How to Transform Failure into Strength | 60 Minutes of Business Insights

Welcome everybody to another business Q&A. I am going to play some League of Legends and answer your business questions. I have my usual host, co-host in-game FreshFuse, which is JRise, and my co-host on air Rishi Cup TV. Rishi, how we doing?

I'm happy to be here, Evan. Thank you so much, and I'm excited to help some some people up today.

Now this is Rishi's last stream with us for 2 weeks. Yes, 2 weeks.

Uh, no, no, no, it's more— it's actually like 3 weeks.

3 weeks! Wow, Rishi is taking off for a little bit. And so, uh, Jennifer Price, also known as Much, uh, who subbed in last week is going to be taking Rishi's spot for the time that she is away. So let's show Rishi some love in her last episode for a little bit. What's in the cup today, Rishi?

Well, I was, I really was truly feeling the nostalgia already this morning. I love being here hanging out with Believe Nation. It's just such a privilege. So my quote is cup of friendship.

Ah, I like that.

And my quote is, catching up over good food and something— no, let's start this again. Friendship is catching up over good food and something nice to drink. And I have my cup of Spanish coffee with you all today. So I'm feeling the love for you guys today. And I'm going to miss you. And I'm excited because I know— You guys are going to love Jen, and she's going to bring so much value. So this is going to be cool.

All right, very cool. J-Rise wants to try something different today where he's playing— he's going to try to play a Nasus top. And for those of you who are into League— I guess for those of you who aren't into League, Nasus is this massive late game healing guy. So if we get stomped early, we're gonna lose. But if the game goes on to, you know, a decent length, then, uh, Jay is gonna be a monster. So, so we'll see.

That's awesome.

Yeah, we'll see. We'll see how it goes. Um, cool. Well, I'm excited. Let's hit up our first question. What do we got?

Alrighty, our first question this morning comes from Dominique. And this is actually a great way to start our Q&A today. It's not actually a question, but she just wanted to say thanks. She says, hi Evan, I'm Dominique Townsend, and I absolutely enjoy your YouTube channel. Drive and fulfilling of purpose. Keep up the great work, and may many continued blessings Flow your way. And she says, P.S., I look forward to the day that I will be a top 10 rules for success feature on your channel.

I look forward to it too. You know what, that's a common— I get that a lot. It's a common response.

Do you?

Yeah, we get that a lot. Well, I mean, obviously, like, we get a lot of the gratitude and people showing appreciation. I always love that. I mean, it's why— it's a big part of why I put these videos up and make them public. Hopefully it will have an impact on you guys. But there's a lot of people writing to say, you're going to feature me one day, I'm going to be on your top 10 list one day. It's interesting, like it's become a status, it's become a goal.

A status goal. You can put on your resume, I was one of Evan's top 10 rules for success.

And I would love that, like I would love for someone in Believe Nation to have had so much impact that they're being requested, and then we end up making a top 10 video on them. So I love it. Let's create all these little mini empires from people watching these videos, and I'm happy to help go spread the word too. So thank you. That's a good way to start it off, and I'm looking forward to making that top 10 on you one day. Go out and have a big impact, Dominique.

Awesome. Very cool. Alrighty, we've got our next question from Ambrose. And Ambrose says, "Hi Evan, thanks for dropping this message and offering to mentor me." In regards to, I think he just joined the mailing newsletter. He says, "I have been a keen follower of your YouTube videos and they are really awesome. Please keep up the good work. I have done 2 businesses so far which failed and I ended up losing a lot of money." So the fear of another failure has ever since stopped me from acting. Secondly, I learned from your videos that discovering our mission is a vital ingredient for success. I have not yet discovered my life's mission, and I'm eager to get to find out. Yeah, so that's cool. Welcome to the— welcome to Believe Nation, Ambrose. And it is super exciting. Just because I know, you know, being a part of this community is unique to other, definitely unique to other communities you may be a part of. And addressing the fear of failure, big, huge one. And there's so many great videos on the fear of failure. And I'm learning, Evan and Ambrose and anyone else who's listening, like I'm just learning that The people who actually end up attaining their goals, and when I say success, I mean success can be defined differently for everyone, but those who actually obtain their own goals of success for themselves are the ones who literally, they just keep getting up again. And so, I'm the first person who doesn't want to fail, but I recognize too that It's the only way to overcome and to grow and to get to the goals you want to get to. So, yeah, it's part of it, but I think too it sounds like he's lost money. There are ways to start again without it having to be like this huge financial risk. I know Evan, you've got a lot of good stuff to say on that, but it— If you've experienced a lot of failure, it's okay to move forward, but in a way that doesn't have to feel like it's so scary. You know, what are some little steps you can make every single day toward your business where you don't feel like you're gonna have to, you know, compromise your financial security again? So, yeah, that might be part of the learning of your past failures is like you don't have to make these huge risk financially. Secondly, mission. Well, Evan, December's coming. Your book is about to be out.

