Amazing Motivational Speech by Ed Mylett

Stop playing small.

Stop thinking small and don't let anybody tell you you should be small.

See, in your life you're going to get what you tolerate.

Most people never take the time to take an inventory about their thoughts, yet our thoughts control our world.

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He's Ed Mylett, and here's my take on his Top 10 Rules of Success, Volume 6. Enjoy.

Okay, let's kick it off with rule number 1: play it big.

Look, I feel like most people in their lives are being allowed to live small.

You're allowed to live a small life.

Everyone around you would like you to live small.

Just do this. You're good at that, man. Take it easy. Chill.

When's enough enough?

Like, come on, brother. You know where we're weak. All these messages you get is basically saying, hey, man, live small. Yeah, life's not a big deal. Live small. Enjoy it.

Chill.

Smoke a little weed.

Do whatever you want to want, right?

Like, it's just this get-by thing in life. And there's got to be some people go, no, no, you're supposed to do something great with your life. You were put here for a purpose. Your way, the way you were born, the way you were raised, your Your background, your experiences, your giftedness all prepared you in your way for right now. And you're supposed to do something great with your life. You weren't born here to be average and ordinary. And there's all this messaging that you're average and ordinary and you're average and ordinary because you belong there. And it's probably someone else's fault you're average and ordinary too. And I'm like, no, it's your life. You're in control. It's no one else's fault. And you're supposed to do something magnificent.

That's the consciousness aspect.

The last 1,000 years on earth, doing something great has been reserved to this one one little group of people, 1% of the population. They're supposed to do something great. They're supposed to live their dreams. We're supposed to watch them, cheer for them, wear their jersey, watch their award show, comment on their posts, clean their houses, right? Feed them in their restaurants. No, the fact of the matter is you can do those things. You can change your life. And I'm sick and tired of this hero worship. You live small, cheer for everybody else who lives big. No, if you're a schoolteacher, be the best damn schoolteacher. Change the world by those little lives.

Lives you're affecting.

If you're on social media, change the world. Play big. You will never do it wrong if your decision is to do the bigger thing than the smaller thing.

That's what I would tell you.

Stop playing small. Stop thinking small.

And don't let anybody tell you you should be small.

Rule number 2: decide to be great.

See, in your life, you're going to get what you tolerate. Stop tolerating for these people who have believed in you all your life an inferior life for you. Stop allowing God to bless you and give you all this giftedness and opportunity and settle and tolerate less. For those babies that are sitting here with you, your children and grandchildren, stop being willing to tolerate less for them. Don't tolerate it anymore. Yeah, you got to give it your best, but it starts making a decision that this is over. I don't tolerate this life anymore. Pretty good's not good enough for my family. Pretty good's not good enough for my grandmother. Pretty good's not good enough for my grandpa, my parents, my future children. Pretty good. Ain't gonna get it done for this family. Now I hope you hear them whispering to you, he's right, you can do this, you're great, you're special, you were born for a reason. I hope you can feel that life's going to give you ultimately what you'll fight for.

Rule number 3, keep the promises that you make to you.

