David Kessler explains that persistent crying reflects the intensity of your pain, not weakness. Everyone eventually stops, but grief can resurface later. Accept whatever emotions come and offer yourself small comforts when it feels overwhelming.
People ask, "Will I ever stop crying?" Here's what I say. A grieving woman told me she Googled this at 2 AM. "Will I ever stop crying?" Google said you will. Put cold water on your face. Or you can set a timer. Or you can think of something happy. I've been with thousands of people as they've gone through grief and loss. Everyone eventually stops crying. It doesn't mean you won't start again. But when people ask me, "Am I ever going to stop crying?" or "I can't stop crying," it's really a statement of how big the pain is. The pain feels bigger than you are. And I'll often say, while I understand it feels that way, it is a part of you. And you can handle it, and it will ease in its own time, in its own way. Allow it to be whatever it is. Accept whatever it is, whether you're crying or not crying. I'm curious, when grief and pain feels really big, how can you offer yourself just a little comfort?
