Bring Out Your Radical Confidence | Jim Kwik & Lisa Bilyeu

Welcome back, Quick Brain, to the Quick Brain Show. I'm your host, Jim Kwik, and your question for today is a big one. People always mention this on social media, in our private Facebook group, in our app. They want to know about confidence. So this episode is all about how to unleash radical confidence, and we have a very special guest here. You notice the studio that we're in, so it might be a hint for it. We have Lisa Billieu. Thank you so much for being on the show. This is usually like reversed, and you. Lisa, many of you know, because we mention Lisa often in our shows and our social media, and we're always reposting. She was co-founder of a billion-dollar nutrition company, Quest Nutrition, where she put things on pause to do that for— it was like 5—

8 years.

8 years.

Yeah, I had my life on pause for 8 years.

That's amazing. And the founder and co-founder of Impact Theory and also Women of Impact, and we're on your set right now. This is the most cameras I've ever had on me ever, so this is the most produced show.

Except for when you're on Tom's show.

This is, this is true. And so we don't— our listeners aren't usually used to this. And you are the author of the brand new book Radical Confidence, and this is awesome. 10 No BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life. Congratulations on the book.

Thank you. I can't believe I'm here with you, Jim.

No, this is so exciting, and usually the roles are a little bit reversed because you're interviewing such amazing individuals. And first of all, thank you for your friendship.

Oh, god ditto.

Yeah, we were just reminiscing. I remember Stock Coming By Quest.

Like 6 years ago?

Yeah, it was a minute.

Yeah, Tom kept talking about you for the longest time. He's like, I'm trying to get this guy Jim on, he's amazing. And I just kept hearing about you, and then you finally And then you finally came on Inside Quest like 6 years ago, and it's one of those moments where you don't realize what is about to happen with a friendship, right? You know, and so when I saw you today, I was like, we've known each other for 6 years.

I know, and in this world, that's like dog years. It feels like it's like 40-something years. Congratulations on the book.

Thank you.

I'm so excited. I, I enjoyed so much reading it. You are an amazing storyteller.

Thank you.

And what a— there's no better person that could write a book like this because this is I've spent a lot of time with you and Tom, and I know when your fans and followers ask questions, it usually has to do with overcoming things like self-doubt, you know, that monkey mind that people, you know, they have fear of looking bad, fear of making mistakes. So what's the— first of all, why the title Radical Confidence? What is that?

Yeah, so you've known me from before when I— before I was ever in front of the camera. I was always behind the scenes. I was the support system. So I was helping build Quest behind the scenes. I was helping build Impact Theory behind the scenes. Tom was always up front. And having stepped in front of the camera, a lot of people say to me, my God, Lisa, I need— I want the confidence like you. Whenever I would do a Q&A, and I'm like, who are they looking at? Like, they keep saying I've got confidence. I'm like looking around like, I don't understand who they're talking about. And they're like, but you, you know, you always seem confident. And I was like, okay, the truth is Is that I'm not confident at all. If you heard the voice in my head, Jim, that's mean and cruel and telling me I'm not good enough, it's like, what are you doing in front of the camera? Who do you, you know, who do you think you are? Like the imposter syndrome, all of that is still very real. But what I don't do, I don't let that stop me. And I was like, that's what people see. People see me take action, so they perceive that to be confidence. But the truth is, it's radical confidence, which means I'm petrified. I'm so scared.

Really?

But I do it anyway. And that's why I was like, that's radical confidence. We so focus on, I want to feel great about myself to make that first step, but I've never done that. I've always felt insecure and doubtful, but I do it anyway. And so that was why I was like, that has to, has to have a name, has to be radical. And so radical confidence.

So is this something that you learned for yourself or something that you learned through experience?

Yeah.

