The 6 Elements for Vibrant Relational Connection

Hi, it's Heather with Prescriptive Living. This is where our savvy singles come to get tips every single week to fail Proof, life and love. And if you've been watching any of our content over the past several weeks, we've been talking a lot about the cause and effect relationship in the way that people respond to us, not only in the initial stages of connecting in relationship, but long term. We talked about the idea that we teach people how to treat us in good times and in bad times. And it's sometimes a challenging thought for some people because they don't want to think that they have to take responsibility for other people's responsiveness to them. And sometimes there is a level of truth to that. Not everybody is always going to respond well to us, but there are ways to identify that when you're connecting with people and kind of getting a feel for where they're really at. But there are very much ways where people who are responding positively can turn, you know, to a different cold place in their connection and responsiveness due to some of the things we're going to talk about today. So if you want to learn how to get people to that you're doing relationship with, to stay responsive to you in good ways, we're going to talk about the elements that make up good, successful outcomes in these realms. All right, so are there reasons why a person falls in love into the arms of another person? There are. There are. And it's not because they're a jerk. Usually that can be part of the equation, but it's usually not something that's planned. There are reasons that these things happen. Are there reasons why one person who is hopelessly devoted then turns their heart cold and can't even stand to say the other person's name and has no desire to do anything nice or kind to the other person? Absolutely. All right, so what causes these type of changes in connection and responsiveness? Well, there are six factors that come into play in relationship at large. Okay. Number one is just the science part, the connection, the chemistry, the stuff that happens naturally. And a lot of times people in relationship want that to be the end all, be all. And it isn't. It's what carries people in the initial phases. What happens after that phase is gone is where all these other factors come into play that impact the quality of relationship and connection. The second thing is quality of shared experiences together. So are you enjoying your time? And this is not about just physically in between the sheets. This is about your communication, your activities, just spending time together. The third Is about the personalities. Okay? So each person out there has a unique personality. Personalities are pretty much fixed. There are people who try to stuff down their personality and try and be what other people want them to be so that they're more receptive and like them. However, that actually causes bad outcomes for everyone. Because the person who's compromising themselves Ends up feeling resentful eventually because they're not being true. And the other person loses interest because they can recognize that they're not authentically seeing the depth of that person. And so this happens a lot in the personality realm. So it's very important that people get to be who they are and not compromise who they are and not impose who they are on other people, because those other people are unique as well. So the way that personality shows up, this is important to understand because personality is fixed. The fourth is behavior. Now, behavior is about how people act and how people show up in responsiveness. And this is in good times and in bad times. And the beautiful thing about behavior is behavior can be influenced. It can be altered if a person is willing to alter their behavior. And a lot of times, people, Their willingness to be influenced really does have to do with how well the other person is meeting their needs, Showing up, and responding to them. The way that the behavioral aspect, back and forth, the give and take, does influence how well another person is responsive. So good behavior habits tend to create good behavior influence from the other person's willingness to be a willing party. But when the behavior of either person is off and it's not, you know, modified or improved, this is when common couple situations show up where they become cold to each other. They become interested in other things, Whether it's another person or work or other activities or their friends, or just don't really acknowledge the person that they're, you know, doing life with. So the behavioral aspect is important to pay attention to and to recognize. Because some people don't want their behavior changed at all. And they're not willing to alter that. It's good to recognize that and. And see if you like their personality enough to accept that. But other people are willing to alter their behavior. But a lot of times it is dependent on how well each person is showing up in their own behavioral connection and reaction. There is an art to doing all of that well. And this is part of what we do in the Uncommon Love series. And helping people understand how to do all of those and navigate those areas with great skills. The next is skills and communication and conflict and understanding, Especially when things get hard in life. Where whether it's just something that has nothing to do with your relationship or maybe it does, but when life gets hard, we all have reactions and responses and sometimes people aren't aware of what those are and why they're happening and what to do about it. So we help bring a lot of clarity into all of those things in, in the Uncommon Love series, specifically the fail proof you love aspect so that there is understanding and skills that can come into play to create good positive outcomes in the good and bad and tough times of life. Finally, we're going to talk about the six core needs of the sexes or seven core needs of the sexes. Every time these are violated, there is a negative consequence that occurs of alters, connection and responsiveness in a couple. When these things are broken down, this is when really affairs come into play, when people just want to get divorced. This is when people just do not really like or want to be near that person that they're, you know, once enjoyed life with. So it becomes very, very important when these things are understood, nurtured and new outcomes are created. So those are the six and it's important to recognize how each of those influence and play out in, you know, kind of evaluating the type of person that could be a good partner for you and understanding, you know, how well you are able to influence for good outcomes and getting the type of connectiveness that you want. If, if you don't know how to navigate this and how to understand that. I do want to encourage you to join us in the Uncommon Love series because this is exactly the type of stuff that we bring clarity around and build mastery around so that you really can navigate and have a beautiful partnership. It's not difficult, but it does take a little bit of awareness and a little bit of skill to navigate and nurture and something that impacts the journey and well being more than any other factor. It's probably a good idea to, to have some good understanding of how to make that all work to, to get the uncommon outcomes, the 12% relationship that actually is having a beautiful time together. All right, so next week we're going to talk about how to build beautiful intimacy in your partnership. All the time. Good times, bad times, long term, beautiful intimacy. So if you want to learn more, be sure to subscribe so you notify you're notified about it. Like our content, share our content, get social with us. There's information in the description below and we'll see all next week. Cheers to living and loving well. Bye.