I've been getting asked lately about the struggles people are going through with self-doubt, not believing in themselves, negative thoughts about themselves. And I believe the solution to self-doubt is to build something bigger than that doubt, which is to build our self-confidence. And one thing to know about the fact that you doubt yourself is, one, I struggle with it as well. One of the reasons I've had to go learn to build all these tools for myself is because in my life, my baseball career, my academic career, my business career, my speaking career, I've been riddled with self-doubt that creeps up all the time in our lives. Am I enough? Am I good enough? You weren't born doubting. You weren't born discouraged. You weren't born thinking negative things about yourself. Those were thoughts that were placed in you and given to you by an external source at some time in your life. It could even be our parents. Don't do that. Be quiet. Sit down. Be a good boy. Be a good girl. Maybe it was criticism you received as a, as a little one that you may not even remember to this day. The process of building self-confidence is actually very easy, believe it or not. Self-confidence is self-trust. Self-confidence is building a reputation with yourself that you keep your word to you, that you keep the promises you make to you. When I meet somebody who has a ton of self-confidence, I don't look at that as somebody with a big ego. There's a difference. Somebody with self-confidence has a reputation with themselves that I do the things I say I'm going to do. That's where self-confidence comes from. When I meet someone who's not self-confident, I know this is someone who has consistently made promises to themselves they've not kept. They've started a diet and done it for a while but not kept it. They've made a commitment and goals to go make a certain amount of money in business and they started down the road but then they didn't deliver on it long-term. To get up at a certain time in the morning and then they don't do it. And so they have a process and a habit in their life more often than not of not keeping the promises they don't make to other people. They don't keep the promises they make to themselves. And so the cool thing is self-confidence is an internal game. You do not need external accolades, external admiration in order to build self-confidence. You don't need any of those external forces. It's all done internally. You control this and you control this by beginning today to keep the promises you make to yourself. And you have to stack the deck in your favor, stack the game so you win. It's not good good enough just to keep the promises you make to yourself. You must acknowledge it when you do it to you to give yourself credit to create confidence momentum is what I call it. So whether that's setting the deck where you're going to get up a little bit earlier, you're going to make a certain amount of phone calls, you miss a certain amount of appointments, you're going to eat a certain amount of calories in your fitness, you're going to spend a certain amount of time with your children or your parents, and you begin to do these things you say you're going to do. You say simple things like, I'm going to lay out my clothes the night before I go to bed every night, before I go to sleep so when I wake up that decision's made for me. And believe it or not, the fact that you just do something that simple that you then deliver on begins to build confidence. You say, I'm gonna stretch in the morning when I get up, and you do it, all of a sudden, I'm not gonna check my phone for 30 minutes, all these habits I teach, when you just begin to do the things you tell yourself you're going to do, you begin to build self-confidence, which is this reputation with yourself. So ask yourself a question right now. What is one thing right now, one promise I can make to myself that I'm going to begin to keep starting this minute and begin to do it? It could be how often I'm going to pick up a book and read it. But you begin to stack things you commit to do and then you deliver on them and you acknowledge them to yourself. You're in the process of building self-confidence. Why is that so important? Of all the athletes I coach, when my athletes are performing at their peak level, they're at their highest self-confidence level. In fact, In fact, I love when I watch some of the athletes I coach get interviewed and they kind of do this aw shucks humble routine in their post-game interviews. Yeah, you know, just part of the team, you know, I got a lot, I could have done a lot better today. But inside I know these people are incredibly self-confident people. Any of you athletes listening to this, you know this. The great athletes you know have incredible amounts of self-confidence. You have to believe in you when it's a battle, when you're a hitter against a pitcher or when you're a quarterback against a defense or you're a defenseman in the NHL against their best offensive tennis player, or you're a golfer and you have to make a 9-foot putt to win a tournament, right? You better have self-confidence. In fact, the separator more often than not at the highest level in sports is not they're a better shooter or a better putter or throw the ball a little bit faster because everybody throws hard in the major leagues nowadays it seems, right? That separator is their self-confidence. It's true in being a parent. It's true in being a business person. It's true in every area of our life. The separator at the top level is self-confidence.

Rule number 4: collaborate.

I had to learn to recruit and build the team. I'm literally a broke man financially if I did not build a team of people. So I had to learn to motivate and inspire and teach and all those things in building a team. This house is built by that team. My lake house, built by that team. The Jets, all those things are built by the team that I built. And so I learned early on in collaborating. So then when I went into the personal development space, I knew I had to collaborate. So I sought out the right people to build my support team around me, their audiences. You know, I do their show, they do my show, posting, etc., just like what we're doing right now. And so I believe everything in business nowadays is team-built. There's a misnomer that someone is self-made, right? Yeah, there's all these people out there that are working out of their homes right now. You cannot name a single successful human being in the history of mankind who didn't build a team. Jesus Christ built a team. He built a team. He had his apostles for a reason. That was his frontline team. And then they built the team. There's nobody ever in life who has built anything extraordinary with their life alone, ever, period. You must collaborate. You must build a team. Even the greatest religions in the world were all built by teams of people. So clearly you in your living room right now need to seek out some help, some teammates, and some collaboration.

