"The NUMBER ONE Thing You Need to WIN is HUNGER!" | Ed Mylett

So the number one thing we need more than anything to win is hunger, which comes from a state of desperation.

You know exactly what you're afraid of. You know exactly what you've been avoiding, and you got to make a decision to change it.

You've got to start to build a habit of being decisive. Successful people, happy people, leaders are decisive people.

But the underestimated thing in life is the ability to communicate your thoughts and your ideas. In the world today, information is a dime a dozen.

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He's Ed Mylett, and here's my take on his Top 10 Rules of Success Volume 7. Enjoy. Okay, let's kick it off with rule number 1: be hungry.

How bad do you want your goal right now? I think there's a lot of people in the world today, because it's a really niche thing to talk about— I want this, this is my outcome, this is my goal— like, how bad do you want it? Do you want it as bad as breathing? Do you want it as bad as anything you ever wanted in your life? And if you calibrate it at the highest enough levels, what I found is the people that are the hungriest, they find a way. When you know why you want something, when it's Desperation. The power of being desperate is something that most people avoid. They think desperation is a weakness, and I'm here to tell you desperation is one of the most powerful emotions you could possibly possess because when you're desperate, you find reserves and reservoirs of ideas, talents, and a strength that you don't know you have when you find yourself in a desperate situation. So ironically, the one thing most people avoid in their life Hunger, which is caused by being desperate. When you're starving, you become desperate. Think of somebody who's starving on the street. They've got to— how resourceful would you get if your children were literally starving and you had to feed them, right? So the number one thing we need more than anything to win is hunger, which comes from a state of desperation. Yet we're constantly trying to comfort ourselves in the real world to avoid the state of being desperate. And I'm telling you that I think you need to embrace desperation again in your life. Like, do you want it so bad that you're desperate for it? See, in a fight, you show me two people. This is why it's so hard to repeat as a champion in the fighting game. 'Cause you show me someone who's up and coming, who's hungry for that title, who's never had it before, who can taste it, who knows if they win that belt, their whole life's gonna change. They're gonna be champion of the world, all the endorsements, all the money, all their family life, all their parents' lives are gonna change. You show me somebody chasing that, hungry for it, against someone who's just trying to hold onto a title, and that's why most of the time the challenger beats the champ. It's hard to repeat as a champion because the hunger goes down just a little bit. The greatest athletes, the Kobys, the Bradys, the Jordans of sports, have a way of feeding their hunger all the time and increasing it. What separates them isn't just their work ethic, isn't just their talent, although those things matter, isn't just they practice more, What separates them is they're just hungrier. They somehow find a way as they climb up the ranks and win championships to get even hungrier for more, where 99% of the athletes lose just a little bit of their edge once they get that first championship, that first pro contract, that first big amount of money, that first world championship. They just lose their hunger a little bit. And then there's the elite. They get hungrier. It feeds the beast.

Rule number 2: Take responsibility.

No one's going to do anything for you. A couple rules of being a real leader: you need to take responsibility for your own life, bringing energy to your team, leading and recruiting, leading in leadership, leading in growth. Nobody owes you anything, but you owe other people everything. That's what a leader does. You take responsibility. You know exactly right now what you're not doing. It would be criminal of you to leave here and say, I don't know what to do. You know exactly what you're afraid of. You know exactly what you've been avoiding, and you got to make a decision to change it. You know exactly what it is. Don't BS anybody. You know what you need to do different. You know the changes you need to make. And if you could do that, you stop kidding yourself. You can win. You can overcome your fear, overcome procrastination, whatever that is.

Rule number 3: Change your patterns.

You are not your possessions. You are not your accomplishments. You are not what other people say you are. You are not what you look like. And guess what else you're not? You are not your patterns, but your Life becomes a combination and a result of your patterns. The great thing about us is that we can change these patterns if we identify them. The pattern has no power over you once you know it's a program and a pattern running. The minute you start, you go, "I'm doing it again, aren't I? I'm doing this thing I do every time I accumulate money. I'm doing the same thing every time me and my spouse get in a disagreement. I'm doing the same thing every time I'm starting to feel loved by somebody." and I push them away. Every time things start to go bad financially, I spiral. Every time there's adversity, I do the same pattern where I start worrying. Every time I get fit, I do the same pattern. When you begin to see these things, you begin to go, my gosh, this isn't who I am. That's not your identity. There's a difference between your identity and your pattern. And the more you begin to build your identity, as I've talked about my other audios, and be aware of patterns, and then simply ask yourself, when this comes up again in the future, what pattern would serve me? What pattern can I take control of? What would be the steps I need to take that will create the bliss I want or the win I want or the production I want? What would the pattern need to be?

Rule number 4, be decisive.

You've got to start to build a habit of being decisive. Successful people, happy people, leaders are decisive people. And I believe somewhere, if there's 100 problems, challenges in life, 85 of them should be decided immediately with not a lot of deliberation. And then certainty and massive action will eliminate that challenge and that problem most of the time. It's the people who procrastinate on the problem or ignore it or think it might go away that gives that problem time to magnify, to fester, to grow to where now it's become bigger than it needed to be.

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The reason people aren't patient is they value other people's opinions too much.

You have to go build self-confidence.

So while you're in this passionate state, that's where you make decisions.

Rule number 5: Believe.

Lack of belief, it'll steal your dream. You gotta know you're gonna win. You gotta have some faith. These people sitting around you right now, they're whispering to you, "You could do this. I believe in you." Just like when you were a little boy, just like when you were a little girl, they've always believed in you. They've always known you're gonna do something special. They always knew you were great. You need to know it. You need to take that God that's sitting there with you and those precious souls that have passed that have always believed in you, and you carry them with you everywhere. They're with you anyway. Acknowledge them. If you don't believe that, honor them.

Honor God, honor these people who believed in you with your magnificent life.

Honor them. Don't give in to lack of belief, lack of confidence. Don't ever do that again. Don't do it in WFG or out of WFG. You were made to do something great. You're special. You were made in the image of God. Something awesome's supposed to happen for you. And those of you that have made something awesome happen, something even more awesome is supposed to happen for you.

Rule number 6, don't compare yourself to others.

Don't compare yourself. Most of the people you see on social media or even in your personal life, or even when you go to lunch with them or see them at work, they're wearing what I would call a public mask. It's the best possible version that they can put out to themselves. And oftentimes what we do in life is we compare our real identity that we're working on and we're growing to their mask. And that's not fair to ourselves at all. Any comparison doesn't serve us. And it's oftentimes this comparison When you're in a disagreement with somebody, it's the mask they're wearing compared to the identity you have, and then you begin to run a pattern to respond to it. It happens in, in fitness, in relationships, in money, and in business. Remember, you're in charge of controlling your own identity and growing your own identity and being aware of the patterns you have that do and do not serve you. Not comparing yourself to someone else's public representative. It's just the representative they're putting out there. It's not who they really are. and it's not something that you need to be aware of because it's not something you can control. The more you can begin to delineate in life between things I can control and I cannot control would be to the extent that you're more productive and you're happier. You can control your own thoughts, your own emotions, your own identity, and your own patterns, not other people's.

Rule number 7, get laser focused.

Human beings that get obsessed and immersed in any topic can become great at it, and so can you. So pick what you want and get laser focused. Begin to eliminate all the distractions. You are not hungry enough. You are not starving enough, and you are not focused enough. I say this to you as a friend. What are the things that are stealing your focus? Who are the people that are stealing your focus? And begin to eliminate these distractions. Get laser focused and obsessed on what you want. Be starving and hungry to get it. Be desperate to get it. The combination of desperation and hunger with laser focus over an extended period of time is the formula to be great at something. And you can apply this formula. Get laser focused, eliminate distractions, eliminate the things that steal your laser focus on it, your research on it, your obsession on it. Begin to do these things and you will begin to change your entire life.

Rule number 8, master communication.

What is probably the most important thing to me in my life is I think that my children think that their daddy helps people. And what they've learned from me, both of them, is massive work ethic. Both my kids are super hardworking, good people. All I want them to have when they leave my house is I want them to have my work ethic. Yeah, I want them to have their faith, and I want them to have self-confidence, and I want them to be able to communicate. I think if you can leave the family with those things— work ethic, faith, self-confidence, and the ability to communicate— you're probably going to a pretty good life. It takes care of every area. Your faith's going to make sure you're a good person and you contribute and you do well and you've got morals. Your self-confidence is obvious. Work ethic is obvious. But the underestimated thing in life is the ability to communicate your thoughts and your ideas. In the world today, information is a dime a dozen. If you're going to succeed in this life, you have to be able to communicate how you're feeling and thinking and transfer information to people. And I want them to be good at that too. Those are the things I always I always think of with my kids.

Rule number 9, focus on a solution, not a problem.

Problems need energy to live. I want you to own that. Remember this, problems need energy to live. And so the concept should be that we solve problems, but we don't have to pour and deplete ourselves of energy because the more energy you give something, the more it expands. We want to be in the max out universe. We want to pour our energy and expense our energy towards the solution not towards the problem. So the first thing I want you to write down is: 90% of your energy, focus, time, and thought should be towards the solution, not towards the problem itself. This is a mistake most people make because they expend all the energy into the problem. They obsess over the problem, the problem, and when you expand energy, it grows to survive, and the problem gets bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger, and the solution becomes more and more difficult. So the first thing is, can you consciously begin to focus on energy expansion into the solution, 90% of it into the solution and not into the problem? What we do is we repeat that problem over and over and over again, and we magnify it to the point where we don't come up with realistic solutions and we deplete ourselves as energy towards the solution. And so focus going forward when a problem arises, a challenge arises, that you focus 90% of your energy and thoughts on the solution and not repeating the problem to yourself.

And rule number 10, the last one before a very special bonus clip, is seek more bliss.

Assuming you want more bliss in your life, decide to have it and take some actions towards getting it. So let me ask you a question. What are you doing currently to create more bliss in your life? What are the actions you're taking to give yourself more bliss. You are intentionally seeking more bliss because bliss is going to lead to more wealth, more abundance, more fitness, more faith, better relationships, more happiness, more peace, more wins, more success, more recognition, more significance. So what are you consciously doing now that you've chosen bliss? What is the consistent action you're taking to create more in your life? What are you doing to give yourself bliss.

Now I've got a special bonus clip from Ed on how to compete that I really think you're going to enjoy. But before that, it's time for the 3-point landing questions. Time to go from just watching a video to taking action. Here we go. Question number 1: What's a problem you see people complaining about that you can solve? Number 2: Where do you need to stop comparing yourself to others? And number 3: What daily pattern of yours do you need to change?

You gotta compete. I agree with what Monty said yesterday. You don't have to be number one, but dadgummit, you better want to compete to be the best version of you you could possibly be. Your desire and will to win is everything. I believe you win with intangibles, with emotion, with energy, with passion, and you got to bring that.

If you want more Ed Mylett, check out the top 50 rules video I made on him. The link is right there next to me. I think you'll enjoy it. Continue to believe, and I'll see you there.

The comfortable road will never lead you to the person you are destined to be, ever in your life.

I'm constantly in a crisis to get to the next version of me.