How to Break Free from Limiting Beliefs | Expert Advice in 70 Minutes

Everything is possible, you know, when you believe. That's the kind of kicker— you have to believe. But it's not that hard, it's really pretty easy. Our belief creates our entire life experience. And so you can't— if I put it this way— you can't experience anything in life that is outside of your own beliefs. So, and that's, that's the case for every single one of us. We really can't experience anything that's outside of our beliefs. If we can't experience anything that's outside of our beliefs, what that means is— look at all those hearts, that's so beautiful— what that means is there's not really one world. We kind of think there's one world, but there isn't really, because we're all experiencing a world based on our beliefs, and not one of us has the same beliefs. Not one of us. So that means there's a different world for every one of us. So all of your beliefs are held in your subconscious mind, and the subconscious mind is just a part of your mind. There's the conscious mind, and then there's the subconscious mind, which is actually higher than the conscious mind. And so we use our conscious mind, we with all of the thoughts and everything that we have. Our conscious mind is very present, right? And so to create anything, you are using your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is what is really what creates. If I want to make it really, really simple, then I would say your subconscious mind is what creates. It makes things appear. And manifest things. And that's where all of your beliefs are stored. Kind of neat, huh? Because you have to believe to manifest something, and your subconscious mind creates everything. So you can see it's all kind of perfectly designed. Um, so now to manifest, you have to believe, and you have to believe that you already have whatever it is that you want. And the reason that you have to believe you have it already is because the subconscious mind is only operating in the present. It can't reason. It's just like a program. So if you say, for example, um, a new car is coming, my new car is coming, I'm going to get a new car, it's coming, well then it's always going to be coming. Right? That's the, that's the thing. You have to imagine you have it now. You have to go off and you have to test drive the car. You've got to feel the car, smell the car, and just then visualize being in that car. And then when you do that, that's how, if you do that enough, that's how you'll come to believe that you actually have the car. And the moment that you believe, there's manifestations instantaneous. So, so the other ways to believe is to affirm over and over and over. Um, so to be really repetitive, for example, um, to visualize. And visualizing is incredibly powerful because when we close our eyes and we put ourselves in the picture— and you must make sure you're in the picture— and you put yourself in the picture with whatever it is that you want, and you close your eyes and you just kind of create this mini movie Honestly, the subconscious mind does not know that you're imagining it. Has no idea. It just sees that movie and recreates it. It's like a giant photocopying machine. It will just— whatever you hold in your mind, it will photocopy it, boom, into the world. So, um, so if you are thinking about something in the future, it's always going to be in the future. So you have to Imagine that you have it now. You have to act as if. And, um, for example, if you wanted to attract the perfect partner, are you acting as if your perfect partner's here already? And so there are just small things that you can do that are super, super powerful. For example, are you sleeping in the middle of your bed, or are you sleeping on one side of the bed because your partner's on the other side of the bed? Do you have room in your wardrobe for your perfect partner's clothes? Is there room in your bathroom for their toothbrush and for their things? And so you see, they are just little things. You can set the table for two. You don't have to put food on the plate, but just setting the table for two is really, really powerful. It's saying my perfect partner's here already, and the subconscious mind will believe it, and your perfect partner will be attracted to you through the most incredible circumstances. So If something hasn't manifested yet and you really, really want it, and I doubt there's anybody out there who wants something and it hasn't manifested, right? I mean, I'll tell you the reason why it hasn't manifested is because you don't believe you have it.

Hey, it's Evan Carmichael, and this channel was created to help you overcome the number one challenge that is holding you back. A lack of belief in yourself. You watch these videos because you know you've got something more inside you. You've got Michael Jordan level genius at something. So today, let's live your best believe life and learn how you can magnetize yourself towards money.

Enjoy.

Rule number 2: Stop forcing outcomes with Gabby Bernstein.

True manifesting is about receiving what is of the highest good for all. This is probably one of the most profound ways to look at life. When we stop expecting things to be the way that we think they should be, when we stop forcing outcomes, and when we start allowing what is of the highest good to be our only agenda, our only intention, that's when the universe truly has our back. That's when we can live what it means to surrender. True surrender comes when we stop praying for what we think we need and we start connecting and grounding in what could possibly be of the highest good for all. And when we stop praying for what we think we need and we start allowing what is of the highest good for all. So true manifesting is about receiving what is of the highest good for all. And it begins not just with what will, how will I get what is of the highest good, but how can I be open to what is of the highest good? How can I open up my consciousness to release what I think I need and get grounded in what is possible and what is of the highest good, not just for me and my agenda, but the highest good for all. That's the message. So, You're doing everything right in that you are open to a spiritual practice. You're willing to grow. You're showing up for your practice. You're reading books, you're doing the work. You're here on Dear Gabby. You're showing up, you're showing up, you're showing up. You're doing a lot of doing though. And you're also doing a lot of expecting. And so a lot of doing and a lot of expecting are two major blocks to your ability to attract what it is that you want into your life. And so it's the doing, doing, doing that actually creates sort of a manic manifesting vibration, which is, How do I get that? How do, what am I, what do I do next? Gotta do this thing next. Gotta do this thing next. And that lacks the belief system that I can be still and I can allow. That's number one. Number two, being in the expectation of what you think things should be is another block to your manifesting power and your super attractor power, which is what I call it, because your expectations are limiting the possibilities. Your expectations are limiting the highest good, as this card says. So when we start to pray for what is of the highest good, rather than intend and pray for what we think we need, that's when the universe can conspire with what it is that is of the highest good for all. So ultimately what's happening is all the doing, doing, doing is energetically blocking, and all the expecting, expecting, expecting is blocking the manifestation as well. Because when you're in this tunnel vision of expectation, it should be this way, I should be further along, I shouldn't be here, what's happening is you're missing the opportunity to recognize where you are, how great things are in this moment, what possible in this moment, the creative possibility in this moment, the exciting potential in this moment. You're blocking it, blocking it, blocking it, blocking it, blocking it, blocking it. I want you to sit on your ass. I want you to stop doing, doing, doing. I want you to start being, being, being, which is what you also said. You're actually Dear Gabbying yourself. You said, I wanna embody the feeling. I wanna embody the emotion. The being is a presence. It's an energy. It's a state. It's not an action. True manifesting does require us to show up for our desires. You know, you gotta pick up the phone and then call the job interview and you have to ask for the date and you have to do whatever it is that you wanna create. But ultimately the greatest source of power that we have to attract what we want is how we feel.

