Rewire Your Brain So You Can Achieve Your Dream Life

Hey there. Good morning. Welcome to another Tuesday morning session with me. Every Tuesday morning I am here on my live feed into Facebook and my team tells me we are airing live. I like to call this session, every Tuesday morning the Achieve Even More session. My whole life has been focused on loving what I do and, and enjoying as many of the moments as I can. And one of the things that I realized early on is no matter how much I do, no matter how much I become, I want to achieve even more. More happiness, more health, more giving, more caring, more love, more money, more travel, more fun. How many of you want to achieve even more? I'm going to be talking about some great lessons from eight brain experts, and I'm going to go through some of the best lessons we've learned in recent times from some of our experts here at Neurogym. And I'll share them with you. And so let me know where are you from? Do you enjoy these Tuesday morning sessions on Achieve even more? I'll say hello to a few of you. Hello there, Arlene. Hi there, Lucy. Hi there, Mar. Mr. Mark Howell. Hi there, Gautam. Hello. Zanusha. Hello, Mirela. Hello. Is it Jillian Brody? Good morning, Yancy. Hello. Julie Zanfralin. Hello there, my dear. Julie. Hi. Five to you, superstar. Julie. Hey there, Cheryl. Nice to have you on. Debbie Newell. Truman. Hi. Nice to have you on. So, anyway, every Tuesday I do these live sessions. Pick one or one topic that I think is going to help you get your brain working even better. I was thinking on my way to the office this morning, imagine if you're the coach of a football team or a tennis team or a curling team. It doesn't make a difference. And you have a variety of different players on the team. And each player on the team has a role to play. And when they play those roles together, you do a lot better, right? If one person's not playing well, then the team that's going to have a hard time winning championships. And so what if you thought about your brain that way? What if you thought about, you know, there's the CEO, left prefrontal cortex. There's the right prefrontal cortex, you know, the pessimist side of the brain. There's the amygdala part of the brain that's like the firefighter to warn you of potential or real danger. There's the creative part of the brain that can dream and have ideas and your job, get them all working together. And so today I'm going to give you some tools. Eight lessons from eight Brain experts. What I want to do is help you upgrade your brain so you can upgrade your income. And let me ask you a question. Do you want to live an extraordinary life or an ordinary life? Do you want to live an extraordinary life or an ordinary life? Just answer the question. The reason I ask is a lot of people think that people who achieve more success, whether it's in health or wealth or relationships or career or business, have got some kind of magical power, that they're smarter than other people. And the truth is they're not. They're not smarter, but they just have a few pieces working in synchronicity. So think about the word ordinary and extra. It's just a little bit of a difference that's applied on a consistent basis that helps you achieve extraordinary results. And so one of the things and the reason I'm so focused on the brain is this is a tool that you have. Your brain is a tool. You have a brain, but you are not your brain. You can think with your brain. Your brain can have thoughts, but you can be aware of those thoughts and that thinking. And so I'll give you a couple of the tools and my team just put a link if you want to follow along or you want to get this afterwards. I'm going to go through these over the next 25 or so minutes to help you understand a little bit about how to use your brain a little bit better. And by the way, if you're enjoying my series that I do every Tuesday morning at 9am, hit the like button so that I know you're enjoying it. If you enjoy the content of today's session, hit the share button anytime during the session and we'll get the word out to more people. So on this page over here, I'm going to be talking about your money story, stress management and feelings of fear. And our first expert, Mary Morrissey, that was featured on our on our Brainathon that airs on Saturday is all around something that we teach all of our clients around their money story. And every human being has a relationship with money. And money is something that envelops people's brains about what they buy, what they don't buy, whether they buy, you know, business class or first class or regular economy seats, whether they're always looking for the cheapest or the most expensive, the nicest or average, how much they will tip, how much they won't. We all have a money story that we've developed mostly from our parents and the people that we live near. And we developed this relationship around money and Our beliefs around money, are we good enough to earn that amount? Are we