Divine King June 10th 2024 class 6

I was recording. We. We got a beautiful discussion for today. But who else had a revelation of any kind of magnitude when they're doing their. Their money chat? Yen, you had your hand up.

Yes.

That was really good to think about it from a perspective of when you have the money instead of, you know, not focusing on multiple.

Oh, you want on mute. Somehow.

Your.

Your AirPods may be disconnected. Yeah.

Yeah.

I think your AirPods might be off. Yeah.

Okay, now. Better. Sorry about that.

There we go. Excellent.

I was saying that, you know, focusing on having a perspective of, you know, money, how we go through that exercise, like, if you have the money, you're not using it for the right purposes, instead of using it for liabilities, then versus assets. But also, I wrote in my poem that, you know, your team, and then you can help other people with it. You can multiply it. And my goal is, you know, financial freedom for generations to come. More importantly, using it for the right things. You know, you can splurge on a car. You can splurge on. On anything. It comes from an income stream where you can pay from it.

Right.

Rather than having all the things we know. And we all did it wrong. Right, Chuck? So you and I, we talked about that.

We.

We ran full steam into, you know, you're flashing the Louis Von shirt.

You know, it's $1,000.

You know, you know, it's. You know, we.

We all. We all been there. So very, very happy that I could have that conversation to my. Over the weekend with myself about that. That poem and really gave me clarity about it.

Yep. Clarity is big. Clarity is big. Cole, what about you?

That.

That amazing shirt.

Thank you.

I mean, big thing was just. I guess.

This is really. I feel like. I felt like the big ship was.

Just, like, finding my dark side, to be honest, when it came to money.

Because it was just like a. There was just, like a sense of.

Denial, of earning it when it came to, I guess, drive and hunger. Yep.

So that was pretty much my big.

Shift when it came to that.

Love it. Dang, man, you guys are all dressed so nicely. Look at Quan. Look at this dude. We're all. We're all just looking amazingly handsome.

Wow.

Can.

Can we just recognize Cole's new microphone real quick, please? I mean, he's a podcast.

Sure.

He's a podcaster now. He's a big deal. He's a big deal.

What can I.

What can we do? We'd have to sit back and recognize greatness. That's all we can do.

I know where he lives.

That's Right.

Hey. I will tell you this, fellas, there was something that was very cathartic about this exercise. And the. The massive takeaway for me was when you treat money like a friend, you don't judge your friends. You stand up for them. You collaborate with them. You hold one another, you elevate. And what's beautiful about it is your friends want what's best for you. Money wants. It needs you to be the best you so it can find you and co. Mingle with you. And that means I'm treating money like a friend from now on, baby. Zero judgment. No beratement. Leveraging each other's skills, talents, abilities, capacity to create the life that we all deserve.

That's right.

Amen.

That's right. Well, gentlemen, today's gonna be a fun discussion for some of you. And for some, it might be a little awkward. It just depends on where you are in your relationship. That's okay, because I promised all of you that we were going to talk about pieces of sexuality. Let's talk about sex. It's happening. If you're not having sex with someone in your life, you're doing something probably a little bit wrong. I think my. My version of the world. Now, if you have. If you don't have a perfect woman in your life, that's okay. It'll happen in the future. Right, Cole? She's coming. It's all good. She's coming, dog. With a shirt like that and hair like that, it's not long from now. Don't you worry. So if you do not have someone in your life to share a lot of the messages from this class with presently, that's okay. That just means that you can put it into your brain and use it for later. But I do feel like this is something that's extremely valuable to discuss and talk about because if you do this right, you can win your relationship and keep it powerful, keep it strong, keep it unique. And I will also say this, Chuck Hogan and our mastermind, the ybl, your best life mastermind. Chuck has brought in on two occasions a woman. What's her name? Chuck, the sex specialist.

Susan.

Brett, Susan and Susan. Susan is hilariously amazing. She is incredible. She talks about sex like you guys talk about cookies and cars. Like, it is so unique. And if you want Chuck, you can. If you're able to, you can share one of her recordings in our group, you're welcome to just go back and get some of Susan. I mean, it is. I love her energy. I love just how open she is. And she speaks the most Taboo language just so eloquently and beautifully and fruitfully and it's just really, really gorgeous to see because also it's important to understand. So saying all that to say, I have learned a lot from Susan. I've learned a lot from other instructors on this topic. And I would by no means call myself an expert, but I will say that I know how important this topic is. So what we need to do from our masculine standpoint is we need to know what excites us. We need to know our energy, and we need to know what excites our lady. We need to be comfortable asking questions. We need to be aware that we probably need to go slower. Men are about speed. Women are not. So in our mind, we're going to think Ramtown Station, right? Craig wants to pull the pile driver 4000. That's. It's probably not the best move of all the moves it can be. There is definitely a time and place for the Pile Driver 5000, but it's generally on the rarer side or, or in the rare side of the, of the early stages of the time frame that you guys are going at it. And we all also need to find the absolute best time for us and for her, because I think most of you know when your best time is. If you don't, I'll go ahead and just tell you. Your energy from a masculine body standpoint, it is in the morning. That's when our testosterone is the highest. That's when it is peaked. That is just the case. Your woman may or may not know that, right? Generally for women, their best time is mid afternoon. So sometime between the 12 and three time frame, which unfortunately is oftentimes when they're at work. So we have to find ways to circumvent that potentially. And if you ever wonder why my midday routine is so on point, that's a reason why. Because that's, that's how my wife is, right? Her 12 to 3ish window is when she is the most excited and generally the most aroused. But for men, it's in the morning, almost undoubtedly almost all the time. It's just the way it is. And so you can either use that energy for you, you can use it for her, you can use it, be with yourself. But when you know your energy, you have wisdom. The energy of the body, the energy of the heart, the energy of the chakras. Knowing who you are, knowing how you're made, knowing how you're created, knowing why you're created, knowing what value you bring to the world, knowing the ability to tap in, to control yourself. It's all very, very powerful. So let's go through some this discussions of something called sensuality. Sensuality, gentlemen, was a brand new topic for me about 10, 15 years ago where I learned about senses. What sensuality stems from senses. So we're here to discuss for right now, which sense can you use more of? Because your woman wants this from you, but probably hasn't found a way to tell you yet. This is what I know to be true for my wife.

Right.

Which senses? So we're going to go through some of the senses and we're going to talk about them. All right. So sense number one for you to be a better lover and connect better in the bedroom with women or your woman specifically. Smell. I put this one first because this is my weakest point. Why I can't smell. I have a ginormous nose for no reason like it requires. It takes up 47% of the landscape of my face and it's essentially worthless. So it is there to breathe, I guess, sometimes. But your woman probably can smell. So a question. How often do you use candles, oils, perfumes, creams, or flowers? Right. It's just something to think about. Do you have them available? Are they there? Are they close? Are they handy? Do you use them often? Can you use them often? Give me eight seconds. Actually, let me. Okay. I do want to talk about this. Yes.

All right.

I didn't know if I had a slide for it. I don't. I don't have one designed. I need to make that. I need to update that as I go into this. There is something that I had to do. I took a. I took some of Susan's information. I think she has. I forget the exact name of it. I apologize for something like the erotic blueprint. And I went through one of her programs and studied with her and learned a lot from her courses and classes. And one of the things that I took away from, again, a very, very elevated spiritual counselor on sexual. Is what most of us do wrong as men. And, and women. And women is we have a bedroom. We don't have a love room. Right. The bedroom is where we go to sleep. Your woman wants a love room. So our, our mind is like, we go to the room, sure. We play around, we do whatever. But like, so you got family photos in there, you got books in there. You got, you got your medal that you did when you did your 5k that one time. You have your Iron man metal because you think you're cool. You got your smelly Clothes, right? You got your stuff, she's got her stuff. The dog is coming in there, the cat sleeping next to your pillow. It's a room. It's a bedroom. But when both you and your wife get very creative and figure out how to design a sex palace, or as me and my wife call it, the C Castle, when you start figuring out ways to design a room more intentionally, with very, very specific aspects, you create something that she feels a lot more safe and sexy inside of. So our room right now, our current room and our current house has zero photos of kids, no family photos in our bedroom. And our come castle. It's all outside of it. Everything in our little room is for me and her. Yes, we sleep there after we have crazy, insane, sweaty, viking sex, like far after that. Now I'm on sex hiatus for like the next four weeks because that's the way birth works. But that's okay. All good. It's coming later. I'm all right. Gonna be fine. So keep in mind that for your ladies, your. Your room is probably cluttered. It's probably kind of gross. Probably things everywhere design and start finding ways for you and your woman to have a really, really, really magical place. This will be big for a lot of my men out there, so I'm just going to be helping you out. But again, it doesn't have to be fruity, doesn't have to be all womanly. It can be very, very manly. It can be very that. It needs to be something special for her. This is my go to. This is my favorite. I love good music, so I will slam on some music when it's time to go to slam town. I love good music. So good music for men normally hits differently than smell. Sometimes smell is good for guys, whatever, generally. But what I would love for all of you to do, and this is all good homework, is if you have some women in your life. I mean, guys, even Michael has a lady. Like, if Michael can get a woman, we can all get women.

Okay?

Even Michael got this one figured out. Experiment with different types of music and volume. Does your woman like country in the. In the bedroom? Probably not, but she might. I don't know. Have you tried it? Does she like trance? Does she like house? Does she like Luther Vandross? Does she like Kanye? I don't know. Maybe she's an easy fan. She didn't tell you. Probably not. But have you tried what have you experimented with? What have you. What have you done? Do you put on the same. The same track over and over and over or have you put on some Rage against the Machine? You never know.

Edwin.

Rage against the Machine might be it for her. You don't know. In the name of. You never know. So try it out. Try some different things. You can also do nothing. No, music is also music. Every now and then. But again, your woman might be kind of afraid to. To be vocal. You might be afraid to be vocal. Music allows some of this to kind of be mashed together. So make sure that you are. And again, a great. A great homework exercise for the. For the. For us that do have women in our lives. Find a really, really creative way to just rearrange the entire vicinity of where you two spend a lot of time together and make it a really great place for both you and her to get it on. Just a better way to do it. What. So that comes down to what do you see? What's in your bedroom. What pictures? What books? What type of painting. What type of art. Right. Does it feel like a hotel room? Does it feel like. How does it feel? What does it look like? What does it feel like? These are important pieces to consider. Again. Jeremy hit me.

Oh, was it. Oh, Jens. Were you going to say somebody?

I think it was all you.

Chuck.

Whoever.

Okay. No. So what I was going to say was one thing is clutter. Declutter your space. You know, Oftentimes if there's stuff all over the place that doesn't put the feminine in a very romantic mood. Another one too. Jeremy talked about music. White noise sometimes works great as well. You know, for some people. The sound of rain. A babbling brook. You know, it's the sound of the ocean. It just reminds them. Especially if you've gone on vacations or spent time together. Yeah. No distraction. Like a tv. Don't do that. Yeah. And. Yeah. I mean because the. The other part is too. And lights on, lights off. It depends. It depends on your level of security. The certainty that you crave for one another. And the other. To Jeremy's point. When we. When odor and scent, that means your odor incent as well. There's something. There's a difference between primordial and then you being a big hot mess right from the get go. And. And so if you just cut the yard and you're coming in there and you know you just skinned an elk and now you're. You're ready to get down. That may not be the most romantic thing in the world for your woman on the other side. It depends on your woman too. Know. Know their love language. And this is important. But we'll get into more of that in a minute. So. Jeremy, this is awesome, brother. Thank you so much.

Oh, yeah, yeah, dude. Absolutely. No, this is. This. I. I agree that the no TV thing, I. I forget where exactly when I made that exact change, but it was a great. I love guys. I love watching movies. If you know me, you know, I love movies. I don't have a TV in my room, but that used to be. When I was Cole's age, that used to be my thing. That was like my move. I was like, hey, you want to come over and watch a movie? And she'd come over and I had. I didn't have a couch, just a bed and a tv.

Boom.

That was it. That was my apartment. So it was like. She's like, where am I gonna watch this movie? I'm like, oh, weird. On the bed. I don't know. Come on.

It was a futon. It was a dual purpose device.

Futon. Yeah. So sorry.

That was my. That was my pad.

Oh, yeah, dude.

Oh, yeah.

