Darrian Peck explains why deep connection feels so good: oxytocin floods your brain when someone really listens, makes you feel seen, and lets you be vulnerable. Modern life's speed works against this.
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When we say terms like depth of your relationships, what does that really mean to you? Deep connection is like open, vulnerable, loving conversation where we meet different parts of ourselves that we feel, like, afraid to talk about, ask amazing questions to the person we're with, and we don't focus too much on ourself, but we, like, really let them speak. We listen carefully. And you know when you're with someone and they really make you feel seen and you feel like, wow, this person's, like, really listening to me, and it feels good. And oxytocin is just like the biochemical affirmation that that is taking place between you and the instantaneous nature of the modern world is what's breaking our desires.