worthy enough to earn that amount? Is it worth it or not? And so one of the things that Mary Morrissey says that we should do, she says for seven days, write down the thoughts you have about money and notice when you're thinking, and notice what you are thinking. And notice that the money story you're telling yourself, is it positive, negative, is it abundance thinking or limited thinking, is it scarcity thinking? Or is it. But fill in the blank. And so once you know your money story, and this is also something that one of our psychiatrists who works with us, Dr. David Krueger, says, once you know the story, the money story, that's when you can start to be aware of it and go, wow, where did I get these limiting beliefs about money, about my value? Where did I get these limiting beliefs of what I can afford and what I can't? Where did I get these limiting beliefs around how I behave with money? And so that was tip number one. And my team already put a link for this if you want to just click the link and we'll send it to you. Let's talk about number two, stress management. Dr. Heidi Hanna on our faculty, is one of the leading experts in the world on stress. Let's say you have a shortage of money right now. Let's say you're not earning as much as you'd like, and there's too much month left at the end of the money. Too much month left at the end of money creates stress. Decisions around money can create stress. What to buy, what not to buy. Is it too expensive? Is it not expensive enough for my taste? Whatever the stress is, I want you to understand stress a little bit differently from the brain perspective. This is the part of the brain, the brain stem that is attached to the first part of it called the reptilian brain, which is connected very, very quickly to the amygdala, the stress response center in the brain. When we have stress in our life, whether it's money stress, emotional stress, relationship stress, business stress, career stress, whatever stress, we have the signal that is sent through the electrical system in the brain and the chemical system in the brain. When stress is activated, there's a part of the brain called the vagus nerve and the sympathetic nervous system, which is part of your autonomic nervous system. But the sympathetic nervous system specifically is the system that activates the stress response system, activates one of four things. Fear. Okay, and when. And we'll talk about fear in just a moment. But when we're in a state of stress. The fight or flight response kicks in the sympathetic nervous system. So when we're in a fight mindset, we are using a lot of epinephrine, adrenaline, cortisol, and there's this current of anxiety. Now, that's not that bad if it's a little bit. But when it's too much, it actually deactivates the thinking part of your brain that can actually solve the reason you're stressed. So when we are in this fight or flight, which is runaway modality or the freeze or faint modality, there are people who freeze when they're under too much stress. There are people who faint under too much stress. There are people who run away, and there's people who just try to fight it. So when we are looking at the brain and we're looking at stress, okay, and this is what Heidi's talking about here. She says stress is our own GPS system saying that something is out of alignment and the energy movement from the calm and respond part of the brain is gone to the stress and react part of the brain. And so one of the tools to calm the brain down, to go from reactive stress, to relax and respond is inner size number one that we teach and that you're all going to be able to learn in my new book called Inner Size. But inner size number one is called take six, calm the circuits. So whenever you're feeling stressed, whenever there's a problem, whenever you're feeling overwhelmed, whenever you're feeling confused, whenever you're feeling like it's too much, Stop. As opposed to trying to fight your way through it. Stop, calm down, close your eyes, take six deep breaths like this. In through your nose, gently, in a rhythm of about six breaths per minute every 10 seconds. And when you do a breathing exercise, take six, calm the circuits. That's inner size number one. You actually deactivate the stress response center in the brain, and you activate the calm and respond part of the brain. You actually bring blood flow back to your CEO, the left prefrontal cortex. That could then allow you to be able to make decisions. Well, what can I do to move forward? What can I do to release this? What can I do to get smarter? What can I do to solve this problem? What can I do? And that's the part of your brain you want active. When the stress response center is active, this part of the brain, blood flow moves away from there, and you're not as smart as you can be. Does that make sense? That makes sense. That was just tip number two. And if you like these kinds of tips, pick up the this PDF so you can have it with you and then you can