Futon and a fork. That was. That was it for a bit. Yeah. So. So these are all good things to just consider. Like, we're all talking about. Like. Like Kurt said, you know, it allows you. It actually does allow you to sleep better as well. This is true. Because the TV there, like, subconsciously you get used to watching things, you used to seeing things. You're going to find it harder to fall asleep as well. So. And you're talking less. You're having less conversations. What is the number one reason, the number one reason that people end up getting a divorce or splitting up? Lack of communication, just not talking about everything. Number two reason for divorce is finances. So if you communicate about your finances, and you communicate a lot in general, the chances of you surviving is a lot better. All right, now for my favorite gentlemen. When's the last time you use ropes? That's the question of the day. If you're not using ropes, you're doing it wrong. She wants them, so you better go get some. They're free. Pretty much at Home Depot. Okay. This is a type of sense, right? You've all heard of the book 50 Shades of Gray is what. How it sparked a revolution in ladies because guys were like, watch. You want rope? Oops, she does. And if she doesn't, it's because she doesn't trust you. So you get to find ways to continue to develop that trust. Other textures, right? Feathers, different types of fabrics, silks, linens. Can she be in charge of a lot of this? Absolutely. Right. That communication. Where you have discussions with her and you can say, my love, I would love to experiment with you and I would love to try new things with you. I think that you're just the most magical and incredible person on this planet. And I feel like you want and I want. We both want to do different things. What are your thoughts on. What's your opinion on should we get more of. Can we try and. Or after a good 7 to 10 minute massage, try out some blindfolds, try out some feathers, try out some different fabrics. Because again, for a lot of dudes, at least me, this is how I find. This is how I felt for like 15 years of my life. I'm the prize girl. You already got me this sweaty hairy fat seal just flopping on top of you. Isn't that enough? Like, what more. What more do you want? You know, you don't want a. A moly, ugly giant nose, can't smell white asparagus just flapping on top of you. What's wrong with you? So I thought I was the prize for a long time. Gotta have other things. Okay. It's gotta be more than just you. So I'm gonna pause here for just a moment. Any questions about this so far? Any thoughts?

Cool. Jeremy, here's a question for the community.

Hey, Mitchell.

Guys, for how many of you? This is foreign. Like you've never thought of. Feathers, ropes, whips, diffs, chains.

Cole is super uncomfortable. That's how you. That's why you're here, by the way. Cole.

Yeah, that's. I don't think you got here, son.

It's the worst.

Yeah, that's more. That's more information you need to know. Yeah, but you, you agreed. You agreed to take on this assignment, so God bless you. No, here. Here's what's interesting, guys. We're having this conversation because this is taboo. And this is what guys don't talk about.

Correct.

If there was more conversation about this, there would be happier marriages. There would be much happier men and women roaming this planet. You'd see far less promiscuity. You'd see far less people seeking escape. Because there's three things. And Jeremy hit the nail on the head, man. Open communication. Not just about money, about what your needs are as a man. And so part of this is, is are you clear about what you need? And have you found out what your woman needs?

Yeah.

Because if she's like going, I really like steak, but you keep speeding her salads. That's a huge disconnect.

Yeah.

So just something to think about.

That's a big thing. It's a big to think about. It's huge.

It's huge. Because when you said communication, Jeremy. Oh, dude.

Yeah.

Yes. The answer is yes. Yes.

And the answer is yes. Absolutely. I, I think again, just going back to the instructor I mentioned earlier and, and just women in general. I've heard numerous times from a little bit more elevated women that their sexual urges and overall drive far surpasses men. And it's not even close. And so if you feel like oftentimes your woman doesn't want to have sex with you, that's a you thing and you get to fix it. Now, in the event that it's a her thing, there is definitely a discussion that needs to happen at some level because there will be compile compatibility issues. If you are a man that requires and needs and wants more sex and your woman is not a physical person at all and she is asexual, meaning she doesn't need it to be happy. I actually know a guy like this.

Does.

Doesn't need it, doesn't require it. This one particular individual could just hang out with God, meditate all day and be very happy. He's good, doesn't need anything else. Awesome for him. Amazing. I'm not wired that way. Don't know what that means. Cool. I'm glad you and God are hanging out, dude. Not me, bro. So in the situation that Chuck just mentioned, me and my wife had some very, very big conversations early in our relationship. And I would love for all of you to have those same relationships, especially if you're not married. Ray, Michael, right before you get married, have these conversations. Because a king will have these conversations. And for my men who are married who haven't had this conversation in a while, right, because things change with new kids. Like, they're going to change with me. Like, things change. I'm gonna have to have this conversation with my wife all over again, right? We're gonna have to have more discussion. Like it's going to be a perpetual thing. But Chuck used the word promiscuity or promiscuousness. I have told my wife, if you don't my brains out on a weekly basis, this relationship will. I don't know what to tell you. Like, that's my number one.

Number one.

Need in a physical relationship with a woman. And she said the exact same thing. She said, if you ever tell me.

No.

We might get divorced. I was like, good, bring it on. Challenge accepted. So it is a very important detail to have those conversations with your lady. If you're not married. If you're in a girlfriend status, if you are married, you haven't had that conversation a while. Just talk about, hey, what. What is it that you're needing? Because if you're good with once a week, because whatever, you're older, awesome, she might not be. And you might go, well, I don't know how to do it more than once a week because I'm tired. I don't have the energy, I don't have the time. I got stresses, I got built. Yes. Have those conversations with her. Tell her that. Tell her this is why I feel stressed out. It's not you. Because women can have multiple orgasms a lot easier than guys can. Guys can also do that, although I'm not going to go into that topic because I haven't mastered that yet at all. So I'm not going to talk about that. But women can, and trust me, they want to. So if she's having one and you're having one once a week, there's a chance that one of you, if not both, are kind of miserable. So you need to start having these conversations and just figure out how to elevate because this is part of being a king. Being a king is being very, very open with your emotions, with your needs, with your requirements on all fronts that matter. Religion, sex, politics and money. Those are the things that matter in life. And what are the four things that most people don't talk about? Religious, sex, politics and money. Right. So if you have a good business, if you have a good business partner, if you're gonna have a good relationship, it's just more of those conversations. And again, I know it can feel like, when. When do I have these conversations? Jeremy? We're always tired. Text messages, phone calls, voicemails. Schedule the time put in advance. And yes, gentlemen, yes, for sure. There are some seasons. Totally agree. Right? You all know I'm in one right now and we had had this conversation and she feels like I'm gonna cheat on her every time I leave the house. She's terrified. She's like, Jeremy's gonna go out and get a girl. So I know she feels that. She has told me that she feels that way. She knows why she feels that way. And I told her years ago that she probably is going to feel that way. So what do we have to do? We have to address certain things. We have to talk about certain things. I check in with her a little bit more than normal, and I am working out like an absolute unit right now. Also four hours yesterday. It. I. I Couldn't sleep at all. A lot of breath work because I'm going on three weeks, guys. Going on three weeks. So what we want to do is we want to just be aware, we want to understand, we want to know our energies, we want to know who we're with, we want to know why we're with that person. But more importantly, we want to know ourselves and we got to be honest with ourselves. Just like when it comes to money. Kurt.