I know, it's less than a month. December 6th. Yeah, it comes out December 6th, so it's November 7th today. So yeah, a month yesterday. It's crazy.

Oh my gosh.

It's pretty crazy.

Yeah, so I just think it's, I think, a great time for you to be thinking about your mission and how to, how to be more on, on course with what you think your personal mission is in business, because that's what Evan's all about. That's what his book is all about, and I think you're gonna find that to be a really helpful resource for you.

Cool. So on the topic of failure, you know, we've talked, we've covered this a number of times on different videos and on the live chat too. Move this over a little bit there. Failure is not final and failure is necessary on your path to success. Anybody who's had a lot of success has had a ton of failure. You'll just see it. I think the key thing is that you're failing more, but failing smaller.

Mm.

Oh, how did I get back? Jay Ray sent me a message. Do it. Do it. Do it, Jay. Fail small. JRise is asking, the champion that he's up against counters him pretty hard, so he's asking, should I still do it or not? I told him to do it. Yeah, so like, you don't want to take a big failure. You don't want to take a big, huge risk and like mortgage your house or spend all your bank account on something and then it doesn't work, and then you're back to whatever job or life you had before, but, you know, with less money. And now, now you're gun-shy. Now you don't want to do anything again because of the pain that that first thing caused. And that happens to a lot of people, and it's really frustrating. That's why I don't— why I tell people I don't like spending money until I'm making money. I would invest my time and energy and hustle and drive but not put dollars into something until I'm making something out of it. And so failure is not the enemy, it's just the massive failure that has been the enemy for you. And so I would look at whatever this new thing is that you want to do, just start. Put your time in, like spend an hour a day researching, talking to people, going to events, you know, emailing, whatever it is, invest your time until you can find a way to be able to provide value so that you can start making some money. And as you start making money, then you can pump it into your— back into your business and a little bit back to yourself and grow from there. And you'll make a ton of failures along the way. I think it's important. I look at, you know, I look at my YouTube channel. I've made so many mistakes, guys. Holy cow, so many failures, so many videos that didn't do well, so many like, you know, me sucking on camera and feeling like the video was terrible and just so many, so many failures. Not that I would take them back because I, you know, I learned from them and it helped me get to where I am now, but I'm still making mistakes and I'm still trying different things. I don't know if it's gonna work out or not. But you need to be constantly taking small risks every day with your time until you can get it to the point where it's something that you can justify spending more time on and putting some dollars into. So more failures, just smaller, is gonna be the answer. Let me load up my game. Perfect, so we're in game. I've got Teemo jungle, Jryze is Nasus top. We'll see how we do. The next point about finding your purpose, I think it comes down to two things if you're looking at kind of practical steps. The first is finding your values, understanding what you stand for. That's what the book kind of helps guide you through, but finding what your one word is, figuring out how that can apply to your life and to the different business scenarios that you might potentially have, right? So mine is believe, Rishi's is cup, you know, J-Rise's is rise. So that's the first step. Understand your values and what you don't want to tolerate anymore in your life. So for me, you know, if I'm all about believe, then I don't like, you know, the little man. The little man is the people who don't believe in your ideas, who just put you down, who try to destroy your dreams, who are dream squashers. I don't want to deal with those people. Like, I don't want them in my life. I don't want to have that around me. And so, understanding what you stand for also, like, one, it helps you identify the positive impact you want to have on the world, and two, helps you have higher standards for your own life in the type of people that you will and will no longer associate with, what you no longer want in your life, making those changes. So that's a great start. But all that does is get you— like, the values is the lens through which you'll see the world. That's why your one word is so important. But it doesn't help you in terms of what you need to do next. You still need to figure out how you're going to apply that, right? So what kind of business are you going to start? And that's really going to come down to how you want to help people and finding the thing that makes you come alive. And I would use, like, if you have no idea what you want to do, if you don't know your purpose, then you do not want to be spending your money trying to figure that out, like trying to start a new business and spending your cash doing it. What you want to do is just try exploring different things, test out different things, say yes to things more, and then just see what resonates, what you want to do more of, what makes you come alive. That's where you're going to find your ultimate success. So those two things combined, of understanding your one word, understanding what your values are, and then combining that with an activity that you love doing that makes you really come alive, it's gonna be really important. Timo got a kill! Good job, Timo. Hey, I'm giving myself a good job. Yeah, we're Well, one of our teammates died, and I just went to basically clean it up. So far, so good.

So far, so good. OK. Our next question is coming from Barb.

From Barb?

Barb with a B, like Barbara.

Oh, Barb.

Nice. Barb.

Barb.

So Barb says— How do I find a patent attorney that will partner with me on a really needed invention that no one has done yet?

Okay.

All right, I think the main thing for finding a patent attorney would be having really done your, your research in advance so that you've got your very specific kind of parameters already laid out for what it is that you're looking for. Because I'm sure there's all these different nuances to different businesses and patents, and so you're going to want someone who's going to understand the specificity of what you're trying to do. I mean, you can look at sites like lawyers.com after, you know, you could just search like you would anywhere. For like a good lawyer, lawyers.com is one resource, but I would say don't do that until you've really done your homework first. So that way you know you're getting the right person with the right skill set for what you're trying to do.

Cool. I understand that most patent attorneys do not want to partner with you. Most patent attorneys just want to trade their time for dollars and they don't want to be entrepreneurial. And they've been approached by everybody with the same kind of idea of, hey, why don't we partner up on this together? And right. So most patent attorneys don't want to do it. Now it's still possible. Just most people won't want to do it. Oh, Timo's going to get another kill. All right. Timo's on fire this game. Teemo just— JayRyze and Teemo partnered up in the top lane there and we got a kill. Very exciting. So yes, so understand that most patent attorneys do not want to do that is a first place. And so the ones who are going to want to do it, there's going to be two kinds. You're going to have the ones who really believe in the mission, like they believe in what you're doing and they need to see this thing come to life and they may do it like off hours because they just love what you're all about, they love this product, they really, really absolutely believe in it. Or two, it's more strategic in that they see an opportunity to monetize, they can help with. And this one is a little easier to discover. It's basically looking at who the clients are of the lawyers and can they potentially— is this a potential deal for their client? So if you have, you know, something for the automotive industry, you have a new way to, you know, make special tires that nobody has seen these tires before, they're the greatest tires ever, they cook eggs and make you breakfast and all these, you know, fantastic things coming from your tires. then you would want to look for a patent attorney or patent firm that has automotive clients. Because the scariest thing for any investor, and this is what you're basically asking them to do, is invest their time. The scariest thing is that they're going to put all this work in and it's not going to work out. That they're going to invest resources into you and you're going to be like every other patent out there that for the most part doesn't ever get monetized. Um, I forget the exact number. I remember going to, uh, uh, inventor's show, um, and they were saying there were like hundreds of patents for a toothbrush that has the toothpaste in the handle and then can bring it up through the handle into the brushes, the bristles, the— is it bristles? What are they called? Not brussels. Bristles?

Yeah. Anyways, so like— yeah.

So there's like a toothbrush that has toothpaste in the handle that you push a button and it comes up and you don't have to apply the toothpaste yourself. Okay, that's like, this is the idea. Hundreds of patents on different types of designs around this. And have we seen any commercially successful patent around it? You know, like, have you seen a product that's done that? You know, I haven't. And so this is the fear for a lot of investors and a lot of patent lawyers is that you're just gonna have a junk patent. So they want to do the work, right? Because you're gonna pay them to do the work, but they don't want to partner with you because they're worried that you're not gonna be able to commercialize it. And so, you know, do you have a plan in place? Do they think that you can commercialize this and it's gonna be a good return for them or not? The easy way around it is if they already have relationships, like, you know what, I know who we can take this to, we already have clients who are doing this, then it makes it a lot easier for them to say yes to because it's gonna be actually probably more lucrative than just trading time for money by partnering with you because they see a big opportunity with one of their clients. So I would look at who you think are the biggest potential clients, who's gonna use this product that you're gonna come up with. And then look at who are they using as their law firm and then try to connect with those guys. It's going to be your easiest bet in terms of researching. If you could play, again, play on the heartstrings though and find a lawyer who just loves your message, it's another way in, but just harder to find out who those lawyers are. That's what I got. Good luck.

