"The HERO Has to BE a MONSTER!" - Jordan B. Peterson (@jordanbpeterson) - #Entspresso

The hero has to be a monster, but a controlled monster. Batman is like that.

I wasn't only standing up for myself, I was standing up for anybody and everybody who have been mistreated in the boardroom or anywhere else in the workplace.

You have to think outside the box. That's what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?

Rise and shine, it's espresso time! Good morning, Believe Nation. My name is Lely, and my one word word is extraordinary. I believe that every single human being is capable of extraordinary things when they embrace who they truly are and go after what they truly want. So let's start your day off right together. Go grab yourself a cup of coffee and sip on today's message. Don't be harmless. Over to you, Jordan Peterson.

I wake up every morning, espresso keep me going. I wake up every morning.

You're harmless, you're not virtuous. You're just harmless. You're like a rabbit. A rabbit isn't virtuous. It's just— it just can't do anything except get eaten. It's not virtuous. If you're a monster and you don't act monstrously, then you're virtuous. But you also have to be a monster. Well, you see this all the time. Harry Potter's like that too. It's like he's He's flawed, he's hurt, he's got evil in him. He can talk to snakes, man. He breaks rules all the time. All the time. He's not obedient at all. But, you know, he has a good reason for breaking the rules. And if he couldn't break the rules, him and his little clique of rule-breaking, you know, troublemakers, if they didn't break the rules, they wouldn't attain the highest goal. So it's very peculiar, but it's very, very, very, very, very common. Mythological notion. You know, the hero has to be— the hero has to be a monster, but a controlled monster. Batman is like that, you know. I mean, it's everywhere. It's the story you always hear.

If you want something very important in life, then don't be harmless. The world belongs to people who can summon that monster, stand up for what they believe in, and go after what's rightfully theirs. Now, what does that even mean, the monster? In my opinion, the monster is a side of us that we could bring out, the side of us that says, you know what, I'm no longer going to tolerate this. I'm going to stand up for what I believe in and I'm going to say no when the time is right. In other words, it's really being assertive. Now, being assertive is a skill that I had to develop really early on in my career. I was 20 years old, fresh out of college, really ambitious. And my job required me to go into these boardrooms and negotiate pricing and terms with these powerful, intimidating men who are twice my age. And in the first 6 months, I was just completely destroyed because naturally I'm a very agreeable, compassionate person, so I just let people win all over the place. I would just walk away feeling completely defeated, and as a result, my job performance started going down along with my self-confidence. Confidence and self-esteem. And really, it was my fault. I needed to take the responsibility because I allowed this to happen. I allowed people to walk all over me and treat me like a doormat. And it wasn't until I was able to make that decision and summon the monster within. I was a super nice girl, and even the nicest of people have a monster inside of us that we could tap into. For me at the time was inequality, how women were treated in the workplace, and I was a perfect example of that. So I just summoned all that energy and I practiced a lot, and eventually I went into the boardroom, I just completely unleashed it on everybody else. And I remember the first time I did it. I remember what I did physically. There was this one man, for some reason he just loved yelling at me while I was sitting on a chair, and he would just stand up and just yell down at me the whole time about everything that I'm doing wrong. And I remember summoning up that monster. I was like, I just had to say something. So I just stood right up and I'm a tall woman. So he was a lot shorter than me and I looked down on him and I said, listen, I do not agree with your direction. If we go down this path, we're going to lose massive amounts of money and I have all the research to back it up. And at that moment, he kind of stood back and his eyes started to change. For the first time, he started to have respect for me because I earned it in that moment. And it felt so great for me because I wasn't only standing up for myself, I was standing up for anybody and everybody who have been mistreated in the boardroom or anywhere else in the workplace. I felt great. I felt like I could be the advocate of this. I could be a feminist now. I was so excited. And everything started happening for me. I started making more money, I started getting promotions, people had a lot of respect for me. And at the same time, I forgot a side to me, the side that was caring and compassionate. I was so busy summoning this monster, this monster was just completely uncontrolled and it was everywhere. It showed up in places that it didn't need to be. And it wasn't until I was able to become more mature that I understood the beauty between harnessing both being a caring, compassionate person, at the same time summoning up that monster when you need to. Now today, I live somewhere in 80/20. 80% of the time I am caring, compassionate, and I'll put other people's feelings before mine. And the 20%, I really turn it up and I summon that monster when I need to. When I need to say no, I have to summon that monster. Now, for all of you, If you're trying to summon that monster, understand when you assert yourself in situations, there are gonna be consequences. You're gonna ruffle people's feathers. People are not gonna agree with you, and you need to develop the mindset to be okay with that. And at the same time, you could use your caring and compassionate side to take care of people as well. The world is big enough for all of us. We could get whatever it is that we want. We just need to know at the right time to summon that monster and don't be harmless. Now I have a special bonus clip for you, but before we get to that, the question of the day is, what is that one area in your life that you need to stand up for yourself? Write in the comments below and I'll join in on the discussion. Now enjoy a bonus clip. Thank you so much for watching. We believe in you and hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is, and we'll see you again tomorrow. Tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso. Rise and shine! Rise and shine. Okay, I'm ready. Don't be harmless.

