"How do you even KNOW that you are ALIVE right now?" ft. @DanielEisenman - #UnlockingLily Ep. 19

One of the fastest ways that humanity as a whole can take a quantum leap in living more limitlessly is listening to what they say.

So here is a simple yet powerful way to get started right now.

I think that really an advanced person understands that like this nervousness or anxiety is actually an amazing thing.

Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Unlocking Lilly. So I believe that this world would be a better place if we all just embrace who we truly are. Evan is currently an investor in my business and he's mentoring me to help me build my coaching and speaking practice. And I'm so incredibly honored to have all of you guys come with me on my startup journey. I'm always looking for ways to grow and connect with like-hearted people so I could learn from them, and then I'm going to take those lessons and share it with my coaching clients as well as the audiences I speak in front of. So today I am I'm going to learn from keynote speaker, coach, and author Daniel Eisenman. So I was introduced to Daniel through Evan, and that's the thing, when you vocalize what it is that you need help with, people around you would naturally conjure up ideas to help you. Over the past decade, Daniel has hosted these epic retreats in the most beautiful places in the world. His Om Daddy video has been shared by various sources and platforms and has approximately 100 million views.

Her life and being a failure in his house.

Aww, isn't Davina just the sweetest little baby? So, here's my interview with Daniel as we sit down to talk about how we can all live more limitlessly. Enjoy!

I wanna talk about your journey a little bit, Daniel. From what I've seen from your YouTube channel, I discovered you through your YouTube channel, and I found your coaching, your quantum consults, that's what you call it, so interesting because your approach is very different. Your approach is very much about feeling the person through and sensing what they're saying. It's never from a place of judgment. It's always from a place of love and care. And I want to find out from you, how did your journey begin? Were you always like this, or did something happen to cause this change?

That's a great question. I've recently realized this about myself, that I have a very low tolerance for limited thinking or limited perceiving. And I've realized that when I honor that, like, when I honor that low tolerance or honor that frustration, just as if, you know, someone has zero tolerance to alcohol, it's probably good to not know not to drink too much alcohol. For me, being around limited thinking, I just get very uncomfortable and not the fun comfortable. What happens is when I speak up about like, that's true for you, if it's with a quantum consultation, it's with a family member, it's with a client, whether it's a retreat, it's just that I'm almost like— I bought Chiropractor of Consciousness yesterday because I do believe I am able— like misalignments with someone's highest self is obvious to me. The more that I speak up about that, the stronger this journey gets. It seems like the more people that want to do a quantum consultation, the more people that want to read my book. It's like by being with that tension and expressing why I might be frustrated or tense with someone that's projecting limitations onto other people, by speaking up, that's when my journey continuously begins. By honoring that gift that I have, that perception I have for seeing people's obvious misalignments and then doing something about it, taking action on that.

I see it too. As a coach, I see that people are holding themselves back, and a lot of it is conditioned limited beliefs. So for you, where do you think it comes from? Where do you think people's limitations come from?

Oh, I think at first it's like a natural safety mechanism. So I'll use a metaphor of certain types of fish. Like if a fish or a human that's on scuba goes way deep, way deep in the ocean, and they come up too fast without acclimating properly, it's extremely dangerous. So I do think some— that how I, I do, like, a deeper belief of mine is however everything that everyone is doing is the best for everyone, regardless of what I think or regardless of what I do. And when I do intervene, I'm like, hey, you know, like, um, a lot of times people speak projected limitations in the 'you' statement. They speak in second person. Like, so if someone believes, you know, you have to do this before you make this much money, I simply— one of the main things that I'm just giving a clear example, when I hear that type of language, one of the main things I ask people is like, can you say that in first person and see if you believe that less or more? I would say 98% of people that are willing to do that realize that anything they speak in a limiting fashion is actually less true when they speak about in the first tense. It was easier to say you. It was easier to say you. So I do think there's a natural growth rate that's best for everyone. However, I do think culture and specifically languaging has been leveraged by people that understand how to live powerfully, and they've taken advantage of other people that don't understand that. And whether it's conscious or not, I think 98% of the people in the past speak spells of limitations over their existence without being aware they're doing it. So one of my main things is getting people to like, including myself, I want to be on this interview and everything and all ways I communicate. I want to be able to accurately report my experience like I'm journaling my life out loud. Like this is my diary. Welcome to it. And that's how I— when I ask other people to live that way, I think they get more true with their highest potential rather than living up to the standards of culture. And a lot of the standards of culture are so snuck into language. Like, I'm honest, like, I don't know who else is going to watch this, but where in the world did people— when did people start saying you when they meant I?