I was waiting for it. All right, you know, Evan, we forgot to shout out the people in the chat.

Let's do it! Who do we got?

I'm gonna do that now.

I saw Damasta in there when I was first getting in.

Yes, um, so we have Rise Online, we have Damasta, We have Jen So Much. We have OptiSource. We have Zaino. We've got Relaxing Sleep Station. And I thought Mitch was here too. Let me see. Uh-uh. OK. Mitch, where'd you go?

OK.

Sorry, but shout out to Mitch as well. And then, you know what, I forgot to— Why can't I think of your name right now? Jay has a quote that he shared that I want to really quickly share, and this was in reference to the caller question about fear and failing, and so this is for you, Ambrose. It says, "It ain't about—" This is a quote by Rocky Balboa, love it. It ain't about how hard you hit, get hit. It ain't about how hard you get hit, it's about how hard you can—

oh no, it's about how you can take a hit and get back up. Oh, I forgot, I messed it up. I should know that one. You say it, you say it. I messed it up.

You did it. You were— no, you were good, you were good. It ain't about how hard you hit it. I'm having such a hard time reading today. It's about how hard you get— you can get hit and keep moving forward.

All right, there it is.

Do I need to say it again? Do you guys hear the code? Okay, good. All right. Okay, so— oh yeah, Mitch is still here. Okay, there you are, Mitch55100, we see you. Glad you're back. Okay, next question is coming from Shaw, and Shaw says, How to fire a co-founder/business partner who is just a deadweight? What clause shall I cover in my agreement? Ugh. So that's a hard one. I know, Evan, you've talked a lot about how a partnership, business partnership, is like a marriage, and it can— if it's the wrong partner, it can be hard. So, you want to choose— those of you out there who have not yet gotten into partnership, you know, think very much about, you know, is this person aligned with your values, because it's a pretty big deal. As you can see from this question, it can be a huge issue. I'm not a lawyer, so I am not going to be able to speak in terms of the contractual agreement. But maybe from your experiences, Evan, you have some things you could share there.

Yeah, I'm not a lawyer, but I, and I don't play one on YouTube either. But so I'm thinking about it, one, you want to think about, he said fire, right?

Yeah, fire.

Okay, so are they still going to own a piece of the company? Are they still going to be a shareholder in the business? Are you going to buy them out? Do you have a shotgun clause in there? What are the terms now going to be? Something to think about. A deadweight partner you probably don't want to have as a partner either. So, ah, team, team, team is dying, team is dying. Yeah, so definitely looking at whether you want to include them I guess part of their thing is— oh, I'm dying. Okay, I'm okay, I'm okay, I'm okay. So do you want to have them still in your business or not? Like, are they exiting the whole thing or just you're firing them? You should have a shotgun clause in your— any, for people listening, any any partnership should have a shotgun clause, which basically means that once you trigger it, somebody has to buy the other person out. So you're saying, okay, if I'm going to trigger it, I think, you know what, I think this business is worth $50,000, we each own half, I'm going to give you $25,000 for your share, and the other person has to either accept it and be out, or they have to buy you out at the same valuation. So it's an easy way to get out of partnerships. That should be written into every, every shareholders agreement if you're bringing partners on. So I would look at having them exit totally. I wouldn't want to have somebody owning a piece of my company that wasn't contributing in some way. So that's something to think about. I would also be looking at The intellectual property and making sure that everything that you've created is going to stay within the business. So whatever you've said that, I don't know what product or service they're selling, but whatever it is, making sure that it stays within the company. It's not owned, you don't, any patents or anything that, oh, we're fighting. Anything that— oh, we got a flash. Anything that's important for them, for your business to succeed, right? Any agreements, any relationships with suppliers, making sure that you— that it's under the business and not under them personally. It's going to be important. Even trying to make it so that— I'd be looking at how can I make it so that they don't leave on really bad terms. One, just because it's, you know, it's good, it's good, it's good karma, you know, like you don't want people pissed off at you as a general rule. But also, you know, if customers have worked with this person or there's any kind of relationships with the business, you don't want those to disappear. Like, oh, what happened to Jimmy? Oh, Jimmy's not with with us anymore, and they're used to dealing with Jimmy, you know, you just don't want to have— you want to leave, be able to leave it on a positive note. Um, and also thinking about you may need them, like, do they have any expertise that you'll need to call on them? Like, hey, how did you program this? Or how did you— you know, like, there may be, there may be things that you need to know from them, um, and you don't want to just destroy the relationship. So Those are the main things. The only other thing that's coming to mind is if you're going to have a non-compete or not. So can Jimmy go and now set up shop, the same business across the street? You know, one of my— well, my favorite entrepreneur, E.P. Giannini, started the Bank of America after he was on the board of of another bank, and he got upset with them, and so he left them, and he started his own bank across the street from the bank that he was at the board at. And so you want to think about whether, you know, Jimmy poses a threat to you if he's going to start his own business, and then especially go after old clients. So often you'll have a window, so be like, okay, for, you know, 3 years, or 2 years, or for however many months, you have a non-compete where Jimmy is not allowed to go off and do another business. Now he has to agree to that, and that's usually part of buying out the deal, buying out the contract. If you just fire him, he's unlikely to say, "Yeah, that's fine, no problem." So all the more reason to have a good agreement exiting that relationship. So those are my thoughts, and yeah, you can also talk to a lawyer to get some additional feedback, but I think that those would be some important things.