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Break the rules. We have so many rules in life about everything. I say break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. My wife has a t-shirt, my wife has a t-shirt that says, "Well-behaved women rarely make history." Well, you know, I don't want to burst her bubble, but the same is true with men. It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you're too well-behaved and don't want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That's what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble? The only way that I ever got anyplace was by breaking some of the rules. After all, I remember that after I was finished with my bodybuilding career, I wanted to get into acting and I wanted to be a star in films. You can imagine what the agent said when I went to meet meet all those agents. Everyone had the same line that it can't be done. The rules are different here. Just look at your body. You have this huge monstrous body, overly developed, that doesn't fit into the movies. You don't understand. This was 20 years ago, the Hercules movies. Now there is the little guys that are in. Dustin Hoffman, Woody Allen, Jack Nicholson, before he gained weight, of course, that is. But anyway, those are the guys that were in. And the agent also complained about my accent. He says, "No one ever became a star with an accent like that, especially not with a German accent. And yes, I can imagine with your name, Arnold Schwarzen Schnitzel, or whatever the name is, on a billboard, yeah, that's going to draw a lot of tickets and sell a lot of tickets." Yeah, right. So this is the kind of negative attitude they had, but I didn't listen to those rules, even though they were very nice and they said, "Look, we can get you some bit parts, we can make— get you to be a, you know, playing a wrestler or bouncer. Oh, maybe with your German accent we can get you to be a Nazi officer in Hogan's Heroes or something like that. But, you know, I didn't listen to all this. This was their rules, not my rules. I was convinced I could do it, that if I worked as hard as I did in bodybuilding, 5 hours a day, and I started getting to work, I started taking acting classes, took English classes, took speech classes, dialogue classes, accent removal classes I even took. I remember running around, "A fine wine grows on a vine." You see, because Germans have difficulties with the F and the W and the V. So, "Fine wine grows on a vine." I know what some of you now say is, "I hope that Arnold got his money back." But let me tell you something, I had a good time doing those things and it really helped me. And finally I broke through. I broke through and I started getting the first parts. In TV, Streets of San Francisco, Lucille Ball hired me. I made Pumping Iron, Stay Hungry, and then I got the big break in Conan the Barbarian. And there the director said, "If we wouldn't have Schwarzenegger, we would have to build one." Now think about that. And then when I did Terminator, "I'll be back" became one of the most famous lines in movie history. All because of my crazy accent. Now think about it, the things that the agent said would be totally a detriment and would be impossible for me to get a job all of a sudden became an asset for me. All of those things, my accent, my body and everything. So it just shows you, never listen to that you can't do something. And you have to work your way up, of course, run for something else first. I mean, it was the same when I ran for governor. The same lines that you have to work your way up, it can't be done. And then, of course, I ran for governor, and the rest, of course, is history. They said, you have to start with a small job as mayor, and then as assemblyman, and then as lieutenant governor, and then as governor. And they said, that's the way it works in a political career. I said, I'm not interested in a political career. I want to be a public servant. I want to fix California's problems and bring people together and bring the parties together. So, like I said, I decided to run. I didn't pay attention to the rules. And I made it and the rest is history. So let me give you the one word secret to happiness. One word.

This is all you need to be happy. The most important word ever.

If you had to think of one word that's most important to you or that sums you up or that would be kind of like a little beacon.

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