Rule number 3, train your brain with John Assaraf.

So many people ask me, is it possible to train your brain to help you make more money? And the answer is yes. So maybe I can share a story with you of how I started to train my own brain to help me make more money. And it started with setting some goals for the kind of lifestyle that I wanted to live. And my mentor, uh, Walter Schneider, many years ago, was a very, very successful businessman. And he said, in order to achieve your goals, he said, first you have to have the clarity of what they are. So let's say you have a financial goal of making, let's say, $100,000 a year. Okay, that's about $8,500 a month, or about, you know, $2,150 every week that you want to earn. And let's say you're not earning that right now. One of the things you can do to train your brain to help you make that amount of money is first and foremost, get clear on the exact amount you want to earn, whether it's per week, per month, or per year. That's step number 1. Step number 2, create a simple affirmation that goes like this: I am so happy and grateful for the fact that I am now earning $10,000 a month. Simple affirmation. And what I want you to do is I want you to read that affirmation every single morning 5 to 10 times, and every single night before you go to bed 5 to 10 times. And as you read that affirmation, I want you to close your eyes and I want you to practice, mentally rehearse you receiving that money in the form of a check or cash or in your bank account and see the money going into your bank account. I want you to feel what it feels like to consistently have $10,000 a month coming into your bank account. And you can choose whatever amount you want, by the way. And as you close your eyes and you visualize that money coming into your account, what I also want you to visualize is the impact that that amount of money will have on your life, your family's life, your friend's life, the community that you live in and the charities that you want to support. Get totally into a mental movie and the emotions as if you were a Hollywood actor or actress pretending that that was really happening. So you'd read your affirmation: I'm so happy and grateful for the fact that I am now earning $10,000 a month. And as you do that and you repeat that, mentally rehearse, visualize what what that looks like. And what that does is that primes your brain to see and feel as if it is real right now. And that activates the different parts of your brain, specifically the left prefrontal cortex, which is the genius CEO Einstein part of your brain that can actually help you figure out how to achieve that goal and dream. So if you do that in the morning and at night before bed— morning upon waking up, nighttime right before bed, you will start to prime your brain with an affirmation, with a mental rehearsal, and you will cognitively prime your brain. And if you want a bonus step, what I want you to do is take a vision board, either on your computer or a physical board, and cut out some pictures of what lifestyle earning $10,000 a month will allow you to live. What kind of car would you drive? What kind of places would you go vacation in? What kind of home would you live in? What kind of charities would you support? Get pictures of the outcome of earning $10,000 a month is, or $100,000 a year, and start to see yourself in that scenario and act as if it is real right now. And then every day, ask yourself a question: What can I do today to make that amount of income a reality? And take 1 or 2 action steps to towards making that a reality. So the physical actions in addition to the mental rehearsal with affirmations and mental rehearsals, visualizations, is one of the best ways to start priming your brain to achieve the financial goals you have.

Also, to make sure you're actually taking action after watching this video, I've designed a special free worksheet worksheet just for this video. The worksheet will highlight all the lessons learned in this video, as well as pull out our 3 favorite learnings and quotes that will inspire you to actually do something. The worksheet will also give you space to write down what your key takeaways are and your specific plan of action to make sure you're getting results. If you want the worksheet designed specifically for this video, absolutely for free, there's a link in the description below. Go click on it and start building the momentum in your life and your business.

I'll see you there.

Rule number 4: Have a vision with Jack Canfield. You can't be successful without a vision and being clear.

Well, you have to first take 100% responsibility for your life, give up being a victim. Then you have to get clear about what is my purpose. I believe each person has a purpose they were born with, whether it's to be a mechanic or a chef or to be a doctor or to be— do what we do, which is empowering and Enlightened people through the work we do. And so once you've got that, you have to have a clear vision of what would you like your life to look like, both in the business world, in your social world, in your relationships, your health and fitness, your travel and fun, all of that. So we have 7 areas of your life which we say, let's pretend that you can have anything you want, no holds barred. You know, God comes down and says, you're chosen, you won the lottery, you get the life you want, what would you do? And you go, oh, I'd like to live in this house, I'd like to live on the ocean. I want to have 3 kids. I want to be able to travel to Europe 5 times a year. You know, whatever it is, write it down. And then using things like visualization and affirmations, you can start turbocharging that vision with intention and then some of the tools that come out of the law of attraction work and so forth. But you first have to know where you're going. I liken it to a GPS system in a car. Here we are in Santa Barbara. You live in LA somewhere. Windy roads to get back here.

Yeah.

Yeah, but if you have a GPS that says 929 Via Frutteria or whatever, your GPS system will tell you how to get there. Now when you left LA, you did not know exactly where you were going. You just trusted a GPS to say turn left, turn right, turn left. Your subconscious mind works the exact same way. It is a programmable GPS system that will figure out the path if you program it correctly, which is putting in a vision of the destination. That's all you have to do.

Interesting, but a lot of people feel a lot of fear because they're of the unknown of what's gonna happen or that they might fail. If they have a big dream, right? So what is fear to you and how does someone overcome that fear?

Well, here's the deal. Basically fear is, I love this word, the guy who wrote the book Dune said fear is the mind killer. Fear takes you back into the amygdala, which is in the limbic system of your brain. You want to be in the prefrontal cortex, which is where the executive functions, where spiritual insights, where wisdom occurs, where rational, logical thinking occurs. So basically as soon as I get into fear, I go back into this primal fight or flight or freeze place. And so I want to be up here. So, you know, basically we now have technology called EFT tapping. I'm sure you know it.

Of course, Nick.

Nick Ordoner and all those guys. And literally 9 acupuncture points, you tap on those in a sequence for maybe 5 minutes, 7 minutes, and the fear disappears. It literally dissolves. There's absolutely no reason for anyone to be in fear. Now, the value of setting a goal is to watch all these fears come up. I refer to it as, you ever play the game whack-a-mole at the mall? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Heads come, you gotta whack 'em before they go back down. So we want to surface those fears so we can whack 'em using EFT and other technologies that are out there, neuro-linguistic programming and so forth. But now we have this science that just literally you don't have to be stopped. The other thing, a friend of mine just wrote a book called The Fear Cure, or The Cure for Fear, one of those. She talked about one of the biggest fears is of the unknown and uncertainty of the future. But everything's uncertain. We're trying to create certainty in an uncertain world and stop being afraid of uncertainty. Uncertainty is what's exciting. If you go to Africa on a vacation, a safari, you have no idea what's going to happen. That's part of the adventure.