Or something you're— you think someone's born with, or—

Um, so, but I was a housewife supporting Tom for 8 years. That wasn't my dream. There's seriously no judgment if that's someone's dream, that they want to have kids and said, I love that. If you know that and that's what you want, amazing. I slipped into it because I was brought up with a Greek Orthodox background telling me every day, you're going to end up being a wife and mother, even though it didn't feel right. It didn't feel true to who I was. And yet, Jim, in my 20s, I found myself married to my husband, who I love to death, and I was staying at home supporting him for 8 years.

Right.

And I realized I was unhappy. I was stuck. It's what I now call purgatory of the mundane.

Purgatory of the mundane.

Because I didn't hit rock bottom. And everyone— I mean, I'm a host. I have incredible women on my show, and almost every story is When they hit rock bottom, you know, it's always heartbreaking stories, but that's what snapped them out of it.

But you didn't even have that.

I didn't have that.

Rock bottom can be more motivating in a way.

Exactly.

Yeah.

It can be so motivating because you're like, well, there's nothing left, I may as well try.

Right.

But what about when you're just in a life where it's mundane enough? I had a roof over my head.

Comfortable.

Yeah, comfortable.

Yeah.

My husband loves me. I have a roof over my head. I didn't have to work.

Right.

And so my life was just happening, and I never— I felt like I was stuck in, like, the purgatory. But I didn't have— I didn't feel like I was deserving enough to speak up about the fact that I was unhappy. And what I realized was, is that you can be so in love with some parts of your life, love the fact that I had a beautiful relationship, love the fact that I had security, and yet be absolutely profoundly miserable in other areas.

Hmm.

And you have every right to speak up and say that. I didn't realize that. So for 8 years, I just kept going with the flow and waiting for when. When Tom makes enough money so we can make movies. When I have children, I'm going to be happy. When this happens, I'm going to be happy. And I just waited for the when to happen for 8 years. Until Quest started and my husband came home one day and was like, just help with this new startup company. And of course, what I didn't realize was just helping and shipping bars from my living room floor turned into growing at 57,000%. And in 2 years, I went from literally just by myself shipping bars from my living room floor to I had a department, a shipping department, 10,000 square feet, 40— 4-0— employees underneath me, and we were shipping out, I mean, Millions, like $80 million of product within 2 years. I was scared all along the way, Jim. All the entire time, I didn't know what I was doing. I had to be a boss. What the hell is a boss? I didn't know how to be a boss. And in those moments of fear, I, I looked at the situation. I said, well, my house is on the line. Like, we had committed our house as collateral. So all this fear, all this insecurity of I, I don't know how to be a boss, I don't know how to grow a company, I'm around all these entrepreneurs that have— seasoned entrepreneurs, have been in business for 10, 15 years, Tom's business partners.

Mm-hmm.

And here's little old Lisa, 5'1, trying to command a room with 6'5 ex-convicts in a shipping department. But they were amazing humans.

Mm-hmm.

But they're very dominant. So now how do you not crumble? And in those moments, Jim, I had a choice. I could face, like, let my fear, insecurity take over, and go home?

Mm-hmm.

Like, literally, I could have done that. Or I say, do I want to lose my house? Do I want to let my husband down?

Right.

What type of person do I want to be? And I was like, I just have to figure it out. And so every step became a figure it out, learn, fall on your face, get back up, figure it out, learn, fall on your face, get back up. And then as I started to do that, in the failure became the lessons. And that's when I realized all this insecurity that I still have It just made me realize it doesn't have to stop me. And that's where my mindset, my mindset really shifted into taking ownership. Who do I want to be? And do I do— do I work towards it every single day? Whether I'm afraid or not, it doesn't matter. But do I make that little step towards it? Yes or no? And if the answer is yes, I'm on the right path. If answer is no, I have to ask myself why. What's holding me back? Is it an excuse? Own it if it's an excuse, and I don't judge myself for it, but I then call myself on it. Lisa, you're using this as an excuse, and now demolish that excuse and move on.

So it's not even just radical confidence; you have radical ownership.

Yes, 100%.

Yes, as opposed to blaming or complaining or you know putting it outside of yourself.

