If It Feels Uncomfortable MOVE!

Hi, everyone, it's Alexandra. Today's video is if you're uncomfortable, move. And it was inspired by a yoga workshop that I was doing, and it was really fantastic. We had been doing some hip openers and we were feeling the effects, so we had our legs out to the side and just feeling the effects sitting on the ground. And it was really uncomfortable for me. And it didn't feel good on my back, it didn't feel good on my legs. And it was really hard to actually feel the effects because I was so consumed with, I don't really like this position. It doesn't really feel good. And at the end of it, Kira, who was teaching the workshop, said, alexandra, how was that for you? And I said, you know, to be honest, I was so distracted that I just. I was hating that position. It didn't feel good, you know, so I actually didn't feel the effects in my body because I was so, so consumed with not enjoying the posture. And I kind of felt bad, you know. And then she said, well, why didn't you just move to a posture that felt good? And we kind of laughed about it. And it was. It stayed with me because it's. Why didn't I move? Why don't we move? And it was a great inquiry to noticing when everyone else is doing something and you've been told to do something by a teacher or a coach or somebody, anybody who you look up to, and this is just what everyone's doing, so you do it and it doesn't feel good yet. We stay in the posture, we stay in the position, we stay in the job, we stay in whatever, because that's what we think we should do. And it was just really. It was really, really interesting. And I found myself realizing that how we do this in our lives and how I do this in my life, where I feel like, this is how you're supposed to look and this is what you're supposed to be doing in yoga and this is how you should be doing. Then I notice that I stop it and I feel into, okay, great. That's how you're supposed to be doing it. What feels right for me. And sometimes in yoga classes, I'm not doing the right postures, and sometimes I in life, not doing what is normal or what I think I should be or other people think I should be doing. But I think the biggest thing is that we're comfortable in our lives. And I think it's a great question and to ask yourself, you know, am I comfortable? Am I comfortable in my relationship? Am I comfortable with myself, Am I comfortable with my career? You know, comfortable with any area of your life. Do you feel at home in your life? And if not, then move. Be willing to move, be willing to change, be willing to try something new. And I know there's probably going to be the pushback for the. We need to be willing to move through the uncomfortableness because sometimes, you know, pain is good and things don't always have to feel good and things aren't always going to feel good. But I think that I will say, for example, my meditation practice, when I first started, I had aches and cramps and pains and my mind was crazy and it was uncomfortable and, and I was committed to moving through that because I had a desire, a long term desire, vision, intention, to meditate every single day. To be the type of person that did not miss meditation for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years. And I've done that every day for about the last four years. So there was a deep desire that helped me, that guide me through moving those uncomfortable months until I actually started settling in myself and my body became accustomed to my meditation posture. So I think that's a great example. So I think you always need to check in with what is your desire, what is your intention? And if your intention is big enough and it's strong enough that you're willing to move through some uncomfortableness, that's fantastic, that's amazing. But if it isn't, we just wind up feeling uncomfortable and frustrated. So getting really clear about what your intention is, I think is really important. And then also I also think that we in many ways have an addiction to being uncomfortable, to not feeling good, to being hard on ourselves, to having negative self talk, you know, looking for all the reasons that our life is wrong, that we're wrong. And I think that we could have some more practice into being comfortable, into pleasure and into actually enjoying our lives and doing things that, that make us feel alive and that make us feel comfortable. We don't always have to be uncomfortable. We don't always have to be pushing our edges and challenging ourselves. You know, there is space for us to rest and to be comfortable and still change, still transform, still grow. And I think, I know for me this is becoming a, a common theme and it keeps coming up for me is how do we rest in our lives, how do we be comfortable, how do we engage in pleasure and play and joy and happiness while still growing, that it always doesn't have to be so hard that we're fighting ourselves, it doesn't have to be uncomfortable. So I thought this would be helpful. I know it was very helpful for me and it's been percolating in my mind for the last couple weeks. And I hope that you enjoyed it. I hope that you find some value in it and that you take a look at your life and see where you might be uncomfortable and you want to move and you want to change, yet you think that you can't change or you shouldn't change, or this is what you should do. Be willing to change. Be willing to make mistakes. The only way that we're ever going to live an authentic path is if we're willing to. To push the boundaries, to test ourselves, to make mistakes, to say wrong things, to be the only one doing something. And I know that can be, like, lonely and scary because we don't want to feel alone and we don't want to feel left out. But we need to keep testing the waters and keep checking in with your heart over and over. Does this path have heart? Does this resonate with me? Does this feel comfortable? Is this feel right? And if it feels right, like, go for it. And if it doesn't, be willing to say, this doesn't totally feel resonant, it doesn't feel right, and then see what does in its experiment to see what feels right. And again, life is never going to be perfect and always feeling perfectly right and wonderful. But I think we can add a lot more joy and wonderfulness and comfortableness into our lives, especially for us women who sometimes can kind of feel bogged down by obligations and responsibilities and so many ideas about who we need to be in the world. So be willing to trust yourself, Be willing to say no. Be willing to say yes. Be willing to do something outrageous. Be willing to do a different pose in yoga, whatever it is, be willing to explore. So I hope that you have a wonderful day and until next time, sending you lots of love.