John Wetmore explains how to use commitment-focused questions to quickly spot who won't follow through on promises. Ask them to verbalize specific next steps, then disengage early if they don't deliver. Treating broken promises as a signal to walk away saves money, pain, and time.
Can you do this? Yes. When you're done with it, let me know. After a couple of times of them not letting me know and them not doing it, they ain't gonna reach back out. And for me, you don't reach back out. I already said I'm gonna assume you quit. Yeah. Yeah. So I just move on. So I get my answer quicker and it's way less emotionally draining. Yeah. Because I don't deal with the excuses. Yeah. Does it make sense? Because I just, my questions are really intentional to get them to verbalize what they'll do.
I would always find that I would hang on too long. Correct.
And that, that which causes you to do what? What does that cause? If you hang on to me too long, What does that cause me?
Money and pain. And what else?
It causes you to miss her. Yeah, because you focus on me.
Exactly, you're right.
Does that make sense? As soon as I learned that, I was like, no more, I'm out, because I'm not willing to sacrifice them for you. So if you aren't those things, then I can go, hey, remember the part where you said you'd do ABC? Yo, if you don't keep doing it, I'm out.