Yeah, because in those moments where I wanted to, Jim, I wanted to blame everyone else. I wanted this isn't my responsibility. Oh no, that's the. But in the moments where I didn't have the luxury, which is the best gift I could have now looking back, I didn't have the luxury to not do it, to not try, because our house literally was up for collateral. So if the company fell, yeah, you lose your house. It's that black and white. So that forced me into learning and figuring it out.

And so you had real— you had a real why, a real, real purpose behind it, because you could not fail, and he made you step up. And I imagine a lot of people are watching, if they're watching on YouTube or they're listening to it, they're going through challenges like all of us, right? Maybe in their health, maybe in a relationship, maybe they want to ask, you know, for a raise at their job or pursue a relationship, something, right?

Yeah.

And they have doubt, they have insecurity, maybe they're scared of looking bad. You know, what's your perception on, you know, a lot of our show has to do with learning and the ability to fail forward or make mistakes and get feedback and still go through? Because you said you've fallen a number of times, but then you stood back up.

Yeah.

And I don't know a lot of strong people that I admire that had easy lives, you know, at all.

Failure is one of those tricky things that the more you do it, the more comfortable you get at it. Doesn't mean that it changes. I still fail all the time.

Really?

All the time. But now, because I've had so many experiences where I'm like, those were the most powerful lessons, I now learn that it's okay. But the truth is, when you haven't made those first steps, the fear of failing is crippling.

Yeah.

And so to me, I go, okay, how do I act then in the face of that? How do— what do I do if I fail? And I come up with a game plan before it happens because I allow my emotions to to take over. I really do. I have a whole chapter called about get— it's actually a swear word, so I won't say it, but gain emotional sobriety.

Yeah.

And that means, can you address a situation when you're emotionally sober, with clarity, with your, you know, nothing's filtering you? And so to me, you have to gain emotional sobriety in order to be able to move forward. But when you're so scared and you haven't learned that failure actually is the great lesson, how the hell do you move forward? Like, what do you do? So to me, it's all about a game plan. So the perfect example is I did a TEDx talk. I was so scared. I never wanted to do public speaking. I've seen you do it. I've seen Tom do it. You guys are so good. And all the entire time I sit there in the audience going, I'll never do that. I'll never do that. Wow. Out of fear.

It's just remarkable though because I watch your videos and your interviews and I follow, you know, social media and you see you have like all of these countless people watching and commenting, and they wouldn't— I don't think anyone— some people who know you would believe that, even seeing you now.

I— it's interesting. Yeah, it's just been an evolution. So I knew that when I was stepping in front of the camera, obviously I've seen you and Tom do such a great job of this, is that public speaking becomes part of the service in the sense of this is— if you have a goal and you want to impact people, there's nothing like seeing someone speaking in person on stage. And so once I decided that goal, and then I started to take the steps towards it. So I started my show, and then as that show, Tom was the one that was like, you're gonna have to do public speaking. And I was like, I don't have to do anything, right? That was like my security blanket. I don't have to do anything. And I was like, well, hang on, what's my goal then? Do my actions serve the goal, yes or no?

Hmm.

And so when I could look at it without judgment, without saying to myself, well, Does that mean something about me? Does that say something about me? Take all of that out. Like, what is my goal and does public speaking serve it? Yes or no? Just yes or no. Yes. Okay. Now, why am I not doing it? Because I'm fearful. Okay. No judgment. Are you willing to let your fear get in the way of your goal?

Great question.

Like, if you can just ask questions like that to see with clarity, and the truth is, If the answer is yes, I wouldn't judge myself. I was like, I've made that decision with my eyes wide open. But now, Jim, I can't go back and at night and say, oh my God, I failed. I haven't impacted this person.

Right.

