About 10-15% of people are socially awkward, defined by three things: trouble reading social cues, difficulty expressing themselves appropriately, and obsessive interests they lecture about unprompted. These traits explain why awkward people have more awkward moments.
Or how would you define social awkwardness? So there's awkward moments and then there's awkward people. And we've all had awkward moments. That's for sure. Yeah. It's part of the fun of the topic, I think. They get funny, fortunately, over time. But in the moment, certainly very embarrassing. Awkward moments are just deviations from relatively minor social expectations. Now there's awkward people. Awkward people have more awkward moments, obviously. And so about 10 to 15% of the population is socially awkward. They just have a harder time deciphering what's the social skill required in the situation. So what's the social expectation here? They have a harder time executing the social skill to meet that expectation. They also have trouble with communication, so that could be understanding what someone else intends to communicate to them, or it could be getting their point across in a way that's socially palatable. The last characteristic is obsessive interests. Everybody has something that they're interested in. Awkward people almost get obsessive, or do get obsessive, about the things that they're interested in, and they tend to lecture people about something that they're obsessively interested about that might not be as interesting to the other person.
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