What Gives You Energy? The One Word You Need to Focus on for Your Purpose.

Everyone talks about passion, legacy, purpose, blah, blah, blah.

The one word to pay attention to is energy.

I think you should chase what energizes you. Everyone talks about passion, legacy, purpose, blah, blah, blah. The one word to pay attention to is energy.

I love that.

That's it. Let's simplify this.

Okay.

So whatever energizes you, naturally expands you, feels like possibility, is exciting to do— it may be scary, that doesn't matter. It has to do with how it makes you feel.

Right.

When you were in your 20s, money made you feel good. It expanded you. It energized you. Chasing the money, that was the game. That was your passion. That was your purpose. There's nothing Nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with that. And I particularly want to say that to the women that are watching. Because it is socialized into women not to chase success like that, not to go after the money. And so if what energizes you is amassing wealth, go for it. But what ha— and the reason why I say that is because people talk about the word passion or purpose. And the truth is it's not a person, place, or a thing. It's not. It is the feeling of being expanded and energized.

Right.

If you're pursuing your passion, it means that you wake up every day and are energized. So instead of trying to think, "What's my purpose? What's my passion? What's my purpose? What's my passion?

I don't know." Yeah.

Instead of thinking like that, I want you instead to ask yourself, "What's— what could I do today that would energize me?" What energizes me? If it's making money, figure out how to make money, right? If it is making a difference, figure out how to make a difference. It could be in any single shape or form, but if it energizes you, that's what you need to follow. And what happens is that passion also, because it's energy, it dissipates over time. Because when you first start making money, it's thrilling. Thrilling. There is nothing more exhilarating than making your first million. Nothing more exhilarating. But what happens is once you learn how to do something once, you can do it over and over again. And so it starts to become routine, which means it's no longer energizing, which is why every entrepreneur out there goes through the mode of chasing the money, and then you hit the money that you need to make. Then you're like, I'm not fulfilled.

Yeah, I went through that.

I need to find a life. You know, I did that.

Everybody does. Yeah.

And it's because you were energized by the money and now you're not.

Yeah.

Now you got to be energized by the next thing.

Yeah. I'm going to go in a different direction on this one. There's definitely something more exciting than chasing your first million, and you don't have to keep chasing the next thing and wondering what the next thing is and keep chasing, not having clarity. Finding your purpose, guys, is not that difficult. It's not that difficult. It's one of the most common questions that I get. Here's how you do it. You think about the time in your life where you felt the most worthless. Think about the time, the lowest low that you've ever experienced in your life. What was that moment? Your purpose now, where you will get the most fulfilled of all time, will be helping people who are currently going through the thing that you went through. That's it. Think about the most painful moments of your life, the thing that you would never want to experience ever again. Think about the thing you would never wish upon your worst enemy, definitely not your friends, your family, your kids. Think about that moment. Your greatest purpose, your greatest enjoyment, your greatest fulfillment in life will come from helping people who are currently facing that thing that you faced. That is your purpose for life. It will never get old. Helping those people will never get tiring. I love helping entrepreneurs. Why? Why do I spend so much time helping entrepreneurs? Why am I doing my tour? Why am I posting 3 times a day on YouTube? Why am I posting 6 times a day on Instagram? Why do I do all this work helping entrepreneurs? Because I struggled so much as an entrepreneur myself. Because when I was 19 and started my business, and I was struggling, and I was failing, and I was making $300 a month, and I was too embarrassed to tell my friends that I couldn't barely survive, that I was making no money. When I turned down these high-paying jobs, I was embarrassed, I was ashamed. I told my business partner once that I quit. I felt so bad about myself as a human. That once I made it, I built my business, I sold it, I had success, the greatest joy in life for me comes from still helping those pure startup entrepreneurs. I love helping people who've already made it get to the next level. I love helping somebody who has a million in revenue and help them get to 2 and 5 and 10. It's great. But I resonate so much more with the person who's just getting started, who's struggling, who's afraid, who's putting in tons of work and not seeing results. And that will be my purpose for life. You can find your purpose the exact same way and then have clarity for the rest of your life. And you don't have to chase one thing and then another thing and then another thing, and now I'm in it for money and I'm in it for this. You don't have to do that. Here's where I really agree with Mel on chasing energy. I love the idea of chasing energy within your purpose. So you found out your why, right? That's your why. The next step is you figure out your how. The how is how are you going to fulfill it? So it's great that I love helping entrepreneurs. Amazing. How am I going to do that? There's a lot of different ways for me to do it, and that will change, and that's where I can chase energy. So as an example, I started with my website. I started with my website. I love the idea of having a place for people to come to and consume content and have— I had 100,000+ pieces of content on my website. And then I started experimenting with YouTube just as something to test and play around with, and I love that even more. And so eventually I shut down my website, I closed my 8 people who were on that team, brought them all over to YouTube, then scaled my team to have 24 people who's helping me with my YouTube business. Because that was where my energy was going. The website could still work. There's lots of ways to win. But my energy was over here. I love YouTube. I love making videos much more than writing content. Recently, in the past 6 months, I felt a lot of energy going to my Instagram. Why did I pick up Instagram? Why have I gone so hardcore on Instagram? Because I went on and I did an Instagram Live session. And I realized that when you did Instagram Live, you could bring people in picture-in-picture. That I could be coaching and helping somebody from my place in Toronto to somebody here in Columbus where I'm at now, or Chicago, or Zambia, or anywhere in the world. And I could see them! Because when you get text questions on a YouTube Live, you can't go deep, you can't get the context, you can't ask back and forth. Because it's very rarely the question somebody comes in at with the actual question that's buried deep below. The thing they actually need to work on. But when you have them picture in picture, and I'm a visual learner, so I love being able to see people's reactions, when I can see them there, I can help them a lot more. And that Instagram Live alone is the thing that got me to play a much bigger game on Instagram. In the past 6 months, I've grown my account from 8,000 followers or so to 100,000 now. My energy is going there. And so, where the energy goes, Right? Results will follow. But it's still within my purpose of helping entrepreneurs. And so you don't have to stumble around through life chasing one thing and then the next and the next. When you have your clarity of purpose, it makes everything so much easier. But then chase the energy within that purpose because the how will change a million times. Because YouTube for me won't be around in 10 years. Maybe it's still here, but it won't be the same thing. Eventually it's going to be Evan coming to you in holographic format, you know, or it's going to be VR Evan coming at you. But it's my purpose for life to help entrepreneurs. And you can figure out yours just as easily. Go to that deepest moment, go to the most painful moment. That's going to be your purpose forever, helping other people never have to experience that thing that you felt worthless for. That's it. Now I've got a really special bonus clip that I think you're going to enjoy, but before that, question of the day. I want to know what was your deepest, darkest, most painful moment and how has that transitioned to your purpose? I'd love to hear from you. Please leave it in the comments below.

