John Assaraf walks through a guided exercise to build self-esteem by recalling small past accomplishments. Low self-esteem is often learned early through school, bullying, or family interactions. The practice activates brain areas that reinforce a positive self-view, backed by University of New Hampshire research.
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Hey, this is John Assraf, CEO of NeuroGym and I'd love to share with you some thoughts and ideas and research on how to increase your self esteem. Now, if you've ever felt like you weren't smart enough or good enough or deserving enough to achieve any of your life's goals and dreams or to have the life that you dream of, I've got something really important to share with you. That's part of my life's mission. Because I used to have debilitating low self esteem and the emotions that went with them. Meaning I didn't really want to take action for fear of not being good enough, not being smart enough, and for having people ridicule me. That's not the case today and I've overcome that. But I want you to understand that low self esteem usually is learned at a very, very young age as a result of how well we did. Whether it's in school, whether we got bullied by kids or kids made fun of us, or we were rejected in sports or in the dating game, or our parents talked to us in a certain way, or our teachers, or our brothers or sisters, and you probably know a host of other types of life events that causes us as humans to feel less than others. Now, as adults, we can change our perception of ourselves and augment our own self esteem by doing a few inner sizes every single day. Now, inner size is a process to help you engage in the mental and emotional activities and that stimulate and strengthen your ability to regulate your own thoughts, your beliefs about yourself, the emotions that come with being a human being, and the behaviors that will help you achieve your goals and dreams. And according to research at the University of New Hampshire, they've shown that when you and I focus on past memories of achievement, no matter how small, or we focus on mastering a a goal or mastering a behavior and mastering and achieving success, our self esteem improves. So what I'd like you to do is. Let's try it now. First, what I want you to do is notice your mental and emotional state right now. Just notice your mental and emotional state right now. Next, what I'd like you to do as I am talking with you, if you really want to play along and participate fully, close your eyes and what I want you to do is recall a great accomplishment. Now it can be learning how to ride a bike. It could be going to school on your own. It could be learning to tie your shoelace. It could be you studying and doing a great job on a test. It could be you trying something you were afraid of trying or doing and you did it anyway. Now, as you really focus and think of that accomplishment, notice your state of mind and your emotional state. You see, whenever you do this inner size, by activating your positive memory, you reinforce and activate key areas of your brain that that'll motivate you and reinforce your self esteem. Inner sizing is really simple, but we have forgotten to really nurture and take care of ourselves. So I want you to remember and do that every single day. And as a bonus, if you want to make the experience even more powerful before you do the exercise, or let me restate that before you do the inner size, I want you to take a few deep relaxing breaths, five or six relaxing breaths before you do this inner size, and it will cement the memory even more in your brain faster and easier than ever before. And that, according to the latest research, will augment your self esteem. Inner sizes are easy and you can do them. So are you ready to augment your self esteem? Do that exercise two or three times a day. Okay, that's the inner size for today. Share with me your thoughts below. And as always, I'd love you to share this inner size with your friends on Facebook or any other social media outlet that you're on.
