A trainer won't keