This is a YouTube video titled "What to do when you’re having a bad day" created in September 2020. It features Alexandra Johnson speaking directly to the audience, sharing her personal approach to managing bad days through self-care, emotional awareness, and practical steps to stay positive. The content is a monologue or personal talk rather than a multi-speaker conversation.
Hey everyone, it's Alexandra. Hope you're having a great day and if you're not having a great day, this video might be for you. So what do we do when we're having a bad day or less than optimal day? We're not feeling super sparkly and awesome. So I'm just going to tell you how I approach that and how I approached it today because today did not feel super awesome for me. So I'm just going to kind of process go through my process for you and then maybe they'll. So we'll give you some insights and maybe help you navigate some of those days that don't feel all amazing and unstoppable. So the first thing is your self care. So checking into your nutrition, your sleep, your movement, like how are you doing on those things? Because that's so important and I think we can sometimes not look at those things and they really do drive our days. They're such important factors in having an awesome day. So for me there's. I am currently on a second day of a water fast. So that's mostly nutritionally. I know that I'm just detoxing and just going through some stuff with that process. So I had that and then movement. I'm doing great on my movement. My sleep, my sleep was actually amazing last night. My heart rate variability was like off the charts and my resting heart rate was super low. So that was all great. I did have a higher temperature. So that also tells me and I track all of this on my Oura ring too. So that higher temperature tells me that my body is definitely working through something. So I knew that about my day. That's just kind of where I am on the self care. So when you're having that challenging time, look to your self care. Where can you up that, see where you may be. Yeah. Where you may be struggling, where you need to put a little bit more work. And then the second thing is emotionally, so checking in to see how you feel emotionally, how does your heart feel, what thoughts are going through your head, what you know, what's triggering you? Because a lot of times we can just go through our days and we feel like we're having a bad day but we're not realizing that we're believing negative thoughts or we're just having some emotional stuff come up. So I think this is really good to just check in and just bringing awareness sometimes will be enough for us to shift it and to feel a little bit better. So for me today, the emotional, the emotion thing that I'm Feeling today is my daughter is three and a half and I am ready to be done nursing and she is not. So it just feels like emotional for me around, like, I. I know that we need to start doing that, we need to do that because it. I just feel ready and it is time. She's had an awesome three and a half years. I feel very grateful and proud that I've been able to give that to her. And yeah, just feels it brings up emotions for me. So it's like, is this gonna be my last kid? You know, just not wanting to see her not want to give it up and then having to kind of deal with those. Her emotions as well. So I feel emotional about that. So I know that that's impacting, fasting, this, yada yada. So that's it. Physical, emotional, and then checking in with what do you need to do today? Because a lot of times when we don't feel great, we won't do things that we normally do that keep us plugged in and stay sparkly. So for me that means, yeah, like sometimes, sometimes you do just need to have a day to chill and just don't do anything. But I found the more that I do things that make me feel good, I actually generate those feelings. So. So for me, it meant moving my body. It meant doing this video because I said I was going to do a video. It meant doing my journaling, it meant doing my self care, doing all of those things. And it definitely shifted for me. I definitely had moments where I was like, and good and moments where I was irritated with the kids and I was just like, hey, guys, I'm just grumpy today. I'm just tired and grumpy and I'm sorry. But just acknowledging that is also helpful for the people around you because, you know, being grumpy is not super awesome for other people either. So that is doing your. Doing the things that help you stay plugged in. So showing up and doing those things, that doesn't mean that you can't have a day in bed if you're, you know, you can do that, but it just means doing the little things that, you know, give you joy and meaning and purpose and create health for you. So that is kind of my three steps. I'm going to add a fourth step is really checking in. I just lost my train of thought. Oh, okay, I got it, I got it. I'm fasting, so be nice. The fourth thing is sometimes you do all of these things and you just still are like. And that's where I just use the mantra this two will pass, this tool this two will pass. And I just really look at the whole day because it's not when we have like a rough day, it's not usually the whole day and every moment. So pick out those moments where you feel really great and where you had like a lovely connection with your kids or you know, you actually did your self care. Like find moments to be proud of throughout the day and then just let that be, you know, just the. It's, it's just let it be and more than likely you will wake up tomorrow and feel better. So using all of your not so great days as data to see how you can continue to get better and better so that you don't spiral out. I used to have bad days that would lead to thoughts and then da da da da. And then I would just be like stuck for, you know, years ago that it was just, you know, you kind of get in a funk. So don't allow yourself to get into a funk and take action while accepting your emotions and your feelings and all of that. So those are the steps for you. Check in with your physical, your self care, your emotional and you know, do what helps you stay plugged in. That you know, gives you energy and vitality even if you feel like, don't feel like it. And this too shall pass. So allowing it to be what it's going to be and knowing that I'm pretty sure I'm going to wake up feeling much better tomorrow. One, I'm going to eat and that will help. Two, I just know that this is part of the process, especially when we are trying to evolve and trying to grow, that you're going to have less than awesome days. So that's it for today. I hope you have a great one and if you don't have a great one someday that you use these tools and I'm sending you lots of love and blessings.