It's fun.

That's part of the fun, exactly.

If you knew, oh, there's going to be a zebra that pops out right here, this is going to be next, it might get boring, right?

Or if you go river rafting, you don't know where the rapids are going to be. Where the rapids are and how you're going to do it. And if you go surfing, you don't know exactly how the wave's going to break and all that and how big it's going to be. So that adventure is really what life's about. So we need to be excited. Fear is created by imagining bad things that haven't happened yet. So fantasized experiences appearing real, everyone always says that. Someone else recently said, forget everything and run. But I think that if you realize that you're creating your own fear by imagining a bad thing, oh, if there's a recession, I'll lose my house. Why not go? If there was a recession, I'm gonna make more money because there's gonna be opportunities and we're gonna be able to pay our house off faster. Zig Ziglar said worrying is negative goal setting, and all you have to do is use that same power to think and visualize to create a positive outcome instead of a negative, and then the fear disappears.

And a quote of yours, I believe, is in the book, as you say, everything you want is on the other side of fear.

Absolutely. You know, we all live in our comfort zone. We want to be comfortable. When I was down in the rainforest a couple years ago, with the Achuar Indians. I always wanted to go to the rainforest ever since I heard—

How was it?

It was so cool. It was really cool. We got to live with the Achuar Indians, which is an indigenous tribe which is, you know, had not had any connection with white people from the outer world until about 10 years ago, 15 years ago. And friends of mine are down there working with them to help preserve the rainforest. And I always wanted to go. And the trees are unbelievably huge. Roots are as tall as a this building and go out like that. You can build a house inside the root system.

Oh my goodness.

There's army ants that are about that big, these leafcutter ants, and you can see them just going across with all these little leaves waving. We got to swim in this river that was full of piranha, they told us later. But piranha don't eat you. They don't. They have a rule in the river, nothing attacks anything 6 times bigger than it is. Wow. And so if you are in a tide pool where you— there's no food, and, you know, it's flooded and now it's stuck over there and you step in there, a piranha will bite you. But a river, they're not going to. No, not, not at all. We had so much fun. It was so delightful to be in that nature. So the point is everything is an adventure and we have to think of it that way or we're going to be victims.

Rule number 5: Understand money with Mary Kate.

In order to start attracting money into your life, you have to first have an understanding of what money is and your relationship to your finances. That sounds like such a strange statement to say, your relationship with your finances, but we all have feelings and relationships to thoughts and objects. How you feel about something determines how you can attract it into your life. Everything is energy, and in order to attract certain things into your life, you have to be an energetic match and understand your relationship to that object. Love is one of the most powerful vibrations you can tap into. So whenever possible, shift your feelings towards love. So what is your relationship to money? Be honest with yourself. Do you get nervous to check your bank account? Do you feel anxious that you don't have enough money? Do you constantly tell yourself that you can't afford things? Do you think that only lucky people deserve money? Do you think you have to work long hours at a job you hate in order to earn enough money? I used to have that last belief, and I was stuck for way too long at a job I hated, working working crazy long hours to support the kind of life that I wanted to deserve. And once I shifted my mindset, I realized that none of that was worth it. Once I shifted this mindset, everything started flowing to me so much quicker and easier, and I wasn't stuck at a job that I hated anymore. I want you to write down a list of everything you feel towards money. All of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, doubts, opinions. Write it all down, get very clear, and be completely honest with yourself. Pause this video now and take as much time as you need. After you write down your belief system about money, look at specific areas at where you can improve your money mindset. For example, are you scared to check your bank account? How can you turn that around? And make it into a more positive action? Can you start checking it more often and release that fear that you don't need? Can you use a positive affirmation each time you look at that statement? Can you meditate and visualize your bank account with 6 figures? Do whatever is in your power to shift your money mindset so that everything lines up to be clear and positive. By understanding your relationship with money and releasing the fear or negative feelings surrounding it, it, you can be open to attracting more of it into your life. How can you emit the frequency of love surrounding money? The vibrational frequency of love is so unbelievably strong that if you can tap into that power, money will flow to you at record speed. Trust me. There are so many ways to add the frequency of love into your money mindset. For example, you can visualize how you would spend that money on the people you love. You can start loving the money that you currently have. You can start generously making donations to people in need and coming from a place of love. You can make vision boards of all the things that you would treat yourself to with that money. Give yourself some self-love. You can meditate with the feeling of love while visualizing complete financial freedom. Or one of my favorites, you can visualize your heart as a powerful magnet strongly attracting money directly into your reality. Try out a few of these and see which one works best for you. Now that you're clear on your money mindset and infused it with the vibration of love, I want to share with you the magic formula for manifesting. This formula is something I go into more depth in my digital course, Abundance Academy, but because this formula really works, I want to share it with you. Thought has a magnetic force. Thought coupled with feelings is even stronger. Thought coupled with feelings mixed with inspired action is where manifesting occurs. Or put simply, thought plus feelings plus inspired action equals manifesting. Welcome to manifesting math class. Like I said earlier, everything starts with thought and mindset. You have to be clear and understand what your thoughts are towards money before you can start to manifest it into your life. Once you are clear on your thoughts, it's time to infuse it with feelings. I suggest infusing with love because it's the most powerful frequency, but if you want to choose another feeling, feel free. Do whatever works best for you. You can try joy, excitement, happiness, comfort, peace of mind, or any feeling that you can emit at a high frequency. And this last step is one that most people miss or skip in their manifesting process. Inspired action. Inspired action is one of the most important and most overlooked steps. Taking an inspired action doesn't have to be a huge deal. It doesn't have to be this overwhelming, stressful thing, so don't worry. Inspired action can be as simple as writing a check to yourself for $100,000 as a hint to your subconscious that that's what you're trying to create, or making a small donation to charity because you are doing it from a place of abundance. Or following that urge you had to write that blog or start that business or follow up on that email. Your intuition is always trying to communicate with you, and by taking guided inspired actions, you are directly aligning with whatever it is that you're trying to manifest. Get in touch with your intuition and see what inspired action you're guided to take. There is always an option to take an inspired action, so take advantage of it. Think of your intuition like your fairy godmother. You follow your manifesting formula of thought plus feeling, and your intuition, or your fairy godmother, will guide you to exactly where you need to be in order to manifest what you want. But it's up to you to follow that intuition and take that step or inspired action. With this mindset work and manifesting formula, you are well on your way to start attracting money into your life life easily and effortlessly. But you have to remember that you are in charge of redirecting your negative thoughts or feelings about money when they come up, because they will come up from time to time. And just remember that you are in charge of shifting it right back to where you need to be. You need to get to the point of ignoring your current or outside circumstances and standing firm in a place of faith that you are abundant. Whenever you get a bill in the mail, Pay it and be grateful that you're contributing to someone else's financial betterment. Whenever you feel stressed about finances, redirect yourself and realize how lucky you are that you have a roof over your head and clean water and people that love you, and send love out to those that aren't as fortunate. Whenever you feel like you can't afford something— this is my favorite— just go virtual shopping. Start coming from a place of financial freedom and clicking and putting in your cart all of those things you want to buy online. Pick anything you want. The sky is your limit. You don't actually have to purchase anything, but by virtually shopping and feeling that financial freedom and adding those things to your cart, you're sending a clear message to your subconscious mind that you can have that, and then it'll be on its way. Feel powerful that you have this superpower knowledge that you are consciously creating your reality. Use this power to shape your reality and and banish the negative beliefs you have around money. Our society will constantly condition you that you need more of this or better things, and that you have to work really, really hard to achieve things in life. But not for you. You now have the knowledge that by shifting your mindset and taking inspired action, money will flow to you without all the bullshit. So congratulations on taking your first step towards financial freedom. Remember that you are powerful, you are worthy, and you are abundant.