Because I've made the decision to not take the steps. So what I did was I said, okay, the fear is stopping me. I can't let the fear stop me. So this is what I'm going to do. So I had a plan. The next— the first offer I ever get of public speaking, I'm just going to say yes. No one knew this, Jim. No one knew this. I made the decision in my head in advance. In advance. I didn't tell anyone. I didn't— I went out there, but I was like, because I know myself, I'll let my emotions get in the way, I'll get all fearful, and I'll say no. So I've made this commitment to myself. And then sure enough, like a month later, someone reaches out, we want you to do a TEDx talk. I literally was like, yes! I just quickly, and then I was like, oh my God, what did I just do? And then I got into my own head, but I've already responded.

Right, it's done. Yeah.

So now I go, what are the things that are now the fear going to get me in the way of doing the public speaking? And I was like, take it step by step, Lisa, one step at a time. Okay, the goal is to go on stage and crush it. All right, how on earth do I get the confidence to go on stage in the first place? Because It can be so fearful. And so I—

It's like the number one fear.

It is. It's like worse than death, right?

And yeah, right behind death and fire.

Yeah, that's— it's crazy. So I was like, okay, I need a game plan. I just need— because I can get— my emotions can get— take over me. Everything can get in the way. I just need a game plan. Okay, what's my game plan? And so I sat and I said, what are the things that I know? What are the tools that I have that can get me the confidence to get on stage? It's putting on shoes. So I've got these boots that are knee-high boots, and I won't say the word because it's a swear word, but it's— they're power boots to me. And so I go, what's my power outfit?

Oh.

Wonder Woman has a cape. I wear my Wonder Woman necklace around my, you know, my neck. I do this so that when I look in the mirror, over time it becomes subliminal, but over time when I look in the mirror, I see this logo over and over and over, and it reminds me of the internal power. So I go, cool, what are that? What's that? What's my uniform? So it's the hair, it's the jewelry, because this is literally like I'm suiting up. And then I put a song on. And so literally I had this song on before I went on stage, and I start like, like, and my song is I'm a Survivor by Destiny's Child.

I know it.

And it's like, it's people doubting you, it's people saying you can't do it. That gets me revved up.

They underestimate you.

Yeah. And so I have all these steps. So every time I'm feeling fearful, I'm like, okay, what do I know? Okay. Oh God, I gotta put my jewelry on. Yes, I have to get it. Okay, what do I know? I need music. And so I did this whole ritual to the point, Jim, this might be a bit too TMI. I had Supergirl underwear on.

Wow.

Because my nerves, you end up peeing like 20, 30 times before you go on stage. I just needed that extra little thing.

Yeah.

No one knew, but this was all my preparation.

Yeah.

My, my game plan to getting on stage. So that, it really helped. Now the problem was, once I was on stage, what if I froze? What if I messed up?

Right.

So I was like, okay, that's a very real concern, Lisa. Have a game plan for if you mess up. And that's not to like put fear in me to be like, you're gonna mess up. It's to actually relax me because I can get in my own head and I can be on stage and be like, is that person staring at me? Did I mess up? And now it's like, what are you gonna do when that voice comes back? I need a game plan. So my game plan was, okay, what do kids do? You know when they fall on the floor and— have you ever seen it where they fall on the floor and they hurt themselves but they look at the parent to be like, should I cry or should I be like strong? It's the same thing on stage. And because I've watched so many incredible people like you and Tom speak on stage, I I pick things up, and it's like you know what? If you're nervous, it makes me nervous. But if you're powerful and you're like laughing or having fun, I feel it. So I told myself, all right, Lisa, if you mess up or if you freeze, make a joke of it. Just laugh it off. Because if I do anything else, I will get in my own head again, and then everyone else is going to give me that fearful look. You know where they go wide-eyed, and then the wide-eyed then makes you even more fearful, and now you really start. So I was like, you're gonna laugh. Great, now I've got a backup plan. So I managed to get the confidence, I got on stage, and Jim, a minute into my TED Talk, I mess up. And one of my stories, I say that my father gave birth to my grandmother.

Okay.

Of course, instead of the other way around. And so I was like, well, that would be weird.

That's awesome.

And everyone freaking laughed, and I just moved on. And it put me in such a light-hearted thing. I did the talk. It wasn't my best. I mean, it was my first one, so I gave myself the grace to be like, Lisa, it was your first public speaking gig ever, so you shouldn't expect it to be the best thing in the world. Um, but I did it, Jim. I did it.

You did it. I love that. With your permission, can I put that in the show notes?

Of course, absolutely. And people can see my mess up and then just how, like, a bit unsure I was, but it's okay, you know. It's like, how many, you know, of people watching or listening are trying something for the first time, and we think we have to be amazing at it?

Yeah.

But it's like when I first went to film school, my first day of class, it wasn't like all of a sudden people like, oh, and you're Steven Spielberg. They give you the grace, and you give yourself the grace to have a 4-year education or whatever. But for some reason, when you're out of school, school and you're doing something for the first time, people expect it of ourselves to be perfect. And so I kind of just let go of all of that.

And I love the backstory, you know, this origin story, because it's, you know, so many people, they'll see the final product of you right now, and it's an inspiring example that, you know, big things have small beginnings. Yeah, you know, whether it's your, your talk, your show, you know, back at quest, you know, in the living room packing bars and everything, you know. And so little by little, a little becomes a lot. And so you have, you have a goal that you say yes to, that your heart is inspired. You say it in advance, you say yes and you're gonna figure it out. And then you go through and you prepare, right?

Yeah.

You do the work, you have backups in case something goes, goes wrong, because then once you commit to something, you have to take that action. action, to get you to put yourself on the line.

Yeah.

Which is amazing. And, and I love the power suit. You know, athletes do that also as well. They all have their, their rituals and their things, their, their charms that give them, you know, power they could draw on. I love obviously the superheroes that are all over this house because you have shelves and shelves of them like, like I do. You know, I started wearing Brain shirts because that was part of my ritual. I felt like when I put it on, it was like putting on, you know, my Spider-Man or my Batman, my suit, you know, and it definitely transformed. And also, you're an impeccable artist too, you know, when I'm thinking about your pictures of some amazing sheroes out there, and put that on social media takes, you know, a lot of radical confidence too because of judgment and everything. And so that's an amazing way you could balance it out with creative. What would you say now to the person who's watching. I noticed when you wrote the book, this is not just a book on mastering radical confidence. It's really about even mastering your mind and mastering your life. You know, each of these 10 lessons, they're really no BS. It's— and then you have it— I love the structure because I thought we were talking about before we started recording about, you know, the process of writing a book.

Yeah.

It's I can. You have all these I cans in there, which is really a big part of mindset. Because most people in their minds, you know, they don't believe they can, you know. And if you believe you can or can't, you know, either way you're gonna be right, you know. So I love, I love the structure. How did you come up with the, the 10 lessons? Because everyone— I want to remind everyone to go purchase this book, you know. I'll give the website a couple of times. It's radicalconfidence.com.

Yeah, absolutely.

And you also just— just the quick— I would get it on this site, because when I went to the site, when you do, you get all these bonuses.

Yeah.

What are those about?

So, um, so for pre-orders, there's a bunch of bonuses. Just, it's really— I didn't want people to wait to start their Radical Confidence journey. Yeah. And so kind of like, as I'm talking about it, really trying to like give more like the value that comes with them with just the book. Because as you know, like, we love video content and we love like work books and things like that. So for me, I don't just learn with reading a book. I learn in like all these different ways. So immediately you get 9 hours of class that I've taught.

Wow.

In our Impact Theory University where I've done classes on relationships, confidence, and being your own hero. And so we've just kind of packaged those up as like a special added, and you get those immediately for pre-order.

And that's— and I'm telling everyone who's listening, watching this, that's worth way more than the price of a book like that. And you produce not only the most amazing content, but also the way you produce it. I think there are like 7 or 8 cameras.

Something like that.

And it's a good thing I got over and I have my confidence to be in front of cameras because I'm very introverted. So then why did you write the book and who did you write it for?