Here's how you develop a passion. It starts as a minor area of interest. You gain areas of interest by encountering a lot of stuff. So if you haven't encountered a lot of things in your life, go out there and encounter stuff. Go sailing, go Take a dance class, go study neuroscience, like whatever it is, just encounter a whole bunch of very broad, diverse things. From that, you're gonna get sparks of interest like, oh, I actually found that interesting, I wanna learn more. Dive deep through engagement, not through pondering, through engagement, you're going to realize whether something is gonna turn into an area of fascination. So as you go deeper into it, you're gonna either become fascinated or you're not. If you're not fascinated, move on. If you are fascinated, then that's an area where you're gonna ask yourself one very simple question. Do I want to become the best in the world at that thing? If you do, if you wanna become truly extraordinary in that thing, then go down the path of gaining mastery. Now the reason I think that it's wise to ask that question going in is when you frame it of I'm gonna become the best in the world at this, immediately people understand the amount of time, energy, and weight that it would take to become truly great at that thing, and I don't think that passion can happen unless you're becoming truly great at that thing. That's part of passion. I don't think people are deeply passionate about something that they really suck at, and I'll give you an example. I love video games. I absolutely love playing first-person shooters. I learn a lot from them. I get a lot out of them. I really just intrinsically enjoy the time. It has both that sense of eating a cake because it's just fun in the moment and I pull from it life lessons, business lessons. I practice getting out of the sympathetic nervous system into the parasympathetic nervous system. It's literally gamified. So I'm getting better. I have points. I can, you know, have my improvement turned into metrics. It's all of it I really, really enjoy. But I won't say that I'm deeply passionate about it because I'm just not that good at it. So that's one of those things. If I really wanted to develop a deep passion for video games and put it at the center of my life, that then I would set down that path of really practicing. Now, this is like this is the most important thing that passion will do for you, which is it's gonna pull you through boredom, it's gonna pull you through the hard times, and that's why it's really gotta be something that you just are prepared to become great at. Because when you're prepared to become great, there's just these insane moments of boredom, repetition, and all of that, and if you have this burgeoning passion coming out of that, that's what's gonna give you the energy to get through it. So it's this symbiotic relationship between a developing passion and how hard it is to actually really get great at something. So the things you get great at need to be something that is this developing passion. So there you have it, that's how you do it and that's why you do it.

And if you want more Mel Robbins, check out the 5 Hacks and Strategies to Transform Your Life video. The link is right there next to me. I think you'll enjoy it. Continue to believe and I'll see you there.

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