Yeah, I just wanted to share, put this, this quiz in the chat for the. It's just like It's a BDSM test.org.

Because we were talking about kink and.

Everything and a lot of people don't know what they like. And if you don't know, then you know, it's kind of like, well, I don't know. And then you just kind of stay normal, stay vanilla or whatever. So this is a really good one. It's free and it's very in depth.

So thank you again for sharing that. Man, your app is so in depth, guys. It's very, very viable. So if you haven't taken it, you kind of think you know where you're at, but more importantly, you think you know where your girl's at. You don't. I had no idea, dog. I was so far off. I was like, for sure she's this. No, she's not. She's not. I thought she was, but I was like, damn, I gotta order more silk sheets. Jesus.

Now, Jeremy, to your point, and this is so important, fellas, understand this. It doesn't mean that it's a one and done. The and this is from Susan and she will tell you flat out, if you're not giving your woman at least 20 minutes, 30 minutes of warm up time. And that's like caressing, kissing, you know, spending time together, even spooning together, she may not feel valuable in that moment. It doesn't mean that this is, goes to Jeremy's point. If she's ready in five minutes, she's ready in five minutes. The deal is be prepared to make sure that the oven's hot before you put the cake in the oven. I'm just being very honest with you.

Gotta have a hot oven.

Oh.

Preheat the oven, dude.

Preheat, preheat. Because it'll take twice as long. And the other side of this is, is that it has to do with energy, the buildup, and when people are in the right space. I mean, wouldn't you say that, Jeremy, that when people are in the right space, the right place, like you said you. You have, you know, a passion palace where you get together, you take care, you know, and it's like. It's. It's beautiful. And so on that point, it becomes uber important to understand what she needs so she feels safe. Because once she's safe, you both get to have. Not just sex, you get to make love, and it becomes a much deeper, more ingrained relationship.

Yeah. And. And not to kick the dead horse a million times in the mouth, but what's the number one biggest expense that 75% of men will go through in their life? A divorce.

100%.

I did it. I had one. Okay. Why are they so expensive? Because they're worth it. But telling you this man. Painful, okay? Emotionally, financially, all the things. The other reason that this is very, very important is because when you marry, right, and you have a great, great, very powerful, unified relationship, when you have your relationship fully taken care of.

It.

Is so easy to make insane amounts of money because you have a woman that supports you 100%. Team. My wife is sleeping right now with her baby on her chest. I can go in right now and tell her anything, and she'll say yes. Like, that level of support, when you get that locked and loaded, I can be like, babe, we're moving to Switzerland. And she go, like, now? Or can we wait, like, a week before we move to Switzerland? Anything fully supportive. When you have that in, guess how much, how easy everything else is, including your growth, including your money, including your relationship with God, including your physical body. Edwin is losing weight. Like it's his job over there getting shredded out of his mind. Dude's looking so good, right? But just imagine, gentlemen, that you wanted. Maybe you're. Maybe your. Your body and your soul is calling for more expansion, and you want to go do a very, very, very hard event that's going to take you many, many, many hours to train for. And you got to go outside and be alone from her to train for it. And she supports you having a really, really great, supportive life and having that part of your. Your. Your world, nine, you know, 99 to 100 figured out, it's worth it. And I tell people all the time, like, I. For those of you who knew me before I was. Before 2020-2020-2019-2021, when I really exploded. And that was also because I met my wife and that season, and so that was another big thing. I was like, oh, wait a minute. I don't have to put out any energy towards sexting and texting and finding a date. Oh, my. It's a lot of work now if you're single and you're on the app game, great. That's like 19 hours a day. Make sure you have unlimited text messages. Make sure you got that, that, that, that plan on T mobile.

Right?

Unlimited text message plan. It's a lot of work. And it's okay about saying it's not worth it. I'm just saying that it's. You will expand so much, everything else becomes easier. So that's why we're spending a lot of time, energy and effort on this because it is very, very worth it. It is worth it. So, yeah, Chuck, thanks for, thanks for bringing that up and thank you for sharing that, that quiz, guys. I would love it if all of you took that quiz. You're welcome to share your results or not. You can DM me privately. I don't really care. Feel free to take them. Take it. Have your wife. If you have a wife or girlfriend or a lover, someone in your life and you can find out how compatible you are. I had a. One of, one of my dear closer friends, actually him and his girlfriend, they split up about probably seven, eight months ago. And I told them to their face numerous times, they're not going to work because they took their compatibility and it was by like. And I was, they asked me and I was like, nope, you should save your time and just split up now. It's not going to work because he doesn't need it and she wants it all the time. She's also batshit crazy. So you have, you have those elements where. But she's, she's crazy because she wasn't getting enough sex from him. That's the other piece, right? So. This one, gentlemen, is big for a lot of my guys. If you struggle with lasting longer, and I say longer, being honest, anything over 10 minutes, okay? 10 minutes or less, you're. You could do better. Okay. Anything over 10 minutes, you're. You're awesome. Good for you. 10 minutes or less. If this is an issue for you, it comes down to breathing. Not thinking about your grandma playing baseball. No breathing. Proper breathing, right? Channeling your breath, knowing where to send it. Sending your breath and your energy to her. There is a practice, there is a book. If you really get bored and you haven't read any books on tantric, I would love it if you did. It'll make your life better. It'll make your sex life better, right? Tantric is spelled T, A, N, T R, I C. It's just all, it's just breathing, that's all. It is. It's like how to channel energy and see energy. And focus energy on her. And focus energy on you. And move it. Move it around with your breath. Move it around with your presence. Move it around with your awareness. Move around with your hands. This is really good for yoga, is a good practice of this. But this will help you. Because ultimately, gentlemen, a king will use whatever he has, right? If you know you're not extremely well endowed downstairs, right? That's okay. All good. Other things that you can use. Because she doesn't ultimately care. She really doesn't. She won't know. She will care if you care. Because if you care, that means you have no confidence. If you have confidence, that's all she really wants you to have anyway. She just wants to have a lot of confidence. So if you're not packing heat, that's all right. Go buy some heat. Heat don't cost that much money. Go pick some up. There's stores that sell heat, a lot of it. So a king will sit down and he'll say to himself, this is what I'm good at. He'll know what he's good at. He'll know he's not good at. He'll start practicing working, using, being with himself, being with herself, knowing how to breathe into moments, to slow his heart rate down so that you can just simply be with her for longer periods of time. Oh, you're cracking me up today, dude. I've literally never heard that one. And it's amazing. For those of you who are driving, not the size of the pencil, it's how you write your name. That is actually hilarious. That is beautiful. I'm. I'm using that. And I will give you credit. Oh, my goodness. That's funny. But it's true. It is very, very true. Gotta learn how to write your name, gentlemen. And I write mine in cursive. That's how I write my name. All right, Any general questions about this, feel free to let me know. But the only difference between friendship and intimate relationship is intimacy. This is the key. And when I say intimacy, I mean with yourself and your partner.

