Put Your Problems in Perspective with Jean-Claude Biver - #Entspresso

Good morning, Believe Nation. Today's message is put things in perspective. Over to you, Jean-Claude Biver.

When you have a downtime, like if something didn't work the way you want, what do you do to get back on that positiveness? I talk to the mountain. I have a mountain next to my home that is called Rocher de Mai. It It's very low. It goes up to 2,400 or 2,500 meters. Or I talk to the Dents du Midi, which is 4,000 meters, which is a little bit further away from my home, which I see every morning. I see those two mountains. And I say to these two mountains, "Mountains, I have a problem. But when I look at you, you are 37 million old." And I'm a little guy. You seem to be okay and strong and tall. I'm a little guy here with a little problem. Can you help me? Me, they will say, come on, look what we have already seen in so many years. Your problem is a nano problem. Come on, get up. Just get up, do it. That's it.

Entrepreneurs do stupid things when they lose perspective. People do stupid things when they lose perspective. You make decisions that are not in the best interest of your long-term self, of the best version of yourself. 'cause you're so clouded by what's happening in the moment and you can't step out above. I may be a, I may be the wrong target for this one. I have a hard time with this message, mostly because I don't get lost that much in the day-to-day. I don't lose perspective that much. I think it's just more my personality. I don't get too highs with the highs and I don't get too low with the lows. I'm always constantly on stream, like, here's what we're trying to do. Okay, if there's a problem, great. Problem solve it. But a problem in my business doesn't have a major impact for the most part on how I feel about myself. And so we can get back on it. There's been maybe 5 days in my life where I've just been so down or out or crazy that I lost perspective on what I was trying to do. I think about when, you know, the hardest day of my life when I told my business partner that I quit, and it was just kind of in the moment, frustrated, feeling out of control, feeling like I had no value to give, feeling so worthless that I made a rash decision telling him that I quit, and I didn't have the perspective. But I got up the next day and I went back to work. I just realized I had to find a different way to stand. I realized it was still something that I really cared about. And so I don't really do a lot of things where I lose perspective, but I can understand for others how it can be. I'm the, I'm the weird one. I'm the I'm the crazy one. I realize it's not most people. I think one thing though that can definitely help is gratitude. I think when you are grateful for the things in your life, you easily gain more perspective. It's something that I have a daily routine of and have had for years because it also just makes me feel good. If you think about how fortunate you are even just to be watching this video, to have internet, to have a house, you know, to be fed, to live in an age where you have access to people who've done run things that you want to do and can learn from, where 10 years ago even this didn't exist. Forget about your— what your grandparents or great-grandparents had access to. For the air that you get to breathe, you know, for the people in your life, for you just being a human being instead of an ant, you know. Like, there's so many things you can be grateful for, and just thinking about those things can make your problems seem a lot smaller, a lot less significant, a lot less important. And that will allow you to then go off and do the right thing. So I'd encourage you that if you ever feel like life is spiraling out of control, one, try not to make any decisions when that's happening. Try not to make an important life decision by reacting quickly to something. Just hold your tongue and sleep on it. And then two, just try to think about what you can be grateful for. What is good in your life? There may be a lot that you feel is terrible in your life, but compared to most of the world, you've got it pretty good. And it's really hard to be depressed and angry and vengeful and hateful and spiteful. It's hard to hold those emotions at the same time as being grateful. And so if you can focus on your gratitude and what you really are thankful for, they can help give you the perspective you need to make the best decisions for you. So the question of the day today is— this is what I do every day, I'm curious— 3 things that you are grateful for Leave it down in the comments below. Super curious to find out, and we will join in the discussion. I also want to give a quick shout out to Christian. Christian, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word. It really, really, really, really means a lot to me, and I hope you're enjoying it. Thank you guys so much for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is, and I'll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso. I wake up every morning, espresso keep me going. Hey, Believe Nation, thank you so much for watching. If you want to learn more about this subject, get a little bit deeper on it, I'm going to share some extra bonus clips that I hope you'll enjoy.

