The Subtle Art of Nonverbal Consent

The MeToo movement really put this huge emphasis on the whole idea of verbal consent. But what I try to encourage people to do, be very attentive to all of the nonverbal signals that you're getting from somebody. And this starts from the point that you make eye contact with a person. If the person is making eye contact back with you, more of a green light. Are you getting signals that this person is with you, is engaged, is enjoying, or are you getting a signal from them that there might be a question or a reservation? Are they getting closer to you or are they pulling back a little bit? If you reach a point where there's a little confusion, then you can check in. It's actually a very generous masculine attribute to be willing to take some risks and initiate interactions. And if, as the male partner, you're able to take small little steps and notice the person's reaction, it's very attractive for somebody to be successful at that.