share it as well. Please, please share it. I want to get this information to the world. Use your brain better. Now, let's talk about feelings of fear. All right, so this is from Dr. Srini Pillay from Harvard. He's been on our brainathon five times or so. And if you want to learn from Srini, I urge you, sign up, you can learn from all these experts on the brainathon. But if you want this, let's understand fear. First and foremost. I'm going to go back to the brain. Anytime you talk, you think or you behave differently. When you talk of change, you think of change, you behave differently. Your fear response center in the amygdala on the sides of your brain, right around there, okay? Amygdala is a little almond shape mass on both sides of the brain. Anytime that you think of doing something you haven't done, something that may be a little scary, something that may harm you physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, financially, the fear center gets activated. And we have over 50 different types of conscious and subconscious fears that hold us back. When the fear center activates, it's identical to the stress center in the brain. And so that releases cortisol and epinephrine and norepinephrine. And that emotion causes a lot of people to just shut down and procrastinate and not take action. So Srini, let me read this to you. Says any talk of change creates brain chaos called cognitive dissonance. Okay? You have a comfort zone. Anytime you're out of your comfort zone zone that creates this emotion or feeling called dissonance. Okay, that's kind of like that. Oh, it's just not right. Something's off. He says the conflict detector in your brain goes off and sparks a feeling of fear. If you're feeling fear, take a step back and ask yourself, is there something to fear to this fear or is your brain creating conflict chaos? What's that? If the fear is real, pay attention to it. But if the fear is being created as a result of dissonance because it's out of your comfort zone, then use inner size number one and get the calm centers going before you take action. Okay? Does that help? I want to give you a few tools from different experts. Now let's go to the next three experts. Ok? Mark Waldman is our resident neuro coach in our Neuro gym community for all of our clients. And he's one of the top Neuroscience researchers around. And so one of the things that he talks about that I started doing every day when I wake up is I wake up as soon as I wake up. First I give gratitude for waking up realizing somebody didn't wake up today. And then my friend Adam Markell actually had another reason to be grateful is when you put your feet on the ground. Be grateful for putting your feet on the ground because somebody couldn't that morning or this morning. So Mark Waldman in his little training over here says seven days of gratitude exercise. The more you focus on your thoughts, the more your brain becomes habituated to it. The brain tends to pay more attention to negative thoughts. This is based on the instinctual parts of the brain. We can train ourselves to focus on the positives as well. At the end of the day, he Sundays, write down three things you feel grateful for and three things you did. Well, this can change your brain. You only have to for seven days and you will see your self esteem grow for three months. So when we are giving you gratitude things to do, anything we are teaching you to do, it's all based in neuroscience research. And so the more you're grateful, the more you have to be grateful for. The more you train your brain to be grateful, the more it looks and becomes habituated to look for other things to be grateful for. All right, so this is a way to learn how to shift your attention, how to shift, you know, your focus. Okay, let's go to another one of our brain experts, Dr. Shelly Carson from Harvard and she is an expert in creating creativity. How many of you are pretty creative? How many of you are pretty creative? By the way, you enjoying this? If you're enjoying this, hit the like button. Hit the share button, which is even better. If you want a copy of this, just there's a link below. But are you enjoying this? Let me know. Hi, Patty. Neal. Hi there Pre. Hello Cassia. Hi there. Ruth. Cheryl. Paul Turner. Thank you. I'm loving this too. Marcella, trying to give you a bunch of little tidbits. Okay, Angela, my team will look at the link. Hi there. Mike Edwards. Misty. Hi there. What specifically would you like about the pituitary gland? Hi, Cheryl. Okay, let's continue. So creativity, have you ever considered that imagination, creativity, logic, focus, concentration, self esteem, self worth, tenacity, resolve. Have you ever considered that those are neuro muscles? We have biceps, triceps, shoulders, chest, buttocks, muscles for your physical body. Have you ever considered that you have neuro muscles? Have you ever considered that creativity? A neuro muscle that you can utilize. So Dr. Hi. Not, not. Hi Dr. Sher. Shelly Carson. Sorry, I