And rule number 6, the last one before some very special bonus clips, is focus on the fact with Leo Gura.

Law of attraction. This is a really deep topic, but we're just gonna skim the surface, but it'll still be very useful for you. Just in the next 15 minutes, you're gonna get a lot. So, law of attraction, what is it? Basically, it's a fancy term for the following thing. Law of Attraction, the way that I define it very simply, is that instead of focusing on the things that you do not want to happen in your life, you shift your focus and you think about the things that you do want to have happen in your life. So what's an example of this? Well, let's come up with an example. Let's say that you're starting a business, and you're starting a new business, and it's the first time you've started a business, so it's something new that you're going into. Into. And now when you're starting it off, you naturally have some fears. You naturally wonder whether you're going to be able to, to launch this business. You naturally wonder whether you're going to be able to pay the bills. Maybe you wonder about whether you should hire some employees or not. You have some reservations about that, and you don't know if you can pay them. And you just wonder if the whole thing is even a good idea. And maybe you're going to, you're going to risk losing a lot. Maybe you're going to lose, and you're going to invest invest some money, you're going to lose that, and you've got all these reservations. And so as you're building this business and you're going about your day-to-day actually implementing it, creating it, what's going to happen is your mind is going to shift and it's going to focus on all these problems. It's going to focus on the fact that, well, this business simply could fail. And so you're going to be thinking about, how do I make this business not fail? Why don't I go and get another client? Maybe that'll help me not fail. Maybe I should go Oh, do this thing over here. That will help me not fail. And you're always thinking about how your business could potentially fail, and you're trying to preempt or take some sort of action against that. And basically what you're doing is you're planning against catastrophe. That's what you're doing in that situation. That is what 99% of us do in our lives. Maybe not in such a dramatic, clear-cut way as with starting a business, because not everyone starts a business. And even the people that do, don't do it that often. So that's a very poignant example. But in small ways, this is happening throughout your life, right? You're focusing, for example, on the things that you don't like your boyfriend or girlfriend doing in a relationship. Maybe you don't like something very small. You don't like the fact that they pick their teeth at the dinner table, or you don't like the fact that they put their feet up on the dinner table. Or just something very small like that. And you're always focusing on that, and you're saying, you know, why does he keep doing that? Why does he keep picking his teeth at the dinner table? Why does he keep putting his feet up? And you're thinking about that, and you're focusing on, again, the thing that you do not like in your life. So this is happening everywhere in your life, and most people are going through life and they're focusing on the things that they don't like. I don't like the traffic jams that I'm going into when I'm driving down to work. I don't like how much money I'm getting paid at work. I don't like the relationship that I'm in or some aspect of it. I don't like some aspect of my health. I don't like the fact that I might have a bad hip. I don't like the fact that I have a toothache that's bothering me. I don't like the fact that I'm overstressed with appointments and I've got too much on my schedule right now. I don't like the fact that I can't take a vacation for another 7 months when I need one right now. So all these issues, right, and more. You've got all this coming up, but the problem is, and this is what law of attraction states, is that the things that you focus on, the things that you put your attention to, are the things that you end up attracting more of into your life. And so this is, this is deep. This is actually much deeper than it seems on the surface, because what's literally happening is that you are focusing on these problems. And that you are creating an emotional vibration within you. Your thoughts are then soaked in the negativity of the situation, on the challenge, on the difficulty, on the fear, on the problem. And then you take on that vibration, and basically it rubs off on you. And then when you're in that kind of state of mind, well, it tends to attract those things to you, and it creates a self-fulfilling self-fulfilling prophecy effect. And this is not some New Age concept. This is not some woo-woo idea that literally your thought is somehow pulling something negative towards you, although that is literally the effect. But it's not through some weird metaphysics that this is happening, not through magic. This is happening because your thoughts generate the action that you take in your life. And so you are not going to go out there and take resourceful action You might not take any action at all when your thoughts are soaked in all this negativity and are focusing on all the problems. Because what that's doing is making you anxious. It's, it's making you insecure. It's making you fearful. And when you act from that position, your actions are feeble. They are many times self-fulfilling and catastrophic. A lot of times you'll worry about something so much that you actually take the action that will lead to that thing becoming true. It's a very, very freaky phenomenon in nature and a very freaky phenomenon of human psychology. This is— that this is actually the case. So what's the— what's the solution? Well, the solution is to adopt what the law of attraction wants you to do. And the law of attraction states that since you are attracting these negative things with negative thoughts, you can attract positive things with positive thoughts. And so instead of worrying about your money situation, what you do is you think about the awesome money situation that you're going to create for yourself. Or instead of worrying about the problem, little problem area in your relationship, you focus on the larger relationship and you focus on how great that is. Or if you want to eliminate that problem, then what you focus on is not eliminating the problem, you focus on creating something right? It's about focusing, shifting your focus on the creation. So what do you want to create in your relationship? How about that? Why aren't you asking yourself that question? Really, what this is, is a positive side of worry. Worry is about thinking and projecting into the future all the bad stuff that might happen, and it's about putting what-if scenarios into your mind. Well, what if I get fired? What if I get abandoned? What if I fail at this business? What if I get— I make a speech and I embarrass myself, make a fool of myself? What if I walk into, into the party with my fly down and people are staring at me? You know, what if— these are like worst-case scenarios. Well, here's one for you. What if instead of worrying about things in the negative, you started worrying about things in the positive? How would that look? Well, what if I go and and in my job I actually get a promotion next year? What if I start making more money because I'm providing more value? What if I start doing better at school because I'm actually studying? What if I work on my relationship and my relationship becomes really amazing, better than most relationships out there, and I really flip it around? What if I go into this, this party and instead of having my fly down, I walk in there and I'm the coolest guy there, and everyone wants to be my friend, and I make a bunch of cool friends and connections, right? It's the positive side of worry. It's about projecting positive images. Now, this is very unnatural for us to do, and this is why 99% of us are not obeying the law of attraction, because we're always worrying about stuff. This is unnatural for the human brain. And what you got to do is you got recondition yourself and rewire yourself by making— by taking your conscious awareness and putting it on these problem areas in your life and saying, okay, I've worried about this stuff long enough. It's about time that maybe I should try this law of attraction deal and see if it's gonna really pan out the way people say it is. And when you do try it, and you have to try it with, with faith and confidence and consistency, what you're gonna find is that it really works. And the reason that it works, again, is not through some metaphysical mumbo-jumbo. Simply because you become confident, you have faith in your actions, you're not insecure anymore, you're excited about what you're doing because you have these positive visions of what you want to create. And basically what you're doing is you start to impose your reality on the world rather than the world's reality mesmerizing you. And when that happens, you start to feel really good, and you're able to go out there and you're actually able to work on your goals, you're able to take action on your goals, you're not procrastinating anymore. And so through that whole process, your thoughts shape your actions, and then your actions attract, attract whatever it is that you want in your life. And that's basically law of attraction. Think about the things that you want, not the things that you don't want. Now, as simple as that sounds, you're not going to do it. It's just, it's really hard to recondition yourself. You have to be very persistent with it.