Right?

We talked about this last class. Intimacy is into me. You see, it means you also. Gentlemen, the greatest gift you can ever be with your. The greatest gift you can ever give yourself is extreme love of yourself.

Hey, Jeremy.

Yep?

Can you share with the guys what happens when you're a pleaser and your needs aren't being met?

You slowly wither away into a shell of a conformity, submissive, pathetic shell of a human. So what Ends up happening.

How much and how much security does feminine have around that level of. And I'm going to use a term and I apologize if it sounds bad, Incompetence.

Zero feminine feels zero certainty, zero safety, zero security around the incompetent, weak, non competent man.

So that relationship, y' all is probably gonna be a one and done. There won't be a second date. There won't be. You know. And this is where the roommate scenario is derived from people estimating or trying to figure out someone else's needs instead of asking and thinking that they're meeting all everything they want. And Jeremy hit the nail on the head when he said there is a absolute set of must always and must nevers in your life. And this goes for your, your intimate life as well. You need to share this so that you know the rules and the fundamentals of so where someone's living. Because if you don't know this, you're done before you start. No different than his friends that took the assessment. But people will connect out of convenience and because it's easy. And we know this in money, we know this in health. There is no growth in comfort. Yeah, no, it's, it's. Susan Breton is the one. Leah's great as well. But Leah studied under Gaia or Jaya and Shelly with S factor the gal. I'm gonna get you guys the links for all of Susan stuff. Here's the crazy part. 99 of her stuff is free.

Yeah.

She posted for the world. Like she is. Literally. I just saw her two weekends ago. She was at the biohacking conference. She's like a 6 foot tall 63 year old blonde that just every head in the room turns when she walks in. And it's not because just her physical appearance, it's her energy.

She's 16.

Yeah. Can you believe that?

Literally. No, I cannot. I actually.

Exactly.

Holy balls. She, she acts like she's 39. I mean just the whole. Wow, good for her.

And she's elegant. Like when Jeremy says like she can talk about anything, anything. And it will make your grandma blush. And most men in the room too, quite frankly. But the beautiful part is, is that she's so pure and so mindful and intentional. And this is why when we're saying this guys, this isn't going to be easy for everyone in this space. And yet it's something that's necessary in order for you to have the level of relationship that you really aspire for. Because here's the fact. Susan Britton B R A T T O N.

Yeah, we'll post it in the WhatsApp group. Guys, don't worry. We'll send everything.

Yeah, well, we'll get. I'll have. I'll have it all to you by tonight, fellas, I promise.

Yep, we're all.

Sorry, sorry, sorry. I'm remote today. But, oh, my God. I mean, like this. This one thing. Because think about this, what Jeremy just said. How. You know, what's the current percentage on divorce rate, Jeremy? 68? 70%.

Yeah.

Yep.

Think about that for a second again.

Gentlemen, some of the divorces are. They're good that you needed them.

Yes.

What? But, like, let's save you all that time, energy and effort now, as quick as we can, because, again, it's not gonna. That's a very, very, very big part of you as a man, as you as a king. Your money, your time, your energy, your effort, your freedom, all those things are gonna be a big component of this.

All right?

Now, here's the fun part. Don't tell my wife I did this. I took one of her slides. This is hers. So in her class, when she's telling all the ladies about the guys, this is what she wrote down. Secret. But it's true, though. And one of the big ones for me is. I mean, think about how, like, this is from a woman's perspective, right? Men want to be told what to do. Kind of do, right? They have very fragile egos. Yep. Sure do. Like, if. If. If your wife said, hey, your penis is smaller than your brother's, it's game over, right? Like, your whole world's gone, you're toast. It's game over, right? There's no more Alps than that one for me. I be like, good for my brother. Like, well done, dude. But again, that's. That's an ego perspective. And secondly, why would you know that, right? That's the thing. Like, our brain and our. Our body worship them when directing them. Because, again, we have fragile egos. Men like pleasant surprises. That's a fact. And we're more adventurous. So she is telling. She is telling our ladies, like, ladies do need to be more adventurous. This is this. We all know this to be true. All of us dudes, at your deep core level, your dark level, we are filthy, filthy, filthy, horrible human beings. Good. Right? Let your freak flag fly every now and then, because if it's not, you're never going to be truly pleased, right? You're. Again, you're going to be a shell of a shell of a man. You're going to dance in mediocrity. And always want something a little bit more. Always hope that just a little bit better comes your way.

Allow the bad boy to come out, because I'm going to tell you right now, if you're the safe, nice guy. Bye bye, bye bye.

See you later. Yep, she's gonna want it and you're gonna want it. So if, if you haven't bought a ceiling harness yet to strap her up by her ankles and hang her upside down for a few minutes, you know they're on Amazon saying all that to say, gentlemen, just make sure you know who she is, what she wants, what you want. And be aware that this is what women are. This is what women know about us. And make sure that your lover is. And she knows that that's what she is. Most women, most wives probably don't want to be your best friend. They may or may not, but they probably don't want to be your best friend. You might want to have a great friend, a best friend that's a guy, so that your wife can be your woman, your wife can be your lover, your life can be your supporter, your partner, person that's very supportive. A person is very friendly. But it's a different world.

And if you think you're going to get the answers out of how to be a better lover by watching porn, you're wrong. You're wrong.

That was me.

