You'll do to your child what was done to you, unless you notice it | Dr. Shefali

Then when I had a child, I realized, wow, I'm now going to do to my child what was done to me. Questioned, called to harness, called to examine themselves. They're told, these are your values. You have every right to pass them on. And that unquestioned part of parenthood is what I began to question and challenge parents that just because it's your value, is it the best value? Then when I had a child, I realized, wow, I am now going to do to my child what was done to me. Just because it's your belief system, do you have a right to pass it on to your child? And parents don't like when I say that because they feel like they own their children. So of course they're going to pass down their religion, their belief systems, their attitudes towards sexuality and race and everything. And when I ask parents to heal first, examine first, go on a journey first, they don't like it. They feel like they have every right to do whatever they want with their children. Even if they're passing down something toxic.