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But if you do, if you undertake this initiative and you say, you know what, I think there's something to this law of attraction, and I think I'm— it's about time that I try something new because I'm frustrated with the lack of results that I've been getting. And you really buy into it and you really give it a good go. Give it a good go for a month or two where you're just constantly focusing on the things that you want to create in your life, and you're not focusing at all on things that you're worrying about or that you typically would worry about. You're gonna find that you're gonna feel very good. You're gonna start to develop a good mood. You're gonna start to be more cheerful and happy, and you're gonna get this sense of confidence. You get the sense that, yeah, I own my life. I'm in control of my life. I can actually direct my life because I'm creating some positive vision, and then I'm going out there and taking action towards it. And that action seems somehow smoother, seems somehow more effortless than it was before. Than before, and you're feeling good about yourself, and you just start to notice that it's almost like magic. Things start to click, and you start to see that this is why some books or some authors or just popular culture will say that law of attraction is, is this metaphysical thing where it's like you're literally— your thoughts are attracting things into your life. That's almost what it's like, because if you take the action component out of it, and that's actually what it becomes, is that if the quality of your thoughts are improved then the quality of the things that you have in your life will also improve. But what some people do is they'll discount the intermediary there, which is action, because your actions are created by your thoughts, right? Your actions don't just happen spontaneously. And there's two sides to it. There's, I mean, two aspects. There's the conscious thoughts that you have and the subconscious thoughts. And really what law of attraction is really, really powerful at is working on your subconscious. Because once your subconscious starts to resonate with that feeling of confidence, that pride that you have, that sense that everything's okay in the world, that calmness, that happiness that you have, that joy— when you start creating from that, your subconscious doesn't resist anymore. You don't have those fears holding you back. You're out there, you're taking bolder action, and you're, you're fulfilling it. You're not quitting. You're not struggling as much. It's not as much of a grind. It's more pleasant. And when that's happening, how could you not attract the things that you want? This works for everything. This will work for wealth, this will work for relationships, this will work for businesses, this will work for your health. Literally anything that you want in your life, you can attract by simply focusing on the fact that you want it rather than the fact that you don't have it.

The law of attraction definitely works. Most people just get it wrong. Most people only focus on the thinking part and not the most important part, which is the action, right? Law of attraction, it's the last 5 letters that matter. A-C-T-I-O. A-C-T-I-O-N. 6. The last 6 letters that matter. Action, action, action. Thinking about it alone is not enough. So it's the 2 parts. You get an idea, you want something into your life, you want to manifest something amazing, you want success in your business, you want a happy relationship, awesome. You You want to speak on giant stages, whatever the thing is that you want in your life. Awesome. You have a vision board. Amazing. Just the fact that you're thinking about it and believing in it is already a big step ahead of where most people are. Most people live in a negative zone. Most people feel like their life is hopeless, that they can't make a change, that they're stuck where they are. And guess what happens? They stay exactly stuck where they are, right? What you focus on ends up becoming your reality. So yes, you're going to focus on your new goal, your new habit. The new thing that you want into your life. Amazing. You believe that it's possible. Amazing. You're putting up a vision board with it on your wall. Amazing. You're researching and watching videos like this every day. Amazing. That's great. That's the first starting point, but nothing happens until you take action. Nothing happens until you take action. Thinking alone is not enough. Again, it puts you ahead of most of the, most of the world, puts you way ahead of them, but You're still just gonna be this super smart, super ambitious person sitting at home not achieving your goals. You have to do something. I look at my YouTube channel as an example. My main channel, I want to get to 10 million subscribers. That's my next goal, right? We hit 1, we hit 2, I gotta hit 10. At the rate that we're growing, it's not fast enough. Like, it's gonna take me way too many years to make it happen, so I need to apply more pressure against it. So part of what I look at every day now in my morning routine is I want to hit my goal. I want to get 10 million subscribers on my YouTube channel, right? I want to be, you know, one of the first thought leaders, experts, business person to have 10 million subscribers on a YouTube channel. It's my next goal. Great. Writing that down every day doesn't make sure that it's going to happen. What am I doing, right? Writing it down can lead to thoughts that then lead to action, but what am I actually doing? Well, I'll tell you what I'm doing now. One of one of the biggest things I'm working on now, big new initiative for my team is I've got 6,000 public videos on my main channel. And I told my team this week, I want to go back and update all of the thumbnails and all of the titles across all my videos. That's a lot of videos, right? That's 6,000 videos. Imagine doing split tests on all of those videos. I asked for 10 a day. And so 2 key people on my team are working together to come up up with what the title is going to be, and then the other one's doing the graphic design to create the thumbnails. Maybe it works the first time, but maybe it doesn't. And it's a big ambitious project if you think about it. We got 6,000 videos, 10 videos a day. You know, in a year, if we did it for 10 videos every day, we're just over half of those videos, assuming that they all work out, which they won't. So this is our test, and if it works, awesome. I might have that become somebody's full-time job so that we can 20 split tests a day, 40 split tests a day, 100 split tests a day. I don't know, but it's happening through action, right? So it starts with the idea. If you have the idea but you're not taking action, you won't get results. If you just have the action but you have no idea, you're running around like a chicken with your head cut off. You're going in circles without any clear direction. Most people think too much and don't do enough. That's most people. Some people do too much and don't think enough. Some people need more planning, but in general, most people are over-planners. And so watching this video alone is not enough. It's a great start. It might boost your motivation. It might give you an idea to go off and try. Watching my content, watching Dan Lok's content alone is not enough. It's the essential first piece of the ingredient. It's, it's essential surrounding yourself with people who build who make you believe, who give you ideas you can act on, that allow you to feel like your goals are possible, that your dreams are within reach, is super important. I do it every day. It's why I create all these channels. I think you should too. You'll notice a difference in how you think every single day if you are creating content and consuming content that builds you up. But then you still have to go take the second step. It's why after every video I have a question for you. The day, or I have a 3-point landing question, because I want you to take action.

