fear that I have to go out and take action. And it doesn't mean it always works out. A lot of times it may not work out. You know, you may get rejected, that deal may not work. You know, you may lose money on something. But for me, knowing is the key. I can deal with failure. I can deal with something not working out. Hopefully I don't make it a huge, colossal failure. I can deal with the failure, but what I can't deal with is not knowing. And so two quick examples I want to share with you. One, there was this event called ClimberCon in California earlier this year, and I hate going to events where I'm not speaking. I don't like networking, I don't like going to conferences. It's just not something that I enjoy doing. But it was for YouTubers with 100,000+ subscribers, and some of the people that I knew were going that I had kind of met virtually. I thought, this might be something that I should go to. For, for once, an event looked interesting for me to go to as a participant and not as a speaker. And I was hemming and hawing like, ah, should I go, should I not go? And I delayed really long before eventually buying my ticket. And I just came to the point where I'm going to regret not going. I can deal with it not working out. I can deal with it being a total bust, meeting nobody, making no connections, wasting my time, wasting my money to go. I could deal with that. And if anything, it would prove my point that networking events suck and I'm never going to go to another one again. But I needed to know, and so I booked my ticket and I went, and it was okay. You know, I probably just got my money's worth. It wasn't amazing, it wasn't some huge success story, but I made some new connections. I got to go face-to-face with some people that I had met before, and I learned a couple of things. So it was net a little bit positive, right? Another example, when I was promoting my book, I worked with a number of different people to help me promote it— different agencies, different different connections, and there was one who had a reputation that looked really interesting and gave me a proposal, and I was a little skeptical of doing it, but again, I felt like if I didn't say yes, I would regret it. And so I said yes, and to be honest, it didn't really work out. You know, I paid a lot of money and I didn't get the result. I didn't get my money's worth at all. I didn't get zero value, but I didn't get the value that I felt I had paid for. But it's okay, like, it's a lesson learned, and I'm not gonna live the next 90 years with regret that I didn't say yes. And you're wondering, what if, what if, what if, what if, what if? You know, there's been other times where it has worked out insanely well. When I worked with my agent for the first time, I almost didn't say yes. I was on the fence. And I just felt like I might regret it, and it worked out really, really, really well. I got a lot better on camera, my YouTube channel started to explode, I got a book deal and other opportunities. And so, don't be so attached to the outcome of it working or not working, right? Like, it has to work or it was a huge failure. For me, it's much more if there's something that I feel like I might regret, and you're just delaying and delaying and delaying, eventually that window's gonna close and you're gonna miss your opportunity. Opportunity. And so make that future fear so big, bring it back to today and say, I'm gonna, I'm gonna regret this for the next 90 years of my life. I need to know. You could deal with it not working out, you could deal with failure, you could deal with the rejection, but what you can't deal with is not knowing. So the question today, I'm curious, what is that thing that's gnawing at you that you really want to try, you really want to test, really want to go out and do? But you're afraid? What is that thing for you right now in your business, in your life? Leave it down in the comments below. I'm really curious to find out. I also want to give a quick shout out to Wim Winters. Wim, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word. I really appreciate the support and I hope you enjoy the read. So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love, and I'll see you guys again tomorrow morning for another shot of Nespresso. I wake up every morning, Nespresso keep me going.

What you focus on grows. What you focus on grows. If you focus on problems, problems will multiply. If you focus on opportunities, opportunities will multiply. You have to choose what you're going to spend your time on. See, every day you're either getting better or worse. You don't stay the same in life. People don't stay the same. They're either getting better or they're worse. You're not a human being, you're a human becoming.

Okay?

Every day you are changing your life. And you are every day becoming your current most dominant thought. Not what you say you're thinking about, not what you tell other people you're doing, you are becoming what you're thinking. Napoleon Hill said, thoughts are things. Thoughts aren't random electro, you know, synapses between nerve endings. Thoughts are things. What are you allowing to be in your brain? What are you focusing on? What are you spending your time on? Who influences you?

A human being does not become who he is because of his desire. He becomes who he is because of his competence. So instead of enhancing your competence, you're just enhancing your desire, which will be just a horrible burden to carry all the time. You just focus on enhancing the competence of who this is rather than enhancing your desire, "I'm going to become a world champion." Everybody wants to become one. They're not going to become one, isn't it? Everybody wants to be successful. They will not be a success unless you do the right things. Success will not happen to you. Can I tell you a joke? 45 minutes, you got to be serious. Joke now? We can?

No joke?

Yes.

We need a joke. Yes. Okay, let me ask you this question.

No, let me tell you a joke.

Even better.

On a certain day, a man fell into a septic tank, right up till here in filth. He desperately tried to come out, he could not. Then he started screaming, 'Fire, fire!' Neighbors heard this, called the fire brigade. Firemen came rushing, they looked all over the place, no fire. Then they found this man, they pulled him out and then they asked, "Why were you screaming fire? Where is the fire?" The man retorted, "If I said shit, shit, would you come?" You got to do the right things, otherwise right things will not happen to you. Just because you have a big desire, you're not going to get there. You got to do the right things.