get so excited I lose my train of thought. So Shelly Carson says good creative ideas are a function of how many ideas you come up with. She says, try this. Choose a problem that you have such as being in debt. Now look at that with curiosity. There's something in the research around neuroplasticity, your brain's ability to create new connections and turn on the neuroplasticity switch. One of the, I guess most unbelievable discoveries of the last hundred years is that our brain can create new neural connections, new beliefs, new habits, new perceptions, new neuro muscles and reinforced neuromuscles. And so if you look at the problem, she says with curiosity and with this approach, she says a lot of people focus on debt and they go, oh my God, look at the debt I'm in. How am I going to get out? Here's the problem. I can't pay this, I can't do this. She goes, now when you sit down and you look at the debt and you write down, you brainstorm how to get out of debt and make more wealth and write down every idea that you can come up with. She goes, you activate the creativity neuromuscle. And the more you practice it, the more you teach yourself how to focus on the solution instead of the problem, the more you're flipping your neuroplasticity switch. But the more you're flipping on your curiosity, imagination and creativity circuits. So so far we've gone through five sessions or five different brain experts ideas. But I'm going to come back to where I said before. You have different parts of your brain that can be used differently. And if you think of your brain as having neuromuscles and creativity and imagination being one neuromuscle, focused concentration another neuromuscle and self esteem is another neuro muscle. And you know, according to the latest brain research, you can strengthen your mindset, you can strengthen your neural muscles, you can upgrade your mental and emotional muscles because they are skills that you can learn. That is how you start to use your brain better. Are you ready for Dr. Jeff Spencer? So here's what he says. The champion mindset. Now who is Jeff Spencer by the way? He's on our brain a thon with me as well. If you want to join at the back of this page there's a way for you to sign up for the Brainathon if you haven't yet. But these brilliant people share their best. Jeff was an Olympic athlete himself, a cyclist. Now he works With Olympic athletes to help them level up the game and CEOs. So he says, to develop your championship mindset. Let me show this to you, right? Number one is show up. Show up. Okay. Number two, he says, make decisions based on what you stand to gain, not based on what you might lose. This is huge. This is using the left prefrontal cortex, right versus the right prefrontal cortex. So he said, make decisions based on what you stand to gain versus what you may lose. Third, championship mindset is you have to imagine the future. Here we go. Imagination again. When you activate the occipital lobe in the back of the brain, the imagination centers, the visual cortex centers. You start to activate the nucleus accumbens, the insula, the motivational centers of your brain, which then activates the genius part of your brain. Think of your brain as circuits that are lighting up or turning off. Positive, negative, empowering, disempowering, constructive, destructive, inspiring, expiring. You own a brain. I'm teaching you. And neurogym is teaching you, and our experts are teaching you how to use it better. So when you imagine the future better than it is today, you're activating the right neural circuitry and the neurochemistry that goes with taking action, achieving more of your goals. Number four. This is huge. Okay, don't try to be perfect. Focus on the one or two things that you have to get right. Don't try to be perfect. Focus on the one or two things. Okay, that you have to get right and then do those. Number five. He says don't analyze every piece of the puzzle. Don't become paralyzed because of analysis. Paralysis by analysis. Don't analyze all the pieces of the puzzle. And then the sixth point. Remain. Hold on. Let's see there. Remain a student. Remain a student. Be creative. Remain a student. Okay, one of our amazing experts that many of you may have seen in our promos is Dr. Sarah Mackay, Oxford neuroscientist. Amazing neuroscientist. I'm not gonna be able to give you all of the pieces to hers because it's pretty long. You can get the link if you want to read all of them. She is one of the top neuroscientists in the world. She's doing a session on our brainathon called refire Re fire to rewire your brain. And she says the refire process takes the basics of neuroplasticity and gives you six easy steps to implement and rewire your brain so you can change your mindset, learn new skills, and create new habits. The first three that she gives are reason. And so the first of the six steps in rewire your brain is reason. And she says if you don't give your brain a reason why, like why do you