Chronic emotional avoidance backfires, but taking a strategic break for a few hours or days before dealing with something can help. The difference is whether you actually return to it.
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Is there ever a time where avoiding our emotions and not being in the moment ever works out well in our favor? There's been research on this, and yes, it is true that chronically avoiding problems is linked with negative outcomes consistently, and there's a large literature on that. What I'm saying with chronic avoidance is you've got a rule. Every time you are provoked or triggered in some way, you're just going to not think about it, and you're going to maintain that avoidant response This is not good. It is also not good to try to distract yourself by engaging in risky behaviors or taking illicit substances. It tends not to work out well for people when they do that. But being strategic in how you approach and avoid can be really useful, right? So you don't have to choose between only approaching or only avoiding. You can move back and forth. What I've learned is sometimes taking some time away, distracting myself, avoiding that issue for a few hours or even a few days, and then coming back to it can be remarkably useful.