That is the. Those are people who are getting paid to perform.

They always got six.

Hear me clearly. Yeah. Always have a spec. Have a 12 inch, you know, rope that they can hang themselves with. And so, you know, at the end of the day, reality starts to set in and I go, that's no different than the Kardashians. You know, are you, are you watching reality television or are you, what are you living real life? And, and I'm going to remind us all too that if you think that what we're talking about is dirty, this is in the Bible. Procreation, love, connection, being intimate. You have an intimate relationship with your creator. You are made in their image. What we're talking about is natural, organic and necessary. And if you ignore it, it will do the same thing. What that will money will do. It will leave you. So. So it's not one thing. It's everything. It's faith, family, fitness and finance. It's fun and fantasy. It's everything blended together. This is the culmination of your life. And if you make this part of your relationships wrong. A rising tide only raises all ships when one isn't buried in the, in the you know, in the deep rock or the reef. So you need to get as clear on this as you are on everything else.

Absolutely. Yes, yes, yes. More of that, more of that energy. So there you go, gentlemen. That's a lot of it, right? That's, that's just the, the big core piece of things that I know that we all need to discuss openly and just be there to talk about and be aware that it exists and be aware that it's important and be aware of how we feel about it because it's crucial. And again, it can be very, very private. Doesn't have to be public. But I agree a thousand percent with what Chuck said. That was me from like whatever, forever age 13 to 14 until like 25, 26, I was like, I'm gonna watch porn so I can study how to be a better lover.

Right?

That was. It's an, it's an okay thing to think. It's just wrong, that's all. You can think whatever you want. It's okay to think things. It's just incorrect. That's not how it operates. Because also I didn't, I wasn't aware of this until I started just being more into the sex trafficking, like prevention part of my life. But a lot of those women are forced to be there and they're really, and they're really, really, really drugged up. So they don't know. They don't know what they're doing. And so if you're watching this 18, 19 year old girl, there's like a 95 chance she's on a lot of heroin, a lot of cocaine, and she's forced to doing what you're watching and you don't know. So I'm not blaming you, I'm not saying you're a terrible person. I'm just letting you know that it just. The pieces that are the truth to what you're visualizing, what you're seeing, there are three sides to every coin and you're seeing one of those sides. So appreciate you bringing that up, Chuck. And the last bit is I went to a. I went to a, for better lack of a better term, a sex workshop for. With women like Susan and like Leah. What was her name? Linnea. They always had these like sexy L names. Anyway, Linnea and her husband Chuck, they were teaching this, yeah, sexual in this intimacy course. And she called me out straight up because, you know, these women are so powerful. They know like really, really. They do. Cold. It was hilarious. Dude. I'm sitting there. This was 2017, so this is the. My Year of saying yes to everything. So what is that, seven? Yeah, seven years ago. And she was like, why do you watch porn so much? Looks dead at me. I was like, me? She's like, yeah, why you. You watch almost every day. What's up with that? I'm looking around. I was like, there's a lot of other people there, dude. And I was paid, paying to go to this thing. I was like, it's easy and I need a release. I'm a man. I like sex a lot. And she said, your life will change forever when you find a woman that can give you what you desire in porn. I was like, yeah, but that's not possible. Literally said that to her face. And that's when she said, oh, you little boy. How little? You know? I was like, I. I didn't say anything. The rest of the rest of the event just sat there in my little corner because I'm like, yeah, she's not wrong. She wasn't wrong. So it's available, right? The things that. The things that we potentially and might go to porn for, they are available in our lives with our women, either current or the next one. If we're not in a relationship or we're looking for a relationship. Craig says, not even a prince. No, dude. Nope. She just put me, right. Right in my little boy status. Yeah. Yep, yep, yep. All right, well, anyway, so here's your homework. I want you to experiment with some music. This part should be really easy because.

What?

Remember three weeks ago, I was like, don't have sex at all. Remember that? I was like, don't or no? I didn't say I don't have sex. I said don't come. Two different things. But now, right, Go be with your woman and experiment with music. If you're not in a relationship, work on. What music do you like A lot that puts you in a different mood. And do you know how to dance? That music makes you know how to dance a little bit.

I'm not.

You don't have to be a professional, like tango star, but Cole. Exactly, dude. You got to know how to dance.

Just.

Just a little bit.

Just a little bit.

I know you do because you're too. You're too good looking not to know how to dance. Your smile is too nice. Cole is a ladies man. He knows it. So experiment with some music. Number two, definitely. This is a big one. Make sure you rearrange your bedroom. All right, Quan, Take all those Lego pieces and rocket ships out of there. She doesn't want those things. Take. Take all of your blueprints and your. All the stuff from your work and get to get out of there, right, Darren, she doesn't want all of your. Your Australian surfboards and your Harley Davidson motor in your bedroom. So get that stuff out. Number three, get some ropes. If you don't have any. See, try to. Try to introduce those into your relationship and just see what fears she might have. She might go, no, no, no, no, no, I'm not. I'm not that type. I'm not that. No, no, no, not me. That's super fun. That's a really, really good place to be because now you get to sit down, you get to think, you get to talk to her, you get to have conversations. Why do you feel that way, baby? Why not you? What do you mean? Right? Because again, my wife, she definitely had some hesitations around certain aspects of sexuality, and it's very, very fascinating to just talk those out and see what those are and see what. See what that means for her and for you. What is this, Kurt? I'm just going to click on it, Douglas. Oh, there we go, Kent. Ropes. Yeah.

So if you're. If. If. So for ropes and ties, you got to be careful because this is all land. This is all. This is the land book. So this is not shabari. This is not like suspension. You don't have to worry about hanging anybody and dropping them. But if you want to know how to do the ties, you got to be careful about median and pressure points because you can cut off some circulation and you want to make sure that you're doing it safely. So. This is.

This guy's worried about pressure points. I. I know a freak when I see it. I know a frequent. I see one. Jesus, Kirk. Worried about pressure. He's talking about hanging her from a roof. I like your style, dude. My guy, like, you know, like bow ties, like, basic ass. Like, tie her feet to her hands for a second. My dog doesn't want her to go to sleep. I love it. Oh, what a brilliant man. But yeah, Derek's gonna use that because Derek's a. Derek's a weirdo in a good way. My boy Derek is a straight up sexual weirdo in the best of ways.