You should—

you need to teach yourself that after every video you watch, after every podcast you listen to, after every book that you read, that that's not enough. You have to do something about it. I'd rather you watch fewer videos, read fewer books, listen to fewer podcasts, consume less, if you're taking action on the ideas that come to you. Because most people are just professional consumers. And it's great that you're consuming educational content because most people are just consuming stupid content, right? You hate your life, so you go watch Netflix all day when you get home for 5 hours and then go to sleep, right? You're a professional consumer, but you're consuming wasteful content, just entertaining content. So you've already taken a step above, right? You're consuming educational content. That's the next step. You're consuming educational content.

Amazing.

But still, that alone is not enough. What separates the people go off and achieve their dreams from the ones who just have things on a vision board is that last step of taking action. So you're not allowed anymore— your new standards, you're raising your standards for yourself— you are not allowed anymore to watch a video, to read a book, to listen to a podcast, to consume anything without taking some kind of immediate action towards it. Immediate action. Immediate action. It may not be the big thing. If you want to hit a million subscribers on your YouTube channel, great. What's the immediate action? Film a video today. Make an improvement to your thumbnail today. Reach out for an interview for someone today, right? Immediate action. Teach yourself that as soon as you get an idea, you do something about it, because that's the only thing that you're missing. The only thing that you're missing is momentum. If you're watching this channel, you believe in your talent. You know you're capable of more. You've got big goals, big ambitions, big dreams yourself. The only thing you're missing is momentum. So to activate the law of attraction, pay attention to the last 6 letters, action, and start doing something about it.

If the person's doing the vision board and they're saying, when I get my new car, I get my new house, I get my new relationship, then I'm gonna feel so great. Now, well, then they're back to the program, waiting for it to happen for them to feel the emotion. They're believing their outer world has to change in order for them to feel better. There's, there's no effect of drawing the experience to you with that way. So the person has to use those tools to get them into the emotional state for them to feel like it's already happened. Now think about this. If you get up from a creative process and you feel grateful, you feel a love for life, you feel a joy for existence, you feel a passion, uh, to, for the moment, uh, you will not be looking for your future because you'll feel like it's already happened. It's the moment that we start feeling those self-limiting emotions that we feel separation, and then we start looking for it again. Well, then if you're waiting, you're not creating, you're, you're in separation again. So then, yeah, so then whatever it takes for you to move into a state of being— and what is a state of being? Thoughts are the vocabulary of the brain. Feelings are the vocabulary of your body. How you think and how you feel creates your state of being. So then if you wake up in the morning and you come, come back to your senses with a clean slate and you say, I don't feel anything, and you say, well, let me start thinking about all the problems in my life. Well, all those problems are connected to different people or different objects of things at different times and places. The moment you remember your problems, a memory is a record of the past. You're thinking in the past. Every one of those problems has an emotion associated with them. So all of a sudden you start feeling unhappy, you start feeling bitter, you start feeling frustrated. So now your body's in the past. So then most people then create a state of being that's connected to their past. And if they're in the familiar past, then they are going to crave the predictable future and they're going to fall back into routine. So then we want people then to get very clear on that vision of their future, however they do it, and begin to combine that clear intention with an elevated emotion. And the stronger the emotion they feel from the vision they're creating, the more altered they feel inside of them, the more they're going to pay attention to the pictures in their mind. And now they're remembering their future. And biologically, it's exactly the same as remembering your past. In fact, if you're not being defined by a vision in the future, it means you're making your past more real than your future. You're falling in love with your past. You're more in love with your past than you are with your future. That you're believing in your past more than you're believing in your future. When you get to that moment where you have that feeling, that's your compass, because that feeling is going to drive your behaviors. It's going to drive more of those thoughts. And when you feel that feeling and it's visceral, no person, no thing, no experience will stand in the way between you and that vision. And, and you will be initiated initiated by the universe into wealth. You will be initiated into health. You'll be initiated into freedom. Those people, all those people that have healed themselves of all those different health conditions, they are so humble and so happy and they feel so great that they would never trade this feeling because of what you thought of them. They've left that program behind a long time ago. They actually don't care how you think of them. Them. They actually are so happy with themselves that they're no longer dependent on anything outside of them. Now, I think that's a really important moment because that's the moment we give people permission in our lives to do the same, right? And I think that more and more people are beginning to figure that out.

