David Kessler explains why grieving is so painful, describing grief as affecting people emotionally, spiritually, and physically. He emphasizes that intense feelings of sadness and emptiness reflect the love shared with the deceased and warns against comparing different griefs, noting each grief is unique ("No better, no worse, just very different").
Why is grieving so painful?
Grieving is so painful because it affects us emotionally, spiritually, physically. It's one of the hardest things that we will go through in our life and it's really terrain that we're not used to traveling. The feelings of sadness and emptiness are sometimes overwhelming in their nature and when we're going through grief, it's important to remember your grief reflects the love that was shared with another. So that amount of grief you're feeling, that amount of pain you're feeling shows how much you loved. And it's very important not to compare one grief to another. Many times people will say I I'm shocked at how much I'm grieving over the loss of this person because when that person died a different person in my life, it wasn't that bad. But I'll tell you, all griefs even to the same person are very different because the love is very different. No better, no worse, just very different.
