Thoughts on Beauty

Hi, everyone. It's Alexandra. I hope you're having a great day. So today's video is on beauty. I've been thinking about beauty the last few days, and this is a juicy one. I'm sure we will go into this a lot more in other videos, but just wanted to share some thoughts that I was having about it. And so yesterday, I'll just start off with my story that kind of catalyzed me into thinking about this a little bit more. Yesterday, my daughter and I had girl time, and we went to Whole Foods, and I just jumped in the car, and we just went. We just decided we were gonna go. We just, you know, jumped in the car and started driving. And as I was driving, I was thinking, I didn't even look in the mirror. Like, okay. And I felt like that was really an accomplishment because in my 20s, I definitely was concerned about what I look like. There was a lot of mirror checking, like, how do I look? How do I look? And now, especially becoming a mom, it's just like, I have other things to do than just wonder what I'm. I look like all the time. Not that it's. There's anything wrong with wanting to look beautiful and nice and looking in the mirror, but I'm always curious, like, when did the fir. When was the mirror invented? Like, we evolved, and we didn't have mirrors. We were not looking at other ourselves all the time. We were looking at other people. We were connecting with other people. We weren't like, oh, how do I look? How does my butt look? Oh, how does my hair look? So I think I find that interesting that we did. There was a time we didn't have mirrors and couldn't see all that was happening with us. And it made me think of the book. I don't remember the name of it, but it's a great book. The idea of it was that she was gonna go a year without a mirror, looking in a mirror. So during that year, she also got married, which I love. So she figured out how she wanted to do her hair and makeup without a mirror, and she went the whole year without looking at herself in the mirror. It was just a story about her journey. And I loved that book because I just thought that's so empowering. Like, you're relying on how you feel about yourself rather than what you're seeing in the mirror, because so many times we don't check into our internal compass, but we look in the mirror. And I'm not saying the mirror is bad and the mirror can tell us things. Et cetera, et cetera. But I think it's good to start off with, okay, do I feel beautiful inside? Like, let me check in to see with my body, with my mind, with my heart. Heart, and focus on there. And then if we want to add to our beauty, we want to add a little bit of makeup, we want to add whatever to our, you know, to make us look even more goddessy, then that is awesome. But when we. It's important that we're mindful of. Are we doing those things because one, we feel like we should do it, but we don't really want to do it, or two, we feel like we're deficient and not good enough, and we're trying to work, wear the right clothes, do our hair right because we don't feel like we're beautiful or good enough. So this is where we go into kind of our authentic self of diving into feeling and choosing to feel beautiful. Like, I think it is a choice. And yes, I do believe all women, everyone has their own beauty. I mean, I look at nature and there's like, so many different varieties of trees and plants and animals and flowers. There's not. There's just diversity. So we see a lot of the sameness in Hollywood and celebrities and magazines and media and stuff. There's usually, like, we've all been imprinted, society wise and family wise, of, like, what is beautiful. And a lot of times we don't measure up. Of course, there are those women, people who are born, like, supermodel, like, literally just are, like, you know, just. Just gorgeous as they are. And for most of us, like, for most of the population, like, we're not supermodels, and that's totally fine. But does that mean that we're not good enough? No, that doesn't. Does that mean we're not beautiful? No, we're just a different kind of flower. We're a different plant. So trying to see our unique beauty and affirming our unique beauty. I also love celebrating other women. Celebrating the beautiful women in your life and the beautiful woman you see celebrating yourself. I really think the more that we celebrate other women's beauty and their strengths, the more we elevate ourselves. So that's also a key component. If I see, like a. Just a woman just rocking it, rocking her beauty, whatever her style and her flavor is, I'm like, I see a bee right here. And I'm not. I don't say that, but I do. I'm like, yeah, you go, girl. Like, there's just encouraging women to be who they are. And back to me in the car. I really loved, like, I used to do the whole makeup and the hair and stuff like that, and just more on my authentic journey. And this is my authentic journey. There's obviously no right way, and we all have different expressions, but I've just kind of. I just don't focus on that stuff as much. I might do a little bit, you know, here, there, add a little something here, a little mascara. But other than that, like, I just don't want to do those things. And I don't feel like that helps me create the life that I want. It's just not where I want to focus my energy. And this isn't new. I mean, you can ask my mom. When I was literally younger, on my chore list, I had brush hair because I want to do something else. I want to go out in the woods and then climb trees or go play sports or something else. Like, just pull the hair up. Who needs to brush it? I remember one of our family friends was like, okay, let's brush your hair. And I'm like, front side. I'm like, okay, I'm done. They're like, no, the whole back. And I was like, who cares? I can't see that. So, I mean, I'm kind of like that still. I'm just like, let it go. Let it be wild, you know? And I used to have really long blonde hair. I used to highlight it, and then I shaved my head, and I just let my hair grow out. And this is just my natural color. So I'm just like, this is perfect. This is the perfect color for me. So I try to make things as easy as possible for me. And that is not usually seen as a feminine quality. Usually it's, you know, like, I don't know, getting all dressed up and stuff. But that's not. I don't. For me. And I think every woman is different. That's just not where I get my. My fear currently, where I get my empowerment around beauty. That may change because we're always evolving. So I may decide I want to do something like that. But for now, that's. That's kind of how I roll with the beauty thing. But where was I going to go with that? I was going to say yes. So the question, the. The inquiry for today is, what is your relationship to beauty? Do you feel. Feel beautiful? What makes you feel beautiful? What. What are you doing because you actually want to do it? Or what are you doing because you feel like you need to do it to be worthy or to be seen as beautiful. So these are just some questions just to dive into to try to find more of your authentic expression. And the good news is there's so many different ways of expressing yourself and your beauty that whatever resonates for you, like, just practice doing that, you know? I can't. When I was 25, if you would have said I would be doing videos with like messy hair and no makeup, I would have been like, no way. My eyes are so weird without makeup. Like, I just would have had a whole story about that. Now I'm just like, I just feel comfortable in my skin, I guess, and I'm just. I'm just rocking it the way I'm rocking it right now. So that is the idea. We will share a little bit more on this because it's. There's so many layers of this with our self worth and it's just, it's. There's a lot for us that I think really finding our unique expression just gives us so much more power and confidence to just rock your goddess life. So with that, I'm going to send you lots of love and blessings and I will talk to you soon.