How To Be Super Woman Like Lilly Singh | Top 10 Rules

If you lie down at night and you are not utterly exhausted, then you, my friend, do not want it bad enough. You have every single thing you need to do whatever you need to do, and the only person stopping you is you. Even if two people are doing the exact same thing, they're not gonna do them in exactly the same way. It's unpossible! You need to find people to work with that work harder than you, okay? When you're in a room with them, you feel guilty because they're working so hard, and you're like, "Holy crap, I need to get my ish together." She's a Canadian YouTube personality, vlogger, comedian, actress, and rapper.

Since starting her YouTube channel in 2010, her videos have gained over 1.5 billion views. In 2016, Forbes listed her as number 8 on the highest paid YouTube stars in the world. She's Superwoman Lilly Singh, and here's my take on her top 10 rules for success. Rule number 1 is my personal favorite, and make sure to stick around all the way to the end for some special special bonus clips. Also, as Lilly's talking, if she says something that really resonates with you, please leave it in the comments below and put quotes around it so other people can be inspired as well.

Enjoy! What up everyone, it's your girl, Superwoman! Real name Lilly Singh, and you may or may not know me, but either way, right now that is absolutely irrelevant because I am exactly like I have so many dreams in life and so many things that I want to do that it both excites me and stresses me out. I've had my heart broken so many times and I'm totally terrified of growing up. I have so many things to do on my to-do list and I tell myself I'm going to do them, but then I spend more time making my to-do list than doing things. Pshh! And I'm totally content in life until I jump onto Facebook and see another status about someone getting engaged. Oh! Now I'm eating a Mars bar and Googling pictures of Beyoncé and Jay-Z. And let's just say, although I'm not their daughter, I'm still feeling blue. I get it! Humans! We're all the same, yet we're so different. Now speaking of dreams and passions, one of my passions is to spread positivity. That's what I hope to do in these few minutes to you, my friend. So it has come to my attention that a lot of people in the world want to become something. They want to achieve something, they want to reach some sort of goal. Everyone, whether it's I want to be an actor or actress, I want to open my own business, I want a six-pack, I want a Bugatti. Everyone wants something, anything, everything. You, for example, just take a second, think about what you want in life. What do you want to become? What do you really, really desire? Think about it. You got it in your brain, okay. Okay, so you're thinking about it. Good, good, good. Now keep in mind that there's so many other people in the world right now that claim they want something really, really bad, okay. Now the purpose of this video is for me to stand here and call you out and say, you don't want these things so badly because if you wanted them so badly, you'd be getting them. Now before you cuss me off and close this video, lemme bruh, bruh, bruh, bruh it down for you. If you lie down at night and you are not utterly exhausted, then you, my friend, do not want it bad enough. Because if you have a dream or a goal and the concept of sleep sleep does not seem foreign to you, then you sleep too much. Because when you're trying to reach a goal, sleep should feel like a guilty pleasure, okay? You should go to sleep at night, when your head hits that pillow, with a straight 7, just straight up, "Praise the Lord, I'mma get some Z's." And here's the thing, right? I hear people complaining all the time about being broke, not achieving their goals, nothing ever goes their way. But then those are the same people that go to sleep 'cause they're too tired, stop working 'cause they're too lazy, can't drive to a meeting 'cause it's too far, can't network with people because they don't like them. Who can't finish a project because the game is on. Who can't take on a challenge because it's too much work. So to you I say, hi, hello, welcome to the real world where as hard as you think you're working, there's many people working 10 times harder than you. So let me just ask you a question. Why do you feel that you deserve success? Why do you deserve to reach new heights and achieve great things? Because this is the reality of the situation. You can be doing anything. Say you're a musician and you wake up and you spend hours and hours and hours practicing and working on music. And then at night when you're tired, you go to sleep and you're like, you know what, I've worked really hard. That somewhere out there, there's another musician who's choosing to stay up that one extra hour and that is putting in more grind than you, my friend. AKA, what I'm trying to tell you is all these people who have dreams and say they want to become something and say the world is against them, sweetie, the world isn't against you, okay? Your excuses are against you. So hi, hello, my name is Lilly. I go by the name of Superwoman. If you don't know me, now you do and we're friends, what's up? Shh, ka-pitch, la-la-la-la, pew. Whoever you are, whether you know me or not, watch my videos or not, even if you're seeing me for the first time, you have a dream, you want to achieve something. Stop watching this video, stop. Okay, well, watch the video. Ain't no harm in watching the video. Watch the video, but after this video, okay? Achieve something. How do you know not to touch the stove when it's on? Chances are when you were younger, you burnt yourself a few times, and now you know if you touch it, it's gonna hurt. But how would you know that if you didn't burn yourself in the first place? As humans, we learn through mistakes. How do you know how to walk? Because when you were a toddler, you fell on your butt a couple hundred times. Now that concept doesn't change over time. From the moment you are born to the moment you die, you will always learn things because you effed things up. Or because someone hurt you. Look back. Honestly, take a second and look back at every lesson you've ever learned, and I can guarantee you that lesson is founded on strong mistakes, heartache, tears, and a whole lot of other sad things. If you've learned who to trust, it's probably because someone has lied to you. And if you've learned how to be positive, it's probably because you've been negative. And if you have the app Find My iPhone on your iPhone, it's probably because you lost your iPhone. So when you make a mistake or you fail or you're