When you think a deliberate thought of what you want, then law of attraction will employ the universe and all people, circumstances, and events to move you to what you've asked for and to move what you've asked for to you. And so if, if, if you think about that, there is just— action would be really, really hard for you to reach all of the people, circumstances, and events, manipulate all of them to to receive what you want. And if you really reflect well on your life and things that have happened in your life, you kind of see that actually that happened for me. Ah, all I did was move to here, or all I did was move to there, and I received what I wanted. Thought creates all of the appearances in the world, and thought creates everything in your So it's pretty darn powerful, right? And what you think about is what you get. What you focus on is what will manifest in your life. And everyone is manifesting their day every single day. We're doing it. We are not aware, of course, necessarily, of thoughts, but thoughts come, we energize them, them, and then they will manifest unless we cancel that thought out with another thought, with a thought that contradicts it. But I remember Lester Levinson would say every single thought manifests, and I just thought that was incredible. I had known The Secret for years and years and years, and Lester Levinson was a real master, and he said every single thought and I was just, wow, that's how powerful they are. So thoughts are your superpower to be, do, and have what you want to experience and have and do in your life. And so if you ask an athlete or if you talk to a coach, a really brilliant coach, right, of a sports team, then you will find that visualization and these principles that I'm talking about are a big part of their training. They have to be. They have to see themselves winning the game. They have to see themselves winning the match. There is a really incredible tennis player that's a very big fan, a champion tennis player that's a really big fan of the sacred, who uses the sacred. This is what he does. He sees that he has won the match before he walks out onto that court. And it's the same for teams. It's the same for athletes in the Olympic Games running a race and seeing that they've won. Yes, they run the race, but what has them win the race is that they saw themselves winning before they even got on the starting block. And they saw it and believed it. Believed it and felt it. And so they just— everything lined up for them in the perfect way. They drew the perfect lane. Everybody else was moved in exactly the right position, and they got a really great start, and they won the race. And so thought is just so, so powerful for athletes. But also, do you know, the astronauts in the Apollo program did visualization before they went to the moon, and they visualized landing back on Earth safely. And so that's how important visualization— visualization is just thought in pictures, by the way. It's, it's, it's still thought. It's just the same thing, okay? It's just thought in pictures. So if you took a person who had zero resistance and you lock them in a room, you know, if you took a person that had zero resistance, that person thought about what they wanted, zero resistance, lock them in a room, what they wanted will come to them. The universe will move people, circumstances, and events and bring that right to them. It might— it absolutely must, because if you have no resistance, you have unleashed a law that just cannot be stopped. And so you will manifest, it will come to you.

I want to explain something to you that not many people really understand. I want to talk about the law of attraction. Do you know that the law of attraction is always working? It's like the law of gravity. If I let this go, it's going to go down. It's never going to go back up. It's it's going to go down. That is the law of gravity. Anything heavier than Earth is attracted towards the center of the world. Well, the law of attraction's always working. Now, how does it work? Well, I use a diagram to explain the mind. Now let this circle represent your mind, and let this little circle here represent your body. Now I want you to think of this for a moment. Your body is a molecular structure. This is a mass of energy and a very high speed of vibration. If you looked at your body through a microscope, you'd see that energy dancing right before your eyes. And here's something that'll keep you thinking for the next 20 years: when you move out of it, the body does not stop moving. If you go to a funeral parlor and pick up the remains and look at it, you will see it moving. And if it wasn't moving, How would it ever change to dust? You move into your body and you will move up. And it's how you use your mind that's going to dictate the vibration you're in. Now stay with me. You have an imaginary line right across here, and that separates the conscious mind from the subconscious mind. Now the subconscious mind has been programmed. When you were a little baby, baby, this is the way it was. You were just like this, subconscious mind wide open, and everything that was going on around it went right in there. And all the energy that went in there when you were just a little baby formed something called a paradigm. Now, a paradigm is information. It's a multitude of habits. You are the product of your environment, but prior Prior to that, you were the product of a genetic strain that goes back for generations. Now I'm going to say that the paradigm is X-type energy. Now you've got the ability here on a conscious level to think, and you can think anything you want to think. And as you think, you build ideas. There's a power that's flowing into your consciousness, it never stops. It flows to and through you. You can actually photograph this power leaving you. It flows to and through you. Now, as it flows in, you will start thinking, and you'll probably think X-type thoughts. Therefore, you're going to be in an X-type vibration, and that will produce X-type results. Now, it's the results you want to change, and to change the results, you're going to have to change what you attract. You see, the thoughts that you think control the vibration that you're in. Vibration is nothing but an idea. It's a law of the universe. Everything vibrates, nothing rests. We live in an ocean of motion. And it's the thoughts that you're thinking that you impress upon your subconscious mind that control the vibration the body's in, and that dictates how you act, but it also dictates what you attract. You attract energy that's in harmony with you. You attract people that are in harmony with you. You see, everything operates on frequencies. There's an infinite number of frequencies, but you and I operate on a frequency just like a radio station does. And the only music you can attract is the music that is tuned into the vibration you're in. Now, it's the paradigm that has been controlling the vibration. You can change your thinking, but that doesn't do anything. You got to change the paradigm. And if you don't change the paradigm, nothing happens. Now, talking about paradigms is another subject. We'll do that at another time. But it's the thoughts that you think that control the vibration you're in, and that dictates what you attract. So if you keep attracting what you don't want, understand this: it's the paradigm that's causing causing the problem. You can think a Y-type thought, which is totally different than the X-type conditioning. It isn't going to go anywhere, because when you go to get emotionally involved— and this is the emotional mind— when you go to get emotionally involved with that Y-type thought, the paradigm will kick it out. You know why? It's so uncomfortable. That's stepping out of the box. That's doing things different, and we don't like to do things different because it causes a lot of discomfort. But understand this: the paradigm and the thinking control the vibration you're in, and the vibration you're in is going to dictate what you attract. People that are in a poverty consciousness will continue to attract lack and limitation. It has nothing to do with this, what's going on here. This is your educated mind, and you could gather all kinds of information. Have you ever wondered why You know why some people have such an educated mind, they have degrees coming right off the end of their business card, but it doesn't show up in their results. Why? Paradigm. The law of attraction. You've gotta change this. You've gotta change the vibration you're in and your whole world changes. Listen, in 1961, a man gave me this book and he said, do exactly what I tell you. He was giving me Y-type ideas. It caused an enormous amount of discomfort, but I did exactly what he said. And you know something? My income went from $4,000 to $175,000 in a year, and then I took it over a million. It took me 9 and a half years to figure out what happened. This is what I'm showing you. Watch this over and over and over over again. There's a number of lessons in here.

