You might be drawn to partners who remind you of a difficult parent, because the familiar feels safe and your unconscious hopes to fix what went wrong. Or you pick the opposite type, trying to avoid the same problems. Either way, your childhood is steering who you choose.
Why we are attracted to some people and not others? One theory is that we may be attracted to someone who reminds our unconscious of a parent. And here's the real kicker. We will be reminded of the parent who maybe we have a difficult relationship with. Maybe it's really difficult, maybe it's just a little bit difficult. And the theory in the psychology world is our unconscious gravitates towards that because it's familiar and because our unconscious wants to somehow rewrite history or rectify history and, and work it out. So that's one theory. But I also know a lot of people who choose people who are the exact opposite of their parent who they struggle with.
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