Election Overwhelm Is Real: Here’s How LGBTQ Allies Can Stay Grounded

Welcome to Just Breathe. I am so happy you are here. Before I get into today's episode, I want to share some super exciting news with you. I won the Women in Podcasting Award for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast. Thank you so much to everyone who voted. Thank you for listening and Thank you everyone for sharing your stories and just being part of this magical podcast that I love doing so, so very much. This week is actually Just Breathe's official 5th birthday. Um, so it was a huge honor and just a really super cool way to celebrate. So today's episode drops within 2 weeks of this election cycle, and I don't know about you, but I am exhausted. I am exhausted from the insane pace of the news cycle. I am exhausted from the palpable energy radiating from just the sheer number of unprecedented events and factors that are wrapped up in this race. I'm exhausted from trying to wrap my head around the fact that Our country is basically split down the middle when the choice seems so, so clear. And while I could spend the next 10 minutes listing all of the differences, I will simply summarize it as this: one candidate is fighting for the rights of our LGBTQ+ kids and loved ones to exist peacefully. And the other one is actively fighting against them, speaking in ugly and offensive ways about them, dehumanizing and demeaning them. And he will follow his Project 2025 playbook to reverse every single right that so many have fought long and hard for. And while I am not a fan of all of Kamala's proposed policies, I will vote for her because her pledge to fight for the rights of LGBTQ+ people is not just lip service. She already has a proven track record of doing just that. And that track record extends to women, all marginalized people, the middle class, and so on. So to me, this just seems so, so very clear. We can vote for people, not unchecked power. So I could totally rant and express and all of the things for ages. Um, just ask Steve and the kids because they get to hear me all the time. But I will stop here because what I really, really want to talk about today is how to take care of yourself around all of this election stuff. And I have 10 suggestions for you for today. So get ready to take some notes. First, if you haven't listened to the last episode with Kelly Lubeck, go listen to it next. Kelly is a nervous system specialist. And in addition to having us practice one technique during during her interview, she also gives examples of several more that are incredibly helpful for soothing your nervous system. Second, do not, do not pay attention to the polls. They are crazy-making, and unless you are an expert at reading the raw data, what the media gives us is designed to keep us anxious and on the edge of our seats. And while the techniques behind polling, they are scientific, it is still partisan, meaning that the questions asked, the way in which they are asked, to whom they are asked, and in what format they are asked, along with really dozens of other signifiers, that all informs the raw data. And then from there, statistically, the numbers can be skewed to tell a whole spectrum of stories. So like I said, crazy me. Third, if you listen to podcasts both to inform and to relax, tune into the ones that help you take a breath. Use your podcast listening time to soothe your nervous system. Not amp it up. If you feel like podcasts are the only way to stay informed, lean into the ones that discuss facts without the drama and the bravado. If you want suggestions, drop me an email and I'll share some of my faves with you. Fourth, laugh. Think about what really, really makes you laugh. Not just crack a smile, but that kind of laughter that causes that big, beautiful laugh to come out. The kind that makes you cry or snort or do all of the silly things that we do when we really, really laugh. Is it a favorite comedian? Is it an episode of Friends or Ted Lasso or Shrinking? Is it a silly meme or silly memes? Funny pets on TikTok? Oh my gosh. Make a point, whatever it is, find your thing or things and make a point to laugh every single day. Not only is it really, really good for your soul and your nervous system, there is scientific evidence that shows it boosts your immune system. Fifth, if doing helps you feel more calm, get out there and do. There are still plenty of things you can do in these final 2 weeks. You can volunteer for a phone bank. You can go knock on doors in a swing state if you live near one. Or if you live in one, you can talk to friends and loved ones, just to name a few. 6 goes right along with 5, and it is vote. Make a plan and stick to it. I've always been an Election Day voter, so that is when I'm voting. But do what you prefer, what you like doing. If you like mail-in voting, Do that. Sit with your friends and your family and fill out your vote, your ballot together. Do you like going early? Right now, so many states are already voting in person, early voting. Do it. Or maybe you're like me and you like day of voting. Just pick one, make a plan, stick to it, and for extra bonus points, take a friend. 7 is about taking care of yourself, thinking about what radical self-care looks like for you, what helps you relax, rejuvenate, just fill your cup and prevents you from feeling depleted and just down or depressed or on the verge of getting sick even. There is no wrong answer here. My self-care tools are likely very different from your self-care tools. So it, it doesn't really matter what mine are. What matters is that you have a list of your go-to tools, your go-to strategies that help you replenish whether it's at that surface level, just because you need to get by today, or at that deepest, deepest rejuvenation because you just really, really need to replenish. 8 is closely related to 7, but it is significant enough to deserve its own number, and it is journal. Get your thoughts out of your head, out of your body, and onto paper. It doesn't need to be a fancy notebook, and you don't need to write in complete sentences. It can be just thoughts. Stop using "shoulds" as an excuse and just use this tool. Journaling has the power to change your life. If you're wondering how, just By putting all of that mental chatter on paper, you take away its power. You give yourself the gift of clarity and further over time, the gift of objectivity and really deep healing. I cannot recommend it enough. And if you're anything like me, this election cycle has created plenty of mental chatter. Perhaps even a step into hypervigilance and prepping for every single conversation you could have with the non-affirming people in your life. So grab a piece of paper and a pen and get it all out. I promise you, promise, that this alone will help you feel lighter. After 8, we definitely need 9 and 10. 9 is go outside and move. Be in nature. Take a walk. Look at the beautiful colors of the trees if you live in the Midwest or the Northeast or the Northwest or wherever trees are turning their beautiful colors right now. Go smell the salt of the ocean if you live on the coasts. Stop and sit in the grass or in the sand or on a rock. Use all 5 of your senses and just be with the natural world around you. Notice the geese like my dog does every morning on her walk. She just sits down and observes the dozens of Canadian geese meandering across the field. And frankly, I'm glad she doesn't go after them because that is a fight I know she would not win. And 10, actually take a breath. Stop and take a conscious, deep belly breath. Now do it again. If that feels good, take a few more moments and find a place to sit down. Close your eyes. Lay your hands in your lap or place them over your heart with the intention of calming or clearing all of the thoughts swirling in your brain, take 5 deep and even breaths. Notice where in your body you feel any emotion or discomfort, even stress, anxiety, excitement, joy, contentment. Pick one. Does it stay in the same place in your body, or now that you're focused on it, does it move? Does it dissipate, or does it feel stronger? Now think about where you feel calm in your body. Can you make that feeling spread? Picture what that calm looks like in your mind's eye. Take note because you're going to take this with you. Take 3 more breaths. Wiggle your fingers and your toes and open your eyes. Now you can take calm wherever you go. This quick episode is another beautiful example of And, which you know I love, fight for and do whatever you can for your LGBTQ+ child or loved one and take care of your health and sanity at the same time. It can be both. You're not doing anyone any favors, especially yourself, by being run down and depleted. Come and join the conversation on TikTok and Instagram Reels. You can find me @chrysalismama on both platforms. Until next time, remember, you are not alone.