Many people come to me and say, I want to be a millionaire. I, and there's a great song about I'm going to be a millionaire, and they read things like The Secret, which says if you want to be a millionaire, just, just wish it and it will happen. And that's not quite enough. I've worked with many, many, many millionaires, and I became one myself quite a long time ago now, never having possibly thought that could ever happen. I was at school I was going to be a nanny. That's how much I thought I could earn in my lifetime. That's what I thought I was meant to be. But then I worked with so many multimillionaires and billionaires, and I really understand how to attract money, how to attract wealth. I'm going to take you through today why you haven't yet become a millionaire. There's several things that will stop you. Here's the number one: you don't believe you are worth it. You may want money, you may long for money, but if you have an inner belief that says I'm not worth it, not only won't you attract that money, if you did, you would get rid of all of it. So if you wish to become a millionaire, you must decide you're worth it. The more reasons you can decide you're worth it, the more you'll have that motivation, that fire, that drive to go out and and make a lot of money. The second thing that will make you become and stay a millionaire is working out how much good you will do with the millions that you make. You see, Bill Gates, what an amazing guy, he says that in 20 years malaria won't exist because he is using his money to wipe out malaria. That's an extraordinary thing and he deserves all the wealth he has for that reason alone. If you can think of something that you could do or the people you would help and impact by becoming a millionaire, the more reasons you can come up with, the more people you can help, the more reasons you will have to become and stay a millionaire. And here's the third thing, and this is so important. Many people think, well, I'm just going to float around and manifest millions. I'm just going to sit at home on my on my sofa and manifest millions. If you want a job, you go out and look for a job. If you want a new home, you go out and visit new homes. You want a partner, you better go out and put yourself in front of people. And if you want to make and keep millions, you need to decide what are you going to do to make those millions. What gift or talent do you have that you can monetize? You may say, I don't have anything, but that's not true. If you really take a while, you can find a gift, a unique skill set you have that you could monetize. You see, some of the smartest people in the world, they don't invent a product, they take an existing product like James Dyson. He took a hair dryer, he took a fan heater, he took a vacuum cleaner, he took a hand dryer, and he made them better. And many, many people take an existing product to make it better and become a millionaire that way. It's not about, shall I invent something? I don't have an inventive mind, I'm not creative. It's about an idea. You may come up with a new product, you may take someone else's product. For instance, shapewear wasn't new when Spanx came on the market and became a multi, multi-million dollar company. They didn't invent a new product. Well, they sort of did. They took an existing product, they made it so much much better. And you can do that too. But the biggest blocks I see with budding millionaires are these things. One is, I'm going to be a millionaire, I'm going to be a millionaire, and they just try and imagine in the future. And the thing about the mind is the human mind doesn't future pace very well. One of the reasons depressed people can't snap out of it is because they can't future pace. And by the way, if this is sense to you, please like, please share, please subscribe to my channel and show it to other people who also want to make money. Why wouldn't you want to make money? You can do great things for others when you make money, but they don't know how. They've been deluded by these manifestation programs— sit at home and chant Om Shanti and money will fall from the heavens. We all know that's not true. So if you want money, you must be able to visualize, but it must be now. You must be able to think of how you're going to make money. What could you possibly do to make money? Remember that woman who changed the face of a floor mop? They made a movie about her, and she became a millionaire, and she was a housewife. But one day she was mopping her floor, and you know, this is not really a good mop, and she recreated and reinvented a floor mop. Has made millions that way. But here's another big block: you have to work hard. Many people think, well, I just manifest, I just sit at home. The best plan in the world will not work if you don't work. So people get this really weird belief that people who make millions don't work, they just manifest, it falls from the heavens, they float around doing a little stuff here and there and that's not true. I work with millionaires and billionaires and they do work hard. They work long and they work hard on their way to success. They work a lot. When they get success, of course they can take time out. But you see, when you do what you love and love what you do, it never really feels like work. I love what I do. I do what I love. I often say I feel like I'm I've never worked a day in my life because I love what I do. But really, I have worked hard. I've written books, I've been writing for 12 hours a day meeting deadlines, I travel all over the world through time zones giving talks, and sometimes that's tiring. I plan out my schools and I'm there teaching, but I love it so much it doesn't feel like work. But if you believe you can be a millionaire and not have to change anything or do anything or work hard, you will probably never be a millionaire. You have to work hard, you have to apply yourself. The best plan will not work if you don't. You have to have phenomenal, extraordinary self-belief. And finally, you have to put yourself around other people who've made money. Ask them, what did you do What happened to you? You see, I met Wayne Dyer many years ago and he said something I always remembered: do not die with your music still inside you. And I thought, wow, I'm one of the best therapists in the world and I can't die with my therapy. I mean, I need to create a course, make a school, teach it to other people. I was so glad I listened to him. And I've listened to many people who say the same thing. I didn't go to university, I didn't have a charmed background, I wasn't born into money but I had a dream, a vision and I married that vision to very hard work. I kept going. Please don't think successful people never get rejected, they do but they bounce back, they come back, they have unshakable unwavering confidence, they have drive and determination. So take a few minutes, and just get out a little notebook or on your phone, write out all the reasons why you would like to be a millionaire, all the good things you could do if you were a millionaire, the people you could help, and then decide what industry you could go into. You're going to invent something, create something, and some of the smartest people create things entirely by mistake. Look at what other millionaires have done, read some books written by millionaires, there are many. Read Richard Branson, read Felix Dennis, look at some stories of millionaires and decide if they can do it, I can do it. This is a template and I'm going to follow that template and if you have the belief, the vision, the work ethic, the drive and the confidence, you will become a millionaire.

Because you made it this far in the video, I want to celebrate you. Most people start and don't finish. Most people never actually follow through. Most people say they want something, but they don't ever do the work to actually get it. But you are different. You are special. Believe Nation, you made it here all the way to the end, and I love you. So as a special celebration celebration. If you put a hashtag #believe down in the comments below on this video, I will showcase you and celebrate you somewhere on the screen in a future video because you are awesome. If you want to manifest abundance with Gabby Bernstein, check the video right there next to me. I think you'll love it. Continue to believe, and I'll see you there.

There are 6 common blocks to abundance, and we all experience them in different ways. The first block is a lack mentality, and when we have a belief system around lack, we create more lack in our life.