Jim Kwik argues confidence comes from identity, not action. Instead of a to-do list, make a to-be list: write down who you need to become (focused, confident, compassionate) and use "I am" affirmations to shape your behavior. When you align your identity with what you want, the right actions follow.
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You do not have confidence, you do it. How do you become more confident? You start with your to-be list. You have a to-do list, but before you do, you have to be. So what's on your to-be list? And maybe it's to be focused, maybe it's to be confident, maybe it's to be compassionate. In fact, when you're facing a decision or dilemma, most people say, what do I need to do? If you're facing a difficulty, don't ask what do you need to do. First, pause and ask yourself, who do I need to be? Because if you're gonna be compassionate, the doing takes care of itself. You're just gonna do loving things. And the same thing applies applies to confidence. Remember, the 2 most powerful words in the English language are the shortest: I am. Because whatever you put after that determines your life, your focus. Make the choice.