want to do this? Why must you do this? It won't actually want to do the work. So if you don't have a reason why, it'll take the path of least resistance and come up with the reasons why you shouldn't faster. So that's number one. Second e or second step to refire is engage. And she says when you set a goal, she says engage, immerse yourself in your goal and why you want to achieve that goal and then get support from a group or a mentor to keep you engaged as you level up your knowledge and your skills and your behaviors. The third of her re fire to rewire out of the six step process is feel. And she said get your emotions behind your goal. She says when you get your emotions behind your goal by thinking about all the benefit of everything you're going to gain, who you're going to become, who you're going to be able to help, how you're growing when you get the emotion behind it and you engage and you have your reason why. The emotion is the energy put into motion that is required to get the momentum and keep the momentum going. And she's got three other three other points in here and if you want to just click on the link if you're enjoying this, hit the like button, hit the share button. Really appreciate it. Sign up for the brain a thon it's at the end of this page if you want down here to you know how to sign up and watch the Brainathon. It's eight hours of world class training from brain experts, these brain experts and me. And then I'm going to wrap up OK with the create a new money story. So we started off on point number one, right with our dear friend Mary Morrissey. Then we did the stress management. Then we talked about feelings of fear from Srini, from Harvard. And then we did gratitude with Mark Waldman. Create a promise on with Shelly Carson, Dr. Jeff Spencer. The championship mindset refired a rewire process. Create a new money story with. Hold on, there we go. With me. That's me. So earlier we talked about a money story and the money story is your relationship with money. It's a story you have learned to tell yourself about how much you can make, what you're worth. How do you start to change your money story in the first part of what we talked about 27, eight minutes ago. First part is awareness. See, if you're not aware, you cannot change it. So first you have to be aware. And I want you all to practice something for today. Okay? I want you to practice this. Ready? Practice being aware of your thoughts. Practice being aware of your emotions and your feelings. Practice being aware of what you're doing. But I want you to practice in this way. Don't blame yourself, don't shame yourself. Don't justify why and don't feel guilty. Guilty. Okay. No blame, no shame, no justification, no guilt, just awareness. Once you are aware, then you can make a decision, a choice to change. So if you're aware of your limiting beliefs, write them down. If you're aware of your empowering beliefs, write them down. If you're aware of your disempowering emotions around money, write them down. Be aware of the choices that you make in your tipping, in the food, choices you make when you're in a restaurant, in the clothes that you buy. And again, no blame, no shame, no guilt, no justification, just awareness. Then here's the game I want you to write out. Just begin writing out a new money story. And I want you to do this. Start off your new money story like this. I'm so grateful and happy for the fact that I am now. And fill in the blanks. Feeling, doing, experiencing, having, giving. Just write out a little story of your money story. And then what I want you to do every day for the next, just seven days. Seven days for five minutes, I want you to read that new money story, even though it's not real right now. And then I want you just to imagine what would it be like if this was real right now. What would it be like? And I want you to feel that. Just use that as step one and see what happens. What will happen is you're going to do two things. Number one, you're going to get excited, which is great. But you also may hear this little voice that says, that's not true. You're not this, you can't that. And I want you to be aware of it without judging it, blaming it, shaming it, or justifying it. Just be aware of it and go, holy mackerel. Listen to that little inner critic that is trying to hold me back. Okay? So if you want to do that, that'll give you a few tips from eight lessons from eight brain experts. If you want the PDF, pick it up, just the link below. If you want more deep detail and training on this type of stuff with these experts, sign up for the brain a thon. Watch an hour or two or three and you are going to be getting an incredible training to use your brain to help you achieve your life's biggest goals and dreams so you can have an extraordinary life and not just ordinary. If you enjoyed this, please share it. I appreciate you have an awesome day. We'll be back next Tuesday for another session with me to help you achieve even more. Bye now.