A lot of great information there. Yeah. Okay, how's the game going? Game is going—

game is losing. Master Yi is on their team. He's a guy I always ban when I have a choice, but I didn't have a choice this game, so he was not banned, and he's kind of destroying our team. But Teemo has 3 kills and no deaths, and again, our team is late-game focused, so hopefully we can turn this around. Okay. We'll see.

So here's our next question, and our next question is coming from Mason. And Mason says, well, hi, I have an idea that I think is very good and I can sell. I've never sold ideas to anyone and was wondering if you could help me know who to sell to. I can't tell you my idea as it's unique and never been done, so the quicker it gets out, the better it will be. Please help. Okay, so he's excited to give his idea. I think a lot of it, you know, comes down to, again, I mean, since we don't know what the idea is, it's a little hard to guide. Where to go try to sell it. I mean, I think it's so particular to what the idea is about, but— and I'm thinking of that other caller we had the other day, and literally what he did is he had this idea and he really thought that it was something that could improve a business that was in his community. And so what he did is he shared the idea with this business and they called him in for a board meeting and were interested in doing more business with him. Another thing that's come up from that call was remember too that— and it sounds like, Mason, you already know this— you know, people will want to figure out a way to have your idea without paying you for it. So there will be ways that you can protect yourself in that as well. But I think it's just knowing who in your— who's in your industry that you, you think would be able to make, um, you know, I'm not going to say partnership because in our last call we just talked about, you know, you don't make partners really, just and quickly, but I don't know, Evan, that's kind of— I think it's so specific to the idea and what industry you're in.

The question was like, he wanted to know who to partner with.

He's not even— yeah, I mean, he's not even saying partnerships. He just— he has the idea he wants to sell and wants to know. He's never sold an idea to anyone before and is wondering, can you help him know who to sell it to.

Okay, so the starting point is figuring out who is this going to help, right? Who is this idea going to help? Your new invention, whatever you've come up with, has to be able to help somebody. That's the first step. Two, you need to be able to get a patent on it. Just an idea is not going to get you anything. You need to be able to have a patent. If you're trying to sell just the idea, you need to sell the patent. If you have something more to bring than just the idea, then you need to bring that to the table too. Like if you can help make it, if you have expertise that they're going to need, you know, that's, that could be super helpful, really relevant, valuable, important. Whoa, under attack, under attack. But if it's just the idea, then yeah, it's not going to be enough. So you need to have a patent. You need the patent and you need to know who you're selling it to. Added on top of that, I'd say you need to be able to— you don't want to give away your idea, but at the same time, like, you need to be able to talk about it in a way that can help you. Right? Right now I could have maybe thought of somebody that could help you, but because I don't know what your idea is all about or anything about it, I can't give you any kind of connections, resources, ideas to help. So you can be general about the idea without giving away all the specifics, right? Telling people enough that they understand it without being able to go go off and duplicate it. It's going to be important because otherwise you're just going to sit, you know, at home with this great idea all to yourself and nothing ever happens with it. So yeah, those 3 things, that would be my advice. Understand who could benefit from it, go get a patent on it if all you want to sell is the idea, and then you need to be able to share a little bit about it at so that people can help you with the connections that you need. And good luck.