How do we all live more limitlessly?

That's a good question. I think partly, and I think the Bible, one of the, I guess, the most distributed book in the world, pretty much starts with describing how reality was spoken before it was created. I'm a big believer in breathwork or breathplay, aka the Om Daddy, bringing more awareness to my breath. I love oming. I love getting high on oxygen. I can literally do that and I can go to space, basically. I can go deep into inner space by manipulating my breath. One of the— I think the most overlooked ways of breathwork is our speaking, is manipulating our breath into words that are empowering rather than limiting. So I believe one of the fastest ways that humanity as a whole can take a quantum leap in living more limitlessly is listening to what they say. Listen— like, I listen to what I say And if I realize what I said was not the best spell, like if I didn't spell out that, like with my words, didn't make the best spell for myself when I was speaking, I will upgrade my spell. That's how I do it. And that's how I imagine. And earlier in the interview, when you asked, what do I mean by I'm nothing and everything? I do believe like we're all connected, like we are all cells to the same body or leaves to the same tree in some way. Whenever I'm meeting someone and if they're not living up to or if I have a bubbling in my heart like, "Oh my gosh, this person just projected the spell in a we statement and I don't even think it's true for them. It's definitely not true for me." I usually follow my heartbeat. The heartbeat that's like the scariest and exciting at the same time. That's when I personally realize it's time for me to speak up when I feel that flutter in my heart. I let my heartbeat guide my way. And then I listen to what I say.

There you go.

I think I answered. I think that's my response. How can we get humanity to live more limitlessly? I said, listen to what I say and let my heartbeat guide my way. That's how I do it.

I wanted to find out from you, with all the folks that you worked with, what do you do in that situation with people feel like— people say to you that I'm just not feeling it? I don't know what it is that I'm supposed to listen to.

Okay, cool. Yeah. So I think, and this is a big part of the book, Breaking Normal, noticing versus imagining. I think getting real clear on— I believe, and I've asked this to a lot of people, like, what's the number one way that you know you're alive right now? And in the sense that this is not like a sleeping dream. Because have you ever been in a dream and you thought it was real?

Yes, I have. Yes.

How do you know this is not a dream? I don't know. Yeah, I don't know either.

I'm not sure. My mind is blown. I don't know.

All right, so I think that one of the best ways in this inception of this dream life that we find ourselves in, to distinguish our waking dream versus our sleeping dream, is our sensations in our body. So like right now, I can sense the sweat under my armpit. I can sense like a little from holding Davina on this side. I'm imagining what it is. That's an imagination. I don't know why my back is feeling this way, but I feel a twinge in my back. I can feel the sensations of my feet touching the ground, my butt sitting on the bed. I can feel like my body temperature rising. Basically, I've found it super helpful to distinguish between my noticings versus my imagination. The sensation, like think of the 5 sensory experiences that we can have. Touching, hearing, tasting, smelling, seeing. When I focus on that's my reality, that's my like, okay, that's the most objective reality. That's how I can relate to every human being. If I say I have heat in my, or my heart rate is increasing, every human can relate to that. If I say I'm nervous, I don't know if me and you experience nervousness in the same way. I don't know if me and you experience fear the same way. I would actually say one of the biggest differences between people, like the, let's say, the 2% that have control of most of the amount of money, or the game changers, or the successful people, they basically, whatever sensations in their body that 98% of people think is fear or nervousness, they get excited and they have fun with that. That's like the main difference. It's like the person is able to follow that, like, that increase in the heart rate versus the person that runs away from it. And I don't think, like, true suffering is experiencing those sensations. It's more closely linked to avoiding those sensations. So I think by speaking in the way that I distinguish my sensations versus my imagination helps me to realize when I'm coming from a headspace versus a reality space. Because our imaginations are amazing. They can create new realities, especially if we continuously speak about it and focus on it.

A lot of the work that I do is I step on stage and I speak in front of a lot of people. And I used to be, I used to call it, I'm feeling so nervous all the time. It's like, oh my God, I'm so nervous. And even when you're sitting in the back room with other speakers, you ask each other, it's like, so how are things going? And everyone's like, oh my God, I'm so nervous. And that kind of energy, that it's like that nervousness, it goes into our heads like, oh my God, I'm not enough. I shouldn't, I should have prepared more. What is happening here? So recently what I started doing is really just connecting with the sensation and not labeling it anything. At all and not labeling it as this is a wrong emotion that I'm feeling. I kind of— I expanded my spectrum of my emotions. So, and I found it very, very helpful because I used to be the kind of person that, um, I kind of enjoyed a little bit anxiety because I felt like it gave me an edge. And then anytime that I was calm, I would feel like, oh, I'm losing my edge. And I was just labeling emotions, like some as good, some as bad. And I realized that I just had to connect with the sensations and not label it anything. So is that similar to what you're saying?