No, but, but in earnest. That book will. Will help you if you're gonna do, like, just, you know, standard bad stuff. It's like, it'll. It'll help you be able to do what. What you're saying with ropes, simply and effectively.

Yeah.

Safety first. You guys are the best. I love it. Oh, man.

And I can tell you all this guys, something that may surprise your lady is if you actually surprise her and just give her a foot rub. You know, you break out some essential oils and you just start to massage. We went. When we were in Sedona, we had a whole massage therapy course for couples. And I gotta tell you, the response level was off the freaking shards. So. And it doesn't have to be just on bare skin. I mean, it can. You can start over close. And I will tell you, it changes things as you're breathing. And this goes back to the tantric as well. A lot of this has to do with breathing in your energy. And when you're sharing energy with another human being, it shifts the relationship. Then you can start with kisses on the neck and things like that. You will be amazed to see the response. And I know some of you guys are going, man, but my hands look like they're leather. She won't care if you take the time. And again. And there's different things that you can do. Yeah, absolutely. Use oils, use lotions. This goes back to Jeremy's point. Touch, scent, different things. There's little things that you can do. And imagine the response that you'll get when you do something different. You may get something different. In fact, I'll guarantee you're going to get something different. Because real men know how to get outside of their comfort zone to be who they are unapologetically and do what they need to do to be themselves. So express yourself and make sure that she understands how important she is to you. And in turn, you'll see how important and how good she feels, because now she's going to feel certain. What are you doing? Oh, you look like you had a rough day. I just was taking your. Your, your flip flops off and just was going to rub your feet a little bit. Hope you don't. How many of you guys would love for your feet to be rubbed? There you go. Yeah, Julie's sitting next to me. She just raised her hand. She can't hear you, but she heard me. So my point in being is give yourself the opportunity to step into your king, because that's what a king does. He sees the opportunity and he seizes the moment. Princes are stuck in processes. They have a formula for success. They're chasing the formula. They're not always aware, but they're damn busy because they're pushing a lot.

Quan, just put ropes on his head. Guys, if you don't see this, his rope turban, you're missing out. My dog Claude is ready for this assignment.

He said it's still the morning.

He's already bought Kurt's book. This guy is ready to go. Oh, man, that's awesome. That is amazing. I love that Quan Paul said most pregnancy starts with a back rub. This is an actual fact.

Yes, sir, very true.

Well, you know what's funny though? Ironically enough, when Chuck, you said, you said that most princes are focused on the process. Processes. And they, they, it's a formula for them. A lot of princes go, if I do this, then I will get this.

They have a rule. Yes.

And I would love all of you to know that a king will go, let me just love on her.

That's it. Because I get to. Yep.

All because I get to. And if I do that, great things could come of it, might come of it. All good. If I don't get anything back, I'm not doing it for me, I'm doing it for her.

Because the king knows, irrespective of the outcome, he's being who he is and he's getting what he needs. He needed in that moment to be connected, contributory, loving, kind. And when you're in that space, that energy, you call for different emotions, you call for a different level of presence. As Jeremy said it, best man, I gotta tell you, when kids come into your world, focuses change. Because these little creatures that are the co collaboration of you and your significant other have polarity to them and they have needs too. And the Pitocin and the mommy and you know, all of the biochemical markers and everything that's going on creates a need in that moment. It's when it goes on and on and on. And to my brother's point, you're not sharing what you need. That's when it becomes confusing and you want to really make, you want to make something hard, make it complex. You go, oh, but it's not easy, Chuck. There's kids and family and this and work. And when's that going to go away? It's not. So make it simple, discuss it, have the conversation. Because those kids came into your life not just for a reason, in a season. They are a manifestation of the love that you have for your beautiful bride or significant other. And they will, and they will grow up learning what love is by watching you be the example. You may not think they're watching, they're watching. They're feeling everything. They are the best barometers in the world. They can call faster than anybody else. And they will. Trust me, they will.

Amen to that. And for some of you who May at some point, potentially have that fear of man. This is going to require so much time. Back rubs, foot rubs, warm in the oven. All the analogies we're going over, like, dude, there's so much time. Schedule it out, put on the calendar, block it off. And if you go far enough.

It.

Can be in every Tues. Every other third Tuesday of the month type of thing. But if you go far enough out, you can put on repeat because you don't have anything in your schedule in 2026.

Right.

So you can start building that ahead of time and you start just knowing when is a great time for you and your woman, you and your significant other, or you and you to connect and go be the best version of yourself and the best version of relationship.

Aren't you worth it? Aren't you worth it? That's the deal. Intimacy. This is one of the largest disconnects that men have in today's day and age.

What a great discussion. Anything else, gentlemen? Anything is on your hearts, on your minds. Darren looks like he has something to say. He's getting his phone up. Darren is such a unit. Good grief. That dude freaking jacked.

Yeah, no, it's been a good discussion, Jeremy. Chuck. Yeah, thanks for that, but, yeah. Nothing else really to add other than.

Yeah, I hope everything's going well with the new family and your family member. But yeah, that's. That's cool. Thanks, brother. Yep, everything's going great. Everything's going great. He's awesome. Little kid. Big. He's gonna be a big dude. 24 inches long when he was born. 9 pounds, 3 ounces. 24 inches. Yeah, he is big feet. Whose feet are already the size of my pinky. His whole foot is a long. It's a. A big foot. No, it's good. For sure.

He's great.

Mom's great. She's healing, so she's on bed rest for five days, and so I'm doing my best to take care of her. So she's doing awesome. Everyone else doing solid. Everyone else doing amazing. Feeling good, on top of the world.

Absolutely.

Okay. Yeah. Alex, congrats on the car. Congrats on your cave.

Thanks, man.

That's so. Yeah, the cave was freaking insane. Insane, huh? Doing that, man. You too. That's really cool. How was it for you, Kurt?

It was great. I. It. I. I wanted to do it again, and I got an opportunity with Alex, and I found myself moving a lot when I was doing it, actually. Like, I wasn't sitting still like I did the first time. This time I was I. I was, like, moving around, but I had a blindfold on everything. It was pretty crazy. It felt great.

So that's awesome. That's really cool. Yeah. Good job. Going deep. Good job, Alex. Man, that's. I know it's scary, weird, and again, just strange, but kind of like you said at the very beginning, like, it's. It's hard or it feels strange or it feels bad or it feels negative, like, to tap into our dark being. But it's so vital because that's where all the juicy bits of us lie, and that's where so much healing comes. And the more you can tap into the depth, the more you can ascend, for sure.

