David Kessler explains that grief is internal while mourning is how you express it outward. Not crying after a loss doesn't mean something is wrong. Grief shows up differently for everyone, and there's no right way to do it.
If someone you know has died and you're not crying, here's what that might mean. Understand, grief is what's on the inside. Mourning is what we do on the outside. Just because we don't see someone's grief in terms of tears doesn't mean the pain isn't there. If you're not crying, don't think there's something wrong with you. Just know there's no one right way to grieve. Maybe it's not time to cry yet. Maybe crying isn't how you express your grief. Let go of the expectations of what grief looks like on you and on others. Just allow it to be. How is grief showing up for you today?