Nice. Okay. Our next question is coming from Steph, and Steph is Let me make sure I'm reading this right. Okay, mom, dad, sis complains, exclamation point, smiley face. Mom, dad, sis complains, exclamation point. Okay, so I've developed new ways of thinking and set limits. Something— sometimes it gets hard because they live with me. What would you do? Any suggestions? Okay. So, and this is coming from the video 5, oh, where'd it go? Like 5, I'm going to read the title for you now, 5 Ways to Deal with Negative People from Believe Life. So you probably had a call to action. Who are the people maybe in your life that are negative? Is it your mom, dad, and Sis, yeah, I think it sounds like you're already on the right path in terms of setting limits. You know, you can't control the people around you, but you can make— you can decide, you know, what you will allow to, you know, what your environment is, how you're going to surround yourself with the negativity of others. So, I know living, in this case you're saying, yeah, I live with them, what do I do? You know, it doesn't mean you need to move. But I also wonder, have you had a conversation with them yet? Have you said, hey mom, hey dad, it's this, I'm affected by this, And when you complain, it really affects me because they might not even be aware that it's affecting you. And if you haven't communicated that to them, then that, that would be my first suggestion to you is let them know, because I bet your mom and your dad at least would, would really want to know that, and they probably would want to stop doing that if they knew you were being affected by it.

Yeah, I would try to find a time where it's not in the moment. It's easy to when they're yelling at you and when you're unhappy and you're fighting over something, it's easy to say, you know, you never support me, you're always so negative, and probably not the best time to approach it. But I agree in that I think if you can have a conversation, at least as a starting point, at least it's an attempt, it's an effort, and a genuine conversation about how this makes you feel, where it's not just only complaining, but you're explaining how you feel. And it's hard to argue with how something makes you feel. "Right, I feel this." Doesn't have to be that that's their intention, but this is how you feel. That may work. It also may not work, you know. Sometimes families, they have their own dynamics. They have their own— like, those people probably have their own healing to do that you may be able to impact. But they may also not change. And so you have to make the decision: is this something that you really want to be a part of, or do you want to limit your exposure? So that's really a personal decision. There are lots of people who've written off their families, who's like, this— I can't be around this person anymore because they're just too negative and they just tell me all the things I can't do. That may not be the way that you want to go, but there are people who've done that. I don't want to be a family counselor and tell you that, you know, there's only one way to do it and you have to cut the ties and not be around them. But at the same time, you want to be around the people who are making you happy and bringing out the best in you. And so how much do you want to limit your exposure to the other people who don't support you? One other tactic that I found kind of helpful that you might be able to use is just having no expectations. When you expect, you know, when you expect your mom to be supportive of your ideas because she's a mom and that's what moms are, you know, supposed to do, um, then they'll always let you down. And her past, you know, behavior has kind of proven that. But if you can go in thinking, you know what, I expect zero from this, I don't expect to get any kind of love or You know, and I'm not going to judge them for it. I think of them as a child, then it's a lot easier to accept whatever happens. Like, you don't get angry at a baby for crying. So just treat them like babies. Don't let their negativity impact you too much. It's harder. It's a lot harder. It's easier said than done. But something to think about. Mm-hmm.

Yeah, and we kind of got a related, I think similar kind of question coming from Lyrics River, and Lyrics River says, I have a question that pertains to this topic. I think maybe she even saw the same video. Personal development is something that I have been working on for a few years now. I truly realize that I need to be the change I want to see in the world, and to grow and become the best version of myself, I need to be able to look at myself objectively and then take action to change hindering habits and belief systems. With that being said, I am currently in a marriage with a man who is very negative and grumpy, angry. He has no interest in personal development and thinks everything is someone else's fault, which is not ideal for me at this point in my life, but I could deal with all of that using the tools in this video. However, we have two sons and my oldest who is 8 is frequently modeling his negative behavior. I know that I can't change anyone else, but how do I sit back and watch my husband teach these habits to our children knowing that kids model after their parents and habits can stick with them and become harder and harder to change once they are engraved into their subconscious mind? I'm at a loss as to what to do. "It would be great to hear someone non-biased advice. Thank you." Okay. Honestly, I think if I were in this case of kind of at the end and not knowing what to do, I wonder, do you have an ability to either A, you know, go to some kind of counseling. I don't have kids, but I know from my friends who have kids that these issues surrounding, like, difference in parenting, I mean, they obviously can be huge issues, highly stressful, on top of the negativity that you're kind of dealing with. And I think there's a lot of intricacies and sensitivities to this that I would think it would be great to maybe go to counseling. And if you can't, like, if that's not an option, I wonder if you personally could maybe go to see counselor for yourself, or, you know, like, there are tons of different support support groups that have different, you know, they're based around different issues and things. So, yeah, I mean, I definitely feel for you, and I think it is a very difficult situation, and so I would want to point you towards someone who's, you know, able to walk more intimately with you through it.