Oh, so much so. And I'll go a little farther. This is where I would say, like, the difference between tapping our inner spring rather than, like, drinking the fluoridated water approved by the authorities. Fitting in, being normal, being afraid of awkwardness and anxiety and nervousness is very normal. It's very built into language, and I think that's changing by breaking normal. I think that really an advanced person understands that this nervousness or anxiety is actually an amazing thing. It is so profound. It's the feeling of tapping a spring. It's in the sense that When there's a spring tap, there's a lot of mud and dirt that gets out of the way. It's very dirty. It might be a dirty process in the beginning, but once the spring is flowing, it's flowing. And that's where I think the best speakers in the world— and probably I'm imagining, you can let me know— I bet some of your best speeches were probably when you were almost blacked out and embracing the awkwardness or embracing the anxiety, like you said. Because what I found is when I embrace these things that a lot of people that I have been culturally conditioned to fear, that I actually become sharper. An energy beyond my mind seems to be partnering with me. Things— I start saying things I didn't plan and they were better than I could have planned. I was like, "What did I just say and where is this coming from?" I think it's coming from surrendering to the sensations in my body and actually increasing them. So I would encourage you, myself, anyone that's watching this and they're in that stage where they might be a little scared of being anxious or avoiding that, to start next time you feel anxiety, whatever that is, or nervousness, to find out where that's in your body. And it's most likely going to be in someone's throat or their chest, their heart space or their throat space or their armpits or their eyes might jitter or their finger, their hands might do this or their palms might sweat and just to increase that as much as possible. And I think what will happen, like, ask your body, can you increase my heart? How much can I increase my heart rate? How much can I sweat in my armpits? How much can I tremble? How much can my voice shake when I'm speaking? But I found it actually subdues it and a new, like a new higher energy comes in. And then I'm a steward to that. Like I'm partnered with a very pure, clean spring water type of energy.

I hope you enjoyed the interview and found it inspirational. And at the same time, I don't want it just to be a theory for you. I want to make sure that you apply it in your life so that way you can start living more limitlessly. So here is a simple yet powerful way to get started right now. So in the interview, Daniel talks about listen to what you say and let your heart lead the way. What is that one thing that makes your heart pound really fast? Something that is outside of your comfort zone, so it's a little bit scary, but at the same time you know that this is something that you really want to do. And also understand that your words have power. What you say and how you say it could either limit you or empower you. So for example, many years ago I wanted to run these personal development workshops, but I was afraid because it was outside of my comfort zone. It was really scary for me, even though my heart kept on saying that this is something I really wanted to do. So I would constantly use words that would limit me. I would say things like, "I wish I could, but I don't have the time." And that's what kind of kept me down and held me where I was. And eventually I thought it was crazy. This is what my heart wants. I need to go out there and actually do it. So I replaced those limiting words with empowering ones. Instead of saying that I wish I could, but I don't have the time, I replaced it by saying, I am going to run these workshops and I will make this a priority. And really, a month later, I ran those workshops. And by running those workshops, it eventually led to the opportunity of me starting a coaching practice and a speaking practice, and all sorts of opportunities opened up for me because I stopped using words that limit me. And this is a daily practice for me. Every time I feel like there's something that I really want to do to make my heart pound fast, I always say to myself that I am going to make this a priority. And it never steers me the wrong way, but it's a constant practice in really listening to what you say and letting your heart lead the way. So for you, what is that one thing that you want to focus on that makes your heartbeat really fast and it's outside of your comfort zone. And now think about this: use words as if you're writing a script to your dream life. And I have a special shout out for Zaino. Zaino, thank you so much for writing that really hilarious comment in my last episode.

I really appreciate the love.

Finally, the question of the day is: what is your definition of living a life that is limitless? Write in the comments below and I'll be sure to join in on the discussion. Thank you so much for watching and more importantly being on this journey with me. I feel like I'm learning, growing, and changing and it gives me the comfort in knowing that all of you guys are there with me every step of the way. So thank you so much again and I will see you very, very soon. Bye-bye.

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