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The reason people aren't patient is they value other people's opinions too much.

You have to go build self-confidence. So while you're in this passionate state, that's where you make decisions.

Rule number 5, control your mind.

Do you ever think about what you think about? Because if you did and if you took control of that, you could alter the direction of your entire life. Most people never take the time to take an inventory about their thoughts, yet our thoughts control our world. Our thoughts are like magnets. They literally draw towards us that which we obsess about. And so most people never take the time to analyze what they think about. The most successful people I know are the most self-aware, meaning they're aware of what they do and they're also aware of what they think. They're aware of how they're perceived. Average person, you and I, have about 75,000 thoughts a day rattling around in this thing we call our brain. In our mind. 75,000 of them. The crazy thing is 91% of those thoughts are identical to the previous day and are identical to the day before that and the day before that and the day before that. And then we wonder why our life seems to repeat itself over and over again. So really, the difference in our life— if we have 75,000 thoughts a day, here's the crazy thing: 91% of them are exactly the same. The separation in our life is in those 9% of their thoughts. Because remember this, these magnets are pretty powerful. That's why I'm always saying that your obsessions become your possessions, because they do. You draw into your life exactly what it is you think about. It's a physical reality that you attract to yourself what you think about. So the difference in our life is 9% of our thoughts. That's why people say all the time the difference between winning and losing is so small, it's almost too scary to talk about. And really, we have identified what it is. It's 9% of what we think about alters the direction of our life. So what I'm here to tell you today is You've got to hone in and get aware of what you think about and then alter those 9% of the thoughts that are variable on a daily basis to serve you.

Rule number 6: Invest belief in people.

You should do it, but the investment of belief in people, sowing seeds of belief, that's what makes you a leader. People say, what makes me a leader? Makes you a leader is your example. What makes you a leader is you investing belief and loving and caring about people. Any one of you in this moment could decide you're going to lead. Because leadership is instilling something in someone that they don't see in themselves. Loving on them, believing them, seeing their giftedness. All of you, I don't care if you're loud or quiet, big here or small here, you could be a leader. The bottom line is you need to decide you want to lead.

Rule number 7: Transfer energy.

Influence is energy. It's the transfer of energy. It's getting you to feel about my company, feel about my mission, feel about my product, feel about my cause what I feel. They're conscious of transferring energy to people because that's what moves people. That's what gets them to act. It's not just the words. It's not just your face. It's not just how you're dressed. It's an energy transfer. There's a hook, by the way. You can't transfer to me that which you're not experiencing yourself. You have to physically be experiencing it in the moment. It can't just be the words you're reading from a sheet. You have to really believe it. One of the reasons a lot of salespeople struggle or recruiters struggle is they just don't believe enough. They don't spend enough time making the case like a lawyer, litigating to themselves about how powerful what they do is. And the more and more you really believe, you're a true believer, you can evangelize your product, you can evangelize your message. So invest more time in your own belief, in your research, in your knowledge, finding third third-party articles, magazines, blogs, things that reinforce whatever it is you're doing that feeds your own belief. That way you can give it to me. You can't give it to me if you don't have it.

Rule number 8, turn difficulty into triumphs.

So how many of you believe in your life that your worst day can become your best day if you turn it around? I happen to believe that, that honestly, the old— in a lot of books you read, oh, there's a seed of every adversity In adversity, there's a seed of greatness.

You've all heard that before, right?

But it's actually true. If you were to go back in your life, some of the greatest trials and tribulations, difficulties you've gone through have ended up producing the most beautiful things in your life. Is that true? Yes?

Rule number 9, find inspiration.