You know, it's interesting you say that, Jeremy, because I was reading an article and they said energy is the combination of dark and light. And the only way that you can actually have negative is if you have positive. And the only way that you can understand positive is if you have negative. So you are the culmination of both energies. And to ignore one or to make it wrong is dismissing yourself. So how could you say your left. Your left eye is bad and your right eye is good?

Yeah. Now we're talking.

Well, it's judgment. And it's something that when we're growing up, and especially when we start talking about ethics and morality and religion, like, going, well, is it God or the devil? Is it pain or pleasure? And the answer is yes, because you came into this world and it wasn't exactly an easy trip. Your little boy at that size. That was not an easy delivery yet. It was worth it. And now he's here, and we all take this journey. We all start this way.

Yeah.

Every single man passed through a woman. Every single one of us.

It's one of the craziest parts of, like, biology. I mean, I know it's, like, the most obvious, but that was. I had that revelation.

My very.

My first son, Jason. I was like, wait a minute. Every human on Earth was this fragile and this pathetic this week, right. That needed this much care and attention. I was like, for those first, like, three weeks, like, I could never even imagine this. But could you imagine leaving your kid alone for a day?

And it. And it happens.

It does.

And it. And it happens. There's a. There's a syndrome called failure to thrive syndrome. And so here's what I know about every single human being who's on the planet. They have been loved at some point in time in their life. Because if you're not shown affection, human connection, contact, that energetic spark of connection, you will not survive this planet.

That's nice. Wow.

Every pediatric, every neonatal pediatrician knows this. Every neonatal nurse. It's called failure to thrive syndrome. So welcome, gentlemen. Because we are all loved, we're here, and we get to create the difference that we need to see in this world. Wow. We get to live it, be it, and share that.

That's a really great perspective. Yeah, I mean, that first part of your life, if someone doesn't love you enough, you're definitely dead. No, you're. You're not here. Mom, dad or cousin, niece, nephew, grandma, granddad, someone, somewhere.

So your most basic programming was imprinted at the time you came into this world. Breathing, heartbeat, and the need for love and connection. It's part of the human condition. Kwan, you had a question, brother? Yes. I say that, you know, do you guys brothers, do you ever use some. Any type of supplement to make you last longer? Should we use a supplement?

Good question. Give me three seconds. I have a. I have taken in the past. I'm just going to very. I'm 96% sure this is it. I have taken a GNC product in the past. This one right here, Mega Man GNC 50 plus, highly recommend. It's very good. There's a lot of aspects in there that will increase the prostate or, sorry, decrease the prostate, increasing your time to last longer. Lastly, also, a lot of breathing can go into that as well. Really just slowing it down and creating a cycle, because lasting longer is less muscle and it's more mindset and just like an endurance athlete. So running 100 miles, well, if you run three miles, you can run 100 miles, meaning it's the same process. And so what happens is you get to this rhythm of knowing, okay, this is how far I'm gonna go. You start with that intention. So because a lot of times the intention of sex is just to have sex. If you go with the intention of. All right, my intention is I want to. I want to spend 15 minutes inside of my wife, which is eternity, almost spend 15 minutes inside of her. All right, cool. That's. Step one, have that intention. Step two, come up with a breathing pattern that your brain and your body and your biochemistry knows. This breathing pattern is for me to go longer. Because when you work out, when you do sprinting, sprinting has a different breathing pattern than long distance running. Different type of breathing, different type of cadence. And I totally agree with. Fully agree with Kurt. He mentioned this. There's a term called edging. So edging is just simply not coming. Practicing the getting to the point, right to the brink. And then pulling back and letting her do whatever she needs to do. Figuring out other ways. Because you're like, oh, I'm right there. It's gonna happen any second before you get there.

Right.

Because it. It does take a lot of practice. It takes a lot of work to get, like, right on the edge and stop. But before you know, it's starting to get really exciting. Withdraw yourself some, like, physically, like, exit.

Yeah.

And start working on different speeds. Do a massage. Go an entirely different. Different direction. Chuck, you mentioned nitric oxide. Nitric oxide. Tell me about that.

So when you're breathing, what you're doing is actually increasing your nitric oxide levels. So the reason why you're hard in the morning is because it's at the apex, because you've come out of. You come out of deep REM sleep. And that's when your body produces the most nitric oxide. And the net result is, is that you have vasoc congestion. And that's why your flagpole is sticking up at full mast at, you know, 7 or 5am so if you take nitrous oxide the night before. Get ready. Nice. You have an erection that lasts for more than four hours, you may want to call your physician. And so either that or people just think you're happy to see them. So it's. It's a hell of a way to show up to a board meeting. It's the tenant institute, actually. John and Terry Tennant have probably some of the best nitric oxide I've ever taken. But you can get it. You can order it right on Amazon. And the. The thing about it is, is that it actually helps with blood flow through your entire body. So if you're. If you take it before you work out, things like that, you will get a massive pump. Like, it's. It is crazy, the amount of vasoconggestion that you can actually get in your muscles. So. And it's all natural, it's all organic, so you don't have to worry about having any kind of byproduct. Some people will actually tape their mouth shut at night, and they actually have mouth tape for sleeping. So that way you're breathing in and out through your nose all night. It actually will increase the amount of nitric oxide in your bloodstream by about 35 to 40%.

It's fascinating. Yeah, that's really cool. That is so cool. Beautiful. Well, family, another great week. Let me give. Give me two, three hours. I might take a nap, and then after I wake up, I'm going to figure out a good workout for us for the rest of the week. I'll kind of outline the next two weeks for us. We still have tons of time together. We got this Saturday coming up. We got next Monday, we got the Saturday following. And then of course, we're going to have our in person event together in October. Between now and then. Just love on all of you. Love being in your presence. Love being in this group. This has been, and I will say this, I don't know if this is because of me or because of you. It's because of Chuck. But this has been the most participatory group, right? Everyone's been here the entire time. Camera's on. I love that. Appreciate your energy. Appreciate you guys showing up to be the best versions of yourself. I'm really, really, really, really proud of you. You're doing an awesome, awesome job. If you ever need anything, please feel free to reach out. Happy to help with anything I can, but I'll see you on Saturday. I'll give you some, some workouts this week. You guys got your homework. Have fun. Enjoy all the benefits of being an incredible man. And I will see you on Saturday. See you guys.