heartbroken, yeah, cry. Be sad about it, that's okay. But also be 10% happy because yo, this is gonna teach you something amazing that will help you in the future. There is a huge silver lining to everything. Everything. Picture it as exercise for your soul. The biggest mistake people make in life is thinking that their brain controls them when really they control their brain. Let me show you right now. Touch your nose. No, no, stop what you're doing right now. Just touch your nose. Did you touch it? You touched it, right? Congratulations! But OMG, how did you do that? You did that because you told your brain you wanted to touch your nose. So question for you: why is it that when you're scared, upset, or angry, suddenly you can't do things? Because my question is, how can you not do things when you're in total control of yourself? Because can I be real with you? You can do whatever you want to do as soon as you stop making excuses and start taking ownership. Touch your nose, complete a task, same dos him. But hold up, okay, let's be real. This is YouTube and we all know at least one person's gonna comment below being like, "Okay, well what if my hands are tied behind my back and there's a hurricane inside of a world war and my dog ate my homework? I'm not in control then." And this is where I'm gonna reference my good friend Mr. Bob Marley who says, "None but ourselves can free our mind." Because although there are CEOs, there are parents, and there are presidents, no one in this world has more power more power over you and your mind than you. Now don't get me wrong, homie, okay? You may have difficult circumstances indeed, but that's perfect, okay? That's why you have such an amazing mind and soul. But you gotta remember, even though your mind and soul are amazing, that doesn't mean they don't get hurt. And when they get hurt, you gotta remember that negatives aren't forever. Because let's be real, baby, how many times have you taken a negative and developed it into a beautiful picture? And if you can't remember, let me remind you. Remember when you were younger and you lost your best friend? Or when your dog died? Or when your fish died? Or last week when your favorite Game of Thrones character died and you were like, 'Life is terrible, I'm never getting over this.' Hi, hello, you're still here. Eh, you're still existing, I see you. That's because everything you ever thought you couldn't overcome, you've overcome. So logically, it's a bit ridiculous for you to assume that you can't do things when you've in fact been doing them. You have every single thing you need to do whatever you need to do, and the only person stopping you is you. In life, people will hate on what you do, and this is my take on it. It's not natural to be like, "Oh, I'm gonna go on this girl's video and write she's a whore, da da da." That's not a natural thing to do. The only reason someone would do that is because they're dealing with their own insecurities. If someone doesn't like something, they could easily ignore it, but when people feel the need to go out of their way and comment on Twitter, YouTube, and Facebook, this just means that they're just really freaking insecure. And if you do have haters, which inevitably everybody will have, handle it like a boss. At the end of the day, all the people that wanna tweet their witty comments on Twitter, on Facebook, on YouTube, I'll never respond. Why? Because you're still watching what I'm doing. Underneath my video giving me a view, who's really winning? Even under this video, someone will write a hate comment. Many people will. Why? Because they're mad at what I'm saying right now, and they're mad that I'm calling them out. They feel bad about themselves, and they wish they could wear a winter hat in the middle of summer, and they wish they had, you know, this friggin— where is it— pimple right here. They wish they did. They would— you wish you did. You have a hater that's super annoying and was like And you have a hater that's super annoying and like just keeps bothering you, just agree with them and tell them to shut the fuck up. Dude, how did you know I'm a whore? How did you know? How could I not have noticed that I'm black? I feel so stupid. I can't believe you knew I was black and I didn't. Oh my god, you're right. I do eat curry and I am smelly. I'm gonna go take a shower and Febreze. Everyone says they're working, but I believe 1% of people are actually working. The other 99% of people are just making to-do lists. To-do lists. And to-do lists are great, unless you're doing them wrong, in which case they're totally pointless. Because some people out here treating to-do lists like they're vision boards, like effin' bucket lists, like effin' life goals. Tell me if you can relate. Have you ever made a to-do list that looks like this? Finish essay. Read chapters 1 through 5. Buy new jacket. Respond to all emails in inbox. Clean room. Find true love. Grow hair so I can do that cute braid. Learn to play chess. Get six-pack. And if that's what your to-do list looks like, you, my friend, need to calm the eff down, okay? Post-its aren't genies. They don't make wishes come true. Aladdin took place in Agrabah, not effin' Office Depot. And I know, I know, when you're making a to-do list, it's so tempting to think you're invincible and you're gonna do all this stuff today, okay? You've been writing your to-do list and it looks like the effin' lyrics to Rihanna and Drake's new song. It's like, "Work, work, work, work, work." Just be real. I find the key is to have two to-do lists. One for things you're gonna do today, aka before you sleep, and one for longer-term goals. Example: today, read chapter 1. Longer-term goal: read chapters 1 through 5. If you want, you can even have a third list called LOL where you write things like find true love. So yo, check this out, right? I'm about to blow your mind. No one on this planet is crazy in the same way that you are crazy. No one is you. No one has the same characteristics as you, which means no one can do exactly what you do. Even if two people are doing the exact same thing, they're not gonna do them in exactly the same way. It's impossible. Two dancers can't dance dance exactly the same. Two artists can't paint exactly the same. Two doctors will not heal people in exactly the same way. That's just the bloody facts, okay? And I know what you're thinking, what the eff, Lilly, why you being so Tumblr? Let me explain though. If no one can be exactly like you, that means it doesn't make any sense for you to compete with other people. The only person you have to compete with is the older version of yourself. Ah, stay with me. You are going to succeed.