And my question is, I'm an entrepreneur, it's very great, but not all days are great in a company.

So what are your tips and tricks for, you know, tough days?

I think there's massive confusion around entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurship sucks. I mean, it's lonely, it's high risk. I mean, I can't live without it, but it's like a bad boyfriend, right, or girlfriend, right? Like, like, it's there's a ton of bad days being an entrepreneur. Not to mention 98% of entrepreneurial ventures are gonna fail. So there's gonna be a really bad fucking day in your future. You know, hopefully not for you. Or any of you. You know, for me, I don't, you know, I think this is a very personal question. I think it's how you're wired. I'm so all-in entrepreneur, I prefer the pain. I think one of the reasons I love the Jets so much is 'cause they bring me so much pain. You know, I, I love the climb. To me, the setback is exciting. I love when something goes wrong. It's where I shine the most. But that's not for everybody, right? I mean, it could be very difficult, and when you start affecting your life and your loved ones and all the other things, it can get real nasty. To me, the way I handle things, even the few rare days when I really struggle, I take a real step back and make pretend that somebody called me and told me that my mother or daughter were killed. And I know that's very dark, and I apologize, but it's really what I do. I literally am able to, at my deepest, most struggling moment within business, take a step back and remind myself that I could make a trillion dollars tomorrow on Bitcoin, and if something bad happened to the people I love the most, that it would mean nothing. Very consistently rewires me very quickly. I just put business in perspective. At the end of the day, you know, it's money. For me, it's not really money, it's my legacy, so I get hurt by it a little bit more. But yeah, I mean, it's, you know, I put it in perspective. It's money. And you know what? Up until I had a daughter, even while I was married, up until when I had Misha 4 years ago, I secretly wanted to lose all my money. I had this weird, twisted, dark fantasy of losing everything just to rise again like a phoenix and remind you.

You, you, I mean, obviously you can't come on a show like this without mention of the wanking in the toilet thing. Which one? Which wanking in the toilet thing? Which one? The arresting. Oh, of course. That one, yeah, the one we've heard about. And the time I got caught, you mean? Yeah, that one. Possibly it's the last time. And see, this is the thing, this is the thing, that the way you talk about it is your fantastic sort of unapologetic emotions. And you didn't go into hiding, you didn't, you know, sort of go, you know, draw the curtains. Like, was it the next night you were out in a restaurant in LA having dinner? Absolutely. Well, I mean, what's to apologize for?

You know, I'm a gay man.

I'm— at the time I was like 36 years old. Can I be— if I'm perfectly honest, if I'm perfectly, perfectly honest, outside of my career, I've had a terrible run of luck that started about 10 years ago. I've watched a partner die, I've watched my mother die. I went— just after that I had— I went to see a back surgeon who told me that if I didn't have 2 vertebra removed within the next 6 months to a year that I could be paralyzed. So you just learn to have a different perspective. I don't give a toss if people have a real problem with me, you know, uh, having— thank you. I have a different perspective on life. I've lost a lot of great things, but I still have a lot of incredible things, and I— and the press doesn't really enter into it.

Do you feel underrated as a rapper?

Not as of lately. Like, which is crazy. For a long time, man, for years, I was pissed. So a song on the album called "Buried Alive" is about that exact thing. You know, it's about, like, me kind of going, "How come he gets the so-and-so cosign?" or "How come he gets that?" or "How come they get that?" I can tour the world, I can sell out shows, I got fans, I got this.

What the fuck, man?

Like, being angry. You know, I had a friend tell me, she basically said, "Those same people who have the cosigns and have the this and have the looks, are the same people who are going, "How come I ain't got fans like this then? How come I can't tour on my own? How come I can't this?" Like, what the fuck? So it kind of put things in perspective for me and let me go, "Okay, I don't have it yet, but if I keep fighting and I keep working hard and I keep staying on this path, it's gonna happen." And as of late, within the last few months, man, just from releasing the singles and the music videos and this solid body of work, I've truly began to get what I deserve.