Yeah, I was just watching this video with John Assaraf, who's the guy, one of the guys from The Secret, and he was on Lewis Howes' podcast, and his parents got divorced, and they got divorced after the kids kind of moved out. And I think a lot of people kind of wait till that point before they when kids are involved, just trying to do what's best for the kids. The sad thing is, I think a lot of people go to counseling too late. It's like they go to counseling as their, like, very last step, where, you know, like, you should always be working on yourself, right? Like, personal development, you You should always be doing something on yourself and you should always be working on your relationship. One of the things that Nina and I do is we take a book, our relationship book, every weekend over breakfast. We go out on the weekend to a local coffee shop and read the book. Whoa, lots of attack. Am I gonna die? Yes, I'm gonna die. I'm gonna die. Now there's nothing, you know, not that we have the perfect relationship, but nothing, we don't, there's nothing wrong that we have to necessarily fix either. But I think it's important to have it as part of your ongoing process, not to just live with this other person, but to try to always be making things better, always be putting things on your radar, just like you're always trying to learn and you're watching videos and trying to become a better entrepreneur. You're trying to become a better wife, have a better husband, have a better relationship together. I think it's important. I don't know that like either of us can tell you this is the point where you want to, you know, pull the plug. You know, big decisions with the heart and small ones with the head. If you've checked out, then it may not be worth continuing, but it's gonna be on you to decide that. And then at what point does the family, you know, the kids, take priority over the relationship. One thing I would say though, I agree with you, it can be hard when parents have different views on parenting. I think it's important that, you know, the kids know that you love them and you're always there for them, and they will probably be okay. At the same time though, I think you— like, if you— I don't know, I don't know the extent of the relationship, like if there's abuse in the relationship or if it's just disagreements, but if you stay in a negative relationship that is toxic for you and the kids are seeing that too, that's also a lesson that you are passing on, right? You're worried about your husband teaching nega— negativity while you being willing to stay with somebody who is hurting you is a message you're passing on to your kids too. And they see that. So do you want— like, what would you want your— what would you want your daughter or son to do if they were in this kind of relationship? What would you want them to do? Because they're gonna model you. So I think that's gonna be important to to at least think about. So, make decisions with the heart. This is one of the biggest decisions of all, and it's tough. We feel for you. So hopefully that helped a little bit.

Absolutely. Alright, we thought the game— we got some chatter going on. Thought the game was about to be done and now it looks like it's carrying on. Yeah, we're still going.

We'll see what happens. We will see what happens. We've been doing some damage. Timo's been doing some work. So fingers crossed.

Yeah, Jen So Much has a comment. She says, "Yes, agree with Evan. Remember you are showing— remember what you are showing your kids too." All right, cool. And our next question is coming from— oh, we did that one. Is coming from Harsh. And Harsh says, "Hello Evan, I have a new idea related to electricity, how I share it to other companies." Okay, so we kind of answered this question already, um, and hopefully the information harsh that you heard from the previous question is somewhat helpful to you. And Evan shared, you know, that I don't know what patents of electricity— I would imagine same thing, but make sure you, whatever your idea is, that you get a patent for it. And that would be the next— that would be the first step. And then, yeah. I'd start there, patent your idea.

Yeah, I think all the same advice, like, it's still applicable, relevant from the old— from what we talked about.

Our next question is coming from Anil, and Anil says Usually the immediate managers under whom we are working when starting— when starts showing their attitudes, we will have to lose our job anyway for this. Usually the immediate managers under whom we are working when starts showing their attitude, we will have to lose our jobs anyway for this. I'm going to look at the video title for this, Evan, and make sure I— Oh, how do you deal with jealous coworkers?