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You are going to succeed because the world is waiting for what you have to offer because no one else can offer exactly what you have to offer. And if you don't work hard and you waste that opportunity, it's like you didn't show up to a job interview that you already had in the bag. So don't be dumb, yo, don't be dumb. My camera. You know, I see people stressing all the time about this, about that, and about problems in their life, and I'm here to just keep it real and say, your problems are so important, but really they're not important at all. And let me explain. Something might be bothering you right now, and that's totally cool. It is important in your life, and no one else will understand it. That's fine, but baby, look around. Life is waiting for you to live it. So go ahead, smile, be happy, make a new friend, take a trip, treat yourself, get up, randomly dance right now. So be happy because I promise you, as important as your problems are, they are not nearly as important as all the good things you got going on. I'm sure this is not the first time you've heard this, but it is significantly easier to get work done when you're surrounded by like-minded people. In fact, that is almost half of the reason I moved to LA. But this is not about me, This is about you. That doesn't mean you gotta move to another country. I mean, you can if you want to, but you don't gotta. But I mean, if you in LA, yo, hit me up. If you're lucky, the people who hustle and motivate you are your friends, but can I be honest? They're likely not. I bet your friends are so great at holding your hair back while you puke, at eating pizza with you, at gossiping with you, taking ugly selfies with you, hanging out with you, watching movies with you. Great, do all that stuff with them. But if they're not great at working with you, why are you with them? Them when you're trying to get work done. You need to find people to work with that work harder than you, okay? When you're in a room with them, you feel guilty because they're working so hard. You're like, holy crap, I need to get my ish together. And if that's not your friends, then so be it. That means it's okay to say, hey, no, you can't come over because I have work to do. Different people work in different situations. Feel confident. Dress to impress yourself. When you leave the house, look at the mirror, look at yourself, and if you don't go Damn, then you need to change. Feel like a million bucks, and that doesn't mean you have to spend a million bucks. You don't need that Gucci Gucci, Fendi Fendi, Prada Prada. You can be rocking that straight $7.25 from Walmart and still be hella hot. I'm saying make sure when you leave the house you're dressed in an outfit that you feel confident in. If you're worrying about your crack showing and, you know, your boobie popping out and, you know, your pants being too tight or too loose or something, you're not gonna feel confident. You need to feel sexy, you need to feel hot, you need to feel smokin'. And everyone is beautiful in their own way, so don't give me no BS about, "I'm ugly and my hair is ugly and my skin is ugly and my—" What the hell was that? "And my skin is ugly and just everything." No, everyone is beautiful in their own way, so don't give me that crap. Okay? That means you just need to connect with your inner swag and get it poppin'. Alright. So you're sitting there, standing there, lying there, watching this video, and life has beaten the crap out of you. I'm talking straight black eye status. You're crippled emotionally and mentally scarred. People have hurt you. It's just happened. You lost your boyfriend, you lost your girlfriend, you lost your job. Life has kicked you in the genitals over and over and over and over, and you just cannot take it. You give up. I get it. I do. I know what that feels like. And so I'm here to tell you to get the hell back up. If you fall 899 times, you get back up 900 times. Trust me, I fall all the time. I was falling for most of my life. If I fell on Monday, on Tuesday, the sun still rose. And if I fell on Wednesday, on Thursday, the sun still rose. Because you know why? It doesn't matter if you're miserable or not. The world doesn't care if you're in a good mood or if you're happy. The sun will always still rise the next day. And you, my friend, will be left behind. So brother, sister, from the heart, get back up! And do it for you. And let me tell you what I mean by that. If everyone went out and tried to seek revenge on everyone who hurt them, the world would be a hot mess. More so than it already is. I would have killed Fido by now. I would have been a compulsive liar. I definitely would have bombed RIM's headquarters. I'd be a player. I'd be a crappy friend. And I would backstab people just for fun. Straight Friday the 13th status, just, yah! Yeah! Yeah! But no because two wrongs do not make a right and a lot of people ask me Lily is the reason you work so hard and try to succeed because you want to prove all those people wrong? All those people that hurt you and said you couldn't do it. Do you wanna make them feel stupid? And