Focus On YOU For A Better LIFE

Good morning, Believe Nation. Today's message is focus on you first. Over to you, Jada Pinkett Smith. I wake up every morning with espresso, keep me going.

You have to take care of yourself in order to have the alignment and the power to take care of others at the capacity that we do. Because it fills the well. What I believe that I do takes so much energy, so much work from heart, spirit, and creativity that I have to be responsible enough to take care of me. Because you know what happens? Imbalance comes and you know what happens? I look to you, Willow, and I say, "Willow, you've got to do this because if you don't, you become—" I start looking towards you. I start making you responsible for my happiness. And a lot of times, you know what we do? We look to our men, we look to our husbands and our boyfriends and we go, "You! I've given all this up for you and you've got to make this right by me and you're supposed to make me happy." Because we've lost our way on how to make ourselves happy. We lost our way. So what I had to do and what I had to learn was how to get more balanced. And over the years, each year, each day, I get more and more and more and more in balance, more and more and more in alignment. And you know what? I get more and more happy. And the very thing that I thought would make you unhappy or make Jaden unhappy or make Daddy unhappy actually is fulfilling for you guys as well. Even though you might, it might not be a tangible reason, but the more happy I am and the more fulfilled I am, it works for the family. And when I'm not, it doesn't. It's really that simple.

I love this message and I agree that a lot of people expect their happiness to come from others and we blame other people for not giving us the happiness that we need in our lives. And if I put that in an entrepreneurial context, a lot of times we spend too much time focusing on external factors, blaming other people for our dissatisfaction, for where we are not quite at yet in your— in our businesses. If you're not happy with where you're at right now, if you have not reached the goals that you want to reach, the way to break through is to accept the responsibility and to not blame other people for it. It's a theme that I've covered multiple times on the channel, and I get that it's hard because the easy thing to do is to blame somebody else, to blame your parents, to blame the government, or, you know, blame your business partner who screwed you over, or blame somebody else. The easy thing is to blame somebody else. It's not your fault. That's the easy thing to do. But when you can realize that it's up to you, that the cavalry is not coming, that you need to accept that responsibility for where you're at in your business, that if you're not as far along as you want to be, it's because you haven't done the work yet, or because your product or service isn't valuable enough yet, or you haven't invested enough in yourself to be that person yet. And when you realize that, when you truly accept that responsibility, 2 things happen. The first is sadness, is maybe a bit of despair, is uncomfortableness because the fear starts to creep in as to whether you have the abilities to be that person. It's way easier to blame somebody else, but now that it's on me, I'm not being successful because of me, then you start thinking, do I have the ability to do it? Can I do it? Can I be that person? Do I have the skills? Do I want to put in the work to actually become that person who leads this business to success? The second part is, is empowering, because once you get through all of that realization that it's scary and that's gonna be a lot of hard work, it's empowering because you have an answer. Because at the end of blame, at the end of complaining, there is no answer. The answer is just to blame that person, but you never make the progress that you need to make. Where if you understand that it's up to you, that you've accepted that responsibility, then yes, it's gonna be a lot of hard work. Yes, you're gonna be putting in an insane number of hours to make yourself a a better leader, a better entrepreneur, a better person. But it's under your control, and that's empowering, and that will let you get to where you need to be. And so if you ever find yourself saying you can't do something, if you ever find yourself blaming something or complaining about something, try to catch yourself. Try to stop in that moment and realize that this is not the correct action and that you need to take accountability and responsibility for where you're at right now, and that you choose not to do that, whether it's in the best interest or not. And once you start making better choices, you'll start having better outcomes. So the question of the day today is, how much do you focus on you first? Leave in the comments below. I'm gonna join in the discussion. Finally, I want to give a quick shout out to Mr. Mo from MrMo.be. Mr. Mo, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book. If you guys watching, if you want a chance at a shout out in a future video, make sure to grab a copy of the book and email in your receipt so we can keep track. Thank you guys again for watching. Have an amazing day. Continue to believe, or whatever your one word is, and I'll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso. And it's not an easy solution. Hayden. Hayden?