Okay.

Yeah, so managers, so maybe you're having an issue, I know, with the manager and you're like starting to see attitude or maybe jealous behavior, that sort of thing. And maybe some of the advice in the video, he's specifically referring to. I would just say, as long as you are in that position, yeah, there is that reality that, you know, if it's your manager, then, you know, I believe you still have to maintain a level of respect, even if they're acting out. Again, kind of going back to all these other questions, like, you can't You really can't control what someone else is going to do. You can only control what you're going to do. And I find that when you act in a way that is integrous, you have integrity with— toward your boss or the work that you're doing, these things have a way of just kind of like—

I don't know.

I found that when you just stick to doing what you're what you need to do and not focusing on everybody else and what they're doing, you're, you're much more successful. And hey, if it's, if it's like going back to the thing, if it's, if it's like abusive or intolerable behavior, you have, you know, the ability to confront through the help of HR or whatever. But I think it's a focus thing. Got to kind of keep your focus on you, what you're doing, and And, uh, definitely a hard situation, but—

So it's the manager that's being negative and toxic?

Sounds like it.

Uh, you know, when you're in a job, having a negative manager who doesn't support what you're doing is maybe the worst thing possible. You want someone who, really, you want someone who believes in you, who is a fan of what you're doing, who's trying to give you opportunities to grow and learn from. Oh, I'm dying. I died. So I'd be looking at either one. Do I, like, is there another opportunity within the company? Can I move somewhere else? Is it a big enough company that I can do something? Or two, go look for another job. You know, like there's tons of jobs out there with managers who are way better than this person. You know, having a manager holding you back means that one, you're not gonna enjoy your day-to-day, right? You have this boss who sucks. You're unlikely to get promoted and get put on interesting, challenging projects. So, like, why do you want to be there? I wouldn't want to be there. I'd want to go do something else. So that's what I would look at. One, opportunities within the company to do something else, and two, go find a different company.

Okay. Yeah, and just make— and having the self-awareness to make sure it really is your manager, not you. Sure. I think sometimes, you know, we're not aware of how we're creating— we're part of the problem, essentially, you know.

Sure, yeah. Has this been a constant trend in your life? Has this been a consistent theme for you, where you keep feeling that you have terrible bosses? Yeah.

Why don't you give us a little game thoughts?

Game thoughts. We're about to lose. GG. Master Yi went in. Yeah, yeah, that's it, we lost. You gotta ban Master Yi, always ban Master Yi, forever and ever, always. Yeah, Master Yi is this champion that nobody really knows how to deal with. You need team coordination. Yeah, which doesn't, doesn't happen at this elo. So I got an S-. I got the best score on the team, but it was not enough to carry.

So was the experiment something you're gonna maybe keep going for? With the strategy, I mean?

Yeah, I think it was good. We just gotta ban Master Yi this one guy went— he had 15 kills. He destroyed our team. Anyway, cool. Well, my— you know, I look forward to this time. I look forward to the Rishi summary. You know, it brings me joy to feel how is Rishi gonna tie all of this together with a nice bow on it. So we're here, this is our time. Rishi is going to summarize for us and leave us with a powerful message to end— or not to end— to end today but to continue on, you know, inspire Believe Nation to go out and do something important today. I built it up enough, Rishi, I gave you an extra minute to think about what you're going to say.

I see what you're doing, I see what you're doing. Okay.

So here it is.

Yeah, and all of the questions today were really about making decisions to move forward and how to do that. And I really think that, first of all, I'm just, it's cool, Evan, that people are entrusting you with these kinds of thoughts and issues and questions, but it really still comes down to, you know, cup of big thoughts, wait, big decisions with the heart, small decisions with the head. Yeah, and, and just keep moving forward. Rocky Balboa from the start of the show, you know, no matter what, just keep going forward. Just keep going.

I love it. Well, thank you guys so much for watching. Rishi, hope you have an amazing trip. Safe travels. We'll see you in 3 weeks or so, and maybe, maybe the occasional joining in the chat. We'll see. Um, but yeah, have a great time, and we'll look forward to Jen starting us off tomorrow morning. So thank you guys also for watching. Hope you have an amazing start to your week. It's Monday, so exciting! Yes, work week is beginning. Continue to believe, guys, or whatever your one word is— rise, cup, all your other one words. Much love, guys, and we will see you soon.