Yeah, so when I started to realize Okay, what is it the thing that I struggled with the most? Because it has to come straight from the heart, because I can't pretend. Like, I'm not— I don't think of myself as a teacher. I don't think of myself as innately a teacher to have a very clear structure. And I was like, but people think of me, as you've said it before, is when they see me on camera and they think that I have all the confidence. I was like, okay, how did I get to where I was, and how do I backtrack and just be honest about what Yeah. The messiness of the journey.

There's a radical honesty in this book.

Yeah, thank you. And that was the thing, it's like, if I'm gonna say it, I have to be honest. And it's like, I don't ever want people to think I'm perfect. I'm so far from it. And that's what I was saying, like, I still fail, I still mess up. Even today, I still have the doubt, I still have the insecurity, but I don't let it stop me. And so for me, it was like, where did I start from? And it really was that moment of I had a belief system that I was taught growing up. I think we all do, from the interactions we have with our— the way our parents brought us up, with the town we grew up in, with the culture we had. Like, and so for me, growing up Greek Orthodox really did lead me into— I think allowed me to be stuck for those 8 years without speaking up, because I was taught a certain mindset and a certain belief system. So I thought, okay, I have to address that first. So that was why how the book was structured is addressing your mindset. You know, one of the chapters, one of the beginning chapters is Make Up Your Mindset, you know, because it's like you do actually get to choose.

Yeah.

You do. You get to choose what language you say out loud. You get to choose whether I can do this. And you even said it earlier, it's like either way you're right. And so for me, it was important to just repeat to people, I want you to read this, I want you read in your head or say it to yourself, I can X, Y, and Z. So that each chapter, as we all know, right, um, repetition creates habit, repetition creates habit, repetition creates habit. So to me, it was so freaking important to have someone read to themselves, I can do this, I can do that. And once you do that enough throughout the book, the hope is at the end you really do believe you can do it. It doesn't mean that you're going in with blind confidence or that you're going to crush it. It means that you can get over it if you fail. You can take that beginning step. You can have the audacity to dream and live out that dream.

That's so powerful. And then who's it— who should get this book?

So the bigger goal is definitely the 14-year-old Lisa, because when I think about—

I just got goosebumps.

When I think about my own story, everything I fight for, every day. Like, when we sold Quest, Tom and I definitely could have retired, but what's the mission? Like, what's the thing that's pulling me out of bed every single day? It isn't money, it isn't fame.

Yeah.

It's helping that 14-year-old, because I've spent the last 20 years of my life unwiring all the— everything I've just told you has been 20 years in the making. It's been— I've been trying to unwire how I actually take the steps to live the life I want, how I have the confidence, the radical confidence to tell my husband, hey, I know I've been taking care of you for these 8 years. I've been putting your clothes out. I've been feeding you. I no longer want to do it. That takes radical confidence to say that and say it with love and compassion. It's got nothing to do with you. I love you more than life itself. but I don't want this life anymore. All of those things I've had to fight to develop. And so if I can impact a woman who has impact on a 14-year-old girl, or a mother that may be watching this, or a father that may be watching this that has that daughter, that they can then help. And then ideally, um, you know, maybe the Radical Confidence teen books comes out if this does well, you know, the animation series, like the bigger picture. picture of what this could be, all stems from how do I help that 14-year-old girl. And so when I was exhausted, right, I mean, you know how exhausting writing a book is, marketing, doing all these interviews. Every single time I say, am I, you know, I'm too tired, or can I actually do this, can I actually write a book, I was like, okay, well, you can have the doubt, Lisa, but is that doubt going to overcome Your desire to help that 14-year-old girl, and every step of the way, it was like no. The fear is not strong enough to outweigh the desire I have to impact that 14-year-old girl.

I love it because your your faith is is stronger than your and your fear.

Yeah.