my answer honestly genuinely is no. My success should not be driven by the need to make other people feel stupid. What would I accomplish by that? But you know what my success is driven by? The need to prove myself correct. I want to prove myself wrong. Because back in the day, yes, people did hurt me. They hurt me so bad. Trust me, I know what that hurt feels like. But do I want to prove them wrong? No. I want to prove myself wrong. Because for a moment, I did feel worthless. I did feel like I wasn't good enough. So I want to prove that Lilly wrong. That old Lilly. Lilly, fuck you. I will prove you wrong. I don't need to define my goals by proving other people wrong, and neither do you. So don't keep in mind all the people that hurt you to seek revenge on them. No, just remember how they made you feel and prove that wrong because you're better than that. And if along the way a few people feel dumb, so be it. So this is just my video to tell you I know stuff happens in life. People fall, there's ups and downs. You may feel worthless, pathetic right now. You may have given up, but I'm here to tell you to get back up and do it for yourself.

Thank you guys so much for watching. I made this video because Melvin Johnson asked me to. So if there's a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile next, Just leave it down in the comments below and I'll see what I can do. I'd also love to know what did Lily say that had the biggest impact on you? What message really meant the most to you that you're going to immediately apply to your business or life? Leave it in the comments and I'm going to join in the discussion. Finally, I want to give a quick shout out to Marisha Rodriguez, Rishi Cup TV. Thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book and sharing it on Facebook. I really, really, really, really appreciate it. So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love, I'll see you soon.

You know when you're pissed off or having a bad day and you just feel like the universe is against you and everything's going wrong? Let me break it down to you, okay? The universe does not give an F about you, my friend. Nobody cares to piss you off. Uh, hello, who do you think you are, Mother Nature? Zeus, Gandalf, friggin Dumbledore, they have other ish to do, okay? They're not spending their time plotting against you. Ain't nobody got time for that. It's simple. If you want to have a good day, act like a good person. What, you think you could just be rude, ignorant, and be obnoxious to everyone and they're gonna treat you well? You should write a book. How to be dummy for dummies. Homie, let me break it down for you. If you send out bad vibes by lying, cheating, stealing, anything making fun of people, gossiping, posting a hate comment under my YouTube videos. You, my friend, are putting your focus, energy, and attention on negativity. So throughout your day, what do you think you're gonna recognize? Pfft! You're gonna notice that fat girl, that idiot guy, that scratch on your car, that person that cut you off, and you're gonna totally ignore that fine guy, that person that held the door open for you, or your old friend that you haven't seen in 10 years walk right by you. But not to fear, you might be stressed out, you might be thinking, my God, Lilly, how can I send out good vibes? Lilly, tell me which number I should text to message a good vibe. Because you're so used to being a schmoozer face. It's really simple. Stop right now. Pick up your phone. Send a nice text message to someone. Tweet someone a compliment. @IISuperMyEye, just saying. Message an old friend. Go hug your family. You know what? Stop the video right now. Stop the video right now. Pause the video. Pause the video. I'll wait right here. Go ahead. Are you back? Are you back? Okay. Well, now that you're listening to me anyways, click thumbs up, like the video. Coup. Moving on. I think one of the messages I'm very big on in my show is I don't like to say things that are cliché or cute and adorable. I like to be real, you know? I tell my audience that some people wish for their dreams and other people work for their dreams. Be the person who works for your dreams. It's not going to be pretty, it's not going to be cute, it's not going to be fun all the time. It just is going to take a lot of hard work, and I encourage you all to do that. You know, it's not enough to dream a dream. You got to work for it. Always, every day. Every day. From the very beginning. From the very beginning, I'm a South Asian female making videos. I mean, I get racism and sexism and everything combined. Of course, I think no matter what you put online, there's gonna be controversy. I've learned very quickly on the internet you cannot please everyone. I have a video called "10 Reasons to Smile," and there's still dislikes on it. So I mean, that's an indication that no matter what you do, people will dislike it. And there's been controversy over, you know, me being an Indian female talking about relationships and talking about kissing and talking about those things. And I just— the best I can do is do what I think is right, and that's what I'm doing.