Jim KwikFounder, Kwik Brain · Brain Coach

Feeling stressed? Ask yourself THIS question!

19 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief advice segment, the speaker presents a practical mental framework for reducing stress. First, he suggests asking whether a stressful situation is a "tragedy" or merely an "inconvenience," encouraging a quick re‑framing that lowers emotional intensity. He then explains that stress is driven by two faulty assumptions: a prediction that something will happen and the belief that the outcome will be terrible. To counter the prediction, he advises acknowledging that predictions are unreliable and generating three reasons why the feared event might not occur. Finally, he recommends imagining the event does happen and actively re‑interpreting the feared consequences as potentially neutral or even advantageous. By moving from "it will be terrible" to "it may not happen or could be beneficial," the listener can feel calmer and more empowered to act.

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Ask yourself, is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? Because most of the time, the things that stress really is not so earth-shaking. And as soon as you ask yourself, is it a tragedy? Then you relax a little bit and you just go forward and fix things. Another thing that people can do is, since stress relies on 2 things, the first is a prediction that something's going to happen, and second, that when it happens, it's going to be terrible. So you can attack those separately. People don't realize that prediction is an illusion. We can't predict. We can look back and make everything make sense. So you give yourself 3 reasons that this thing might not happen, and then you say, well, maybe it'll happen, maybe it won't. So you already feel a little better. And then the hard part— imagine that it does happen. Now, all of those things that you were so worried about, how might they be interpreted differently and actually be an advantage? Now you have this thing may or may not happen, and if it happens, it won't be terrible, might actually be good.