In this monologue, the speaker argues that effective leadership requires a blend of confidence and humility, emphasizing that true confidence stems from preparation and the certainty of one’s ability to perform, not from guaranteed outcomes. Citing Lao Tzu and Sun Tzu, the speaker highlights that leaders should inspire followers by modeling the behavior they expect, rather than by exerting force. The discussion references an Eric Douglas Bouchard LinkedIn commentary, noting that leaders who appear confident yet acknowledge uncertainty are perceived as more effective and foster creativity, whereas overt certainty can appear authoritarian. Humility is presented as a martial‑arts concept that creates a partnership between leader and follower, allowing a leader to also be a good follower without diminishing status. The core message repeats that confidence built on training, preparation, and willingness to “walk the walk” enables leaders to inspire high performance, whether in command roles or on the front lines.
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Be confident yet humble. Lead by example. Lao Tzu said, "When the people are not in awe of your majesty, great majesty has been achieved." Be courageous yet sensitive. Authoritative without being authoritarian. People do tend to follow leaders with a healthy level of confidence. But only when that confidence is built on a solid foundation of trust and credibility. They want to know that you're willing to walk the walk with them, that you're gonna lead by example. Most people equate confidence with certainty, and to a point that's true, but genuine confidence is a certainty in your ability to perform, even perform to your best. Confidence is not surety of an outcome. Executive strategist Eric Douglas Bouchard posted a commentary on LinkedIn. Leaders who were confident but relatively uncertain were viewed as more effective, more likely to foster creative thinking and independent thinking. Those who were confident and certain were viewed as authoritarian and inflexible. How can confidence and uncertainty be the right combination for a leader? How can uncertainty and confidence even fit in the same headspace? Again, because confidence is not surety of an outcome. Now, true confidence attracts willing followers. Arrogance repels them. But true confidence appears subtly. In martial arts, we call this quality humility. Humility cultivates a partnership between leader and follower. This partnership between leader and follower is far more effective and powerful than the autocratic leader shouting orders from the rear. You inspire followers by your willingness to be a good follower yourself. And you can only operate effectively in both roles when you have the confidence to realize that following does not diminish your status as a leader. And when you have the humility to embrace your role as a follower with the same enthusiasm you bring to your role as a leader. I'll say it again: True confidence is not surety of an outcome. True confidence is a product of training and preparation. You can prepare to the best of your ability. You can face the challenge at hand with absolute certainty that you've done everything in your power to be your best in this moment. Win, lose, or draw. This is the type of confidence that makes you an effective person or an effective leader, whether you're in command and control or you're serving on the front lines. I keep beating this drum, but if there's one thing you can do to inspire the highest level of performance in others, it's to lead by example. Long ago, Sun Tzu said, "A leader leads by example, not by force." People follow examples much more enthusiastically than they do orders. If you want to lead effectively, model the behavior you expect from others. If you're going to talk the talk, then walk the walk.