I was at the gym yesterday and a woman drove by me in a wheelchair at the gym. I was working out pretty hard and she wheeled by me, heavyset lady in a wheelchair. I'll be honest with you, I watched her wheel past me She inspired me. Do you know what courage it takes to get in your wheelchair and decide, I'm going to go to the gym, right? I'm going to go to the gym. She's heavyset, awkward. That inspired me far more than the jacked-up dude doing 60-pound curls. I mean, that's inspiring, but you see that. A woman in a wheelchair at a gym with her 2-pound dumbbells because her legs don't work, but she went in there anyway. And you know how insecure she was about going in there. She's the only person in a wheelchair. She doesn't know what she's going to see, how people are going to react to her. She's not in shape. She's never full makeup on and her little, you know, halter top like the other girls in there. And she's right in there. She was right in there working out right next to them, right? I couldn't take my eyes off her. I couldn't take my eyes off her. And I ended up telling her that she was leaving. I left what I was doing. I walked over. I said, I just want you to know something. You're inspiring me. This is wonderful. Her face just lit up because you know how sad she— how insecure she was about being in there. Most inspiring person is the one overcoming the fear of doing something, not the person who's excellent at it.

Rule number 10: find your true purpose.

I had some heart—

cardiac issues, so that's when I started to think about my legacy.

Um, I don't need to be remembered. That's for some reason not been an important thing to me, that somehow like when I'm gone— that stuff's pretty overrated to me. So I do have two legacies. The one is my family and what I want to be able to do for my children, and I want them to live a better life than I've live, and I want us to make a difference in the world. It occurred to me the last 5 or 10 years though that like I was put on earth for a reason. There's a purpose to my existence. There's been a purpose to my journey. There's a purpose to my— in my heart really wanting to help people. Like, I love it.

There's—

I ended up at a group home working in the beginning of my business career, and it changed my life. I was working with these boys. They were all orphans and very young. I went, oh, that's my calling.

I want to help.

Help. And now God's given me this platform and the ability to put words together pretty well, right? And so I want to know that my life was better for the world. I feel like the world today is so divided. I honestly believe that real people from the grassroots— I really believe entrepreneurs, social media influencers, people who have a voice in the world today, we can shift the consciousness of the world. I really believe that. Like, and so it's come to I've come to this point where like the first half of my life was about building something special for my own family, our own legacy, and I've done that. The second half of my life is I want to help contribute my part to changing the world. Yeah, I want my great-grandchildren to live in a safer, more collaborative, more loving world, not just country.

I'm so passionate about this, bro.

I sleep very little lately. Like, I found my calling.

Yeah, I found it.

And our voices all combined, those of you listening, You and I are louder than any one politician, are louder than any one country, are louder than any one little segmented, you know, little group of people who are trying to get their way in the world. We can change consciousness.

We are the voice.

We are.

Now I've got a special Ed Mylett bonus rule on how to learn to communicate that I really think you're going to enjoy. But before that, it's time for the 3-point landing questions. Let's go from just watching a video to taking action. Here we go. Go. Question number 1, how can you turn your difficulties into triumph? Number 2, where do you need to better control your mind? And number 3, what promise did you make to yourself that you need to keep?

My first time I talked, I literally went up and blanked out.

Like, I literally could not think. I could not see the card. How I fixed it speaking was over time, but I'll give you a couple of key things on speaking for everybody. One, I had to figure out, You know what someone said to me? 'Cause you love baseball. You don't stutter when you talk about baseball. You don't get insecure.

I go, well, I love that and I believe in it.

They're like, oh, you don't, you know, you talk about your kids, you're great.

I thought, oh, there's a correlation here between me actually saying what I believe and what I'm passionate about and my ability to communicate it.

And so now my first layer is always, I must be passionate about it and I must believe it. And I'm never doing an impression of another person. So I always come from a place of saying what I really really believe, because you can't transfer to somebody that which you don't experience yourself. I can give you passion, I can give you energy, I can give you my belief if I'm experiencing it. Big key as a speaker I'll give everybody: stop trying to convince everybody of what you're saying. That's not the threshold of being a good communicator. People do not need to believe what you're saying. They need to believe you believe what you're saying. And as long as they believe you believe what you're saying, you're an effective speaker. I stopped trying to get people to believe me. There's a neediness. There's a salesmanship to that. I stopped that. It's a subtle difference. I just want you to believe I believe it. That's influence. Influence is you believe I believe it.

If you want more Ed Mylett, check out the last top 10 I did on him. The link is right there next to me. I think you'll enjoy it. Continue to believe, and I'll see you there.

They're going broke trying to look rich. I'm constantly in a crisis to get to the next version of me.

You must become evangelical about your cause and your mission.