Jim Kwik argues self-love isn't selfish and that fear of not being enough holds people back. He introduces HEART goals—Healthy, Enduring, Alluring, Relevant, Truth—as an alternative to SMART goals, and says cultivating curiosity and courage through meditation and journaling helps you live authentically.
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Self-love is not selfish. I feel like the biggest challenge people have in life is this fear that they're not enough. Yeah. And I believe that's what holds us back. And people talk about themselves in relationships, and I think we grow a lot in our intimate relationships because they're a mirror to us. And I also feel like you have to fall in love again with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing. You know, learning in love— I always wish people this year and their days before lots of life, Lots of love, lots of laughter, and lots of learning. But I think they go hand in hand. And self-love, people could put it into a hold hands and sing Kumbaya. Yeah. But I'm saying do the things that you would do for yourself. 'Cause I feel like we're only happy when 2 things happen. This is my advice. Number one, you need the curiosity to know yourself because that's self-awareness. That's why we meditate, that's why we journal, that's why we listen to things. It's self-reflection. We have intimate relationships, we build businesses because they put us through tests and shows us who we really are. So have the curiosity to know yourself. But once you know yourself, you need the courage to be yourself. And that's a different game. A lot of us, when we're looking back again, we don't wanna have those regrets and the expectations of other people. Mm. And that's where I think people, they limit themselves. So I would say my advice to somebody right now is to make sure you dedicate time every single day to self-care and really spend the time to not only know yourself, but give yourself permission to really be yourself. Everyone makes SMART goals, right? They're specific and they're measurable and they're action-oriented and they're realistic and they're time-bound. I'm all for that, setting goals, but also make them heart goals. Remember I talked about the power of the heart? Make them H, healthy. In every area of your life, make sure that they're healthy in the ecology of your life. I would also say E, make them enduring. You know, make them enduring so as we go through hard times, which invariably we will— Sure. In business and in life and relationships and health, make sure that they're inspiring enough to be able to get you through those hard times. The A is make them alluring. Alluring means they pull you. Right? They're so attractive, they just like get you out of bed, they're alluring. The R is relevant, meaning you want to make them relevant because a lot of people set goals, but are they solving a personal problem for you? Are they really relevant to your particular values in life and in relationships and business? And finally, the T, I think it's the most important one when you're setting goals, make them your truth. Because so many people are setting goals and a vision that's not really theirs. They picked it up from their parents, You know, they're doctors because their parents were doctors, or they picked up from the Joneses, or something outside. You know, know your truth and live from, live from there. Hi, Kwik Brain. It's your brain coach. I want to thank you so much for watching this video. 3 things to do. Number 1, make sure you share this, because when you teach something, you get to learn it twice. Update your learning so you can update other people's learning as well. Number 2, make sure you subscribe. Subscribe to this channel so you don't miss a thing, because if you miss a video, you miss a lot. And finally, make sure you hit that bell so you're notified and you find out when we put out the latest and the greatest. One extra thing, if you want really close attention, then text me. Here is my phone number: 310-299-9362. Did you remember that number? 310-299-9362. Shoot me a text and we'll stay in touch. Ask me your burning question. And I wish your days be full of lots of life, lots of love, lots of laughter, and always lots of learning. I'll see you in our next video.