So it's not even like it's could be don't it's not even fake it till you make it. It's like face it until you make it also as well, and then the power of choice. This book, everybody, is a must-read. And so because it is, I'll tell you, it's real and it's raw, and more than anything, it's rewarding for, for you. Because what keeps us from where we are to where we want to be, I think there's 2 kinds of pains. There's the pain of, of leaving our comfort zone, you know, leaving that purgatory of mediocrity, or it's the pain of staying there.

Mm-hmm.

Also, also as well, you know, and Radical confidence is available to anyone, and it takes, you know, radical responsibility for our life, a radical agency. So you have your sovereignty to make those choices, and that's why it's a blueprint for, for being able to live your best life. And so, Lisa, any parting words to everyone who's watching right now or listening? It could be about the book or radical confidence.

First of all, thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you. This is just a dream come true. I can't even believe your kind, generous offer to have me on here. And then just, yeah, I mean, really the thing is for the audience is like, what is that thing that you want in life?

Yeah.

Like when you were a kid, when you imagined what your life would be, and then what has stopped you from getting there? If you still want that dream, or what is that dream that you want right now? What's that life you want? And are you taking every step towards it to make it happen? And the truth is, is that this book hopefully gives you those tools. It's not that it's easy. It's not like, oh, you should have the confidence, radical confidence, go out and do it anyway. It's right. It's not that. It's that these are the steps. These are the things you have to address. And it's going to be uncomfortable. And it's going to be like scary. And there are going to be moments where you have to face yourself and you have to ask yourself the tough questions. But to me, In my own experience, that has what, what has led me from going to— from 8 years of being at home waiting for my husband to come home to give me the joy, to give me the excitement, um, to the life that I lead now where I really am the hero of my own life. Like, it is not my husband. I'm not waiting to be saved anymore. And how I've done that is through the tools. So whatever that person is right now that's listening, Yeah. it's possible. It's going to be hard, but I do think it's possible if you're willing to take that first step.

Yeah, it's not necessarily easy, but no one said it's gonna be easy. But the question is, is it worth it?

Right. And that's actually the thing. I love that you said that. Thank you. Because there's no judgment. Like, literally, if you're just like, yeah, no, I— the, the idea of growth and failing is so crippling to me, I'd actually rather live a life of safety where I am right now. I actually respect someone that makes that decision with clarity. The only hope I have is that then in 5 or 10 years they don't look back and wish they had— didn't— they had a different life. But if you can make that decision with your eyes wide open, have the life you want.

Yeah.

And so if the uncomfortableness doesn't sound great to you, I don't necessarily— I don't think everyone should have it, but then don't Then at least be comfortable with the fact that you're not having— you're not making your dreams come true.

Yeah, we can do this thought experiment where people just fast forward 5 years from now or 10 years from now and say life is exactly the same, exactly the same, you know, are you happy? Yeah, you know, and I have it, and people can make their own choice on that matter. I recommend everybody takes a screenshot of wherever you're listening or watching this episode, whether it's on Spotify or iTunes YouTube, on social media, and actually post, post it, tag Lisa, make sure you follow her, tag myself so we get to see it because we want to see it. And what do you want them to ask? What do you want to ask them while they, while they make that post? Do you want to ask them a question or something you want them to share so we get to see?

I'd love to know what people are looking to get radical confidence in.

I like that.

Like, what is that like end goal? And that's another thing as well, is focus Focusing on the end goal. I want radical confidence to get to— it's not in and of itself. It's not like I've now got radical confidence. It's you use it as a tool to get to that life you want.

I love that. Take a screenshot, follow Lisa, tag her, tag myself, and share your answer to that question. What are you using your radical confidence to get closer to? And I'll repost some of— because you'll tag us, and I'll repost some of our favorites also as well. And make sure everybody goes to radicalconfidence.com. Get your bonuses there. And really, let's think about it. There's— we have one life, you know. Why aren't we running towards those goals like we're on fire? And yeah, get Radical Confidence. Thanks, Lisa.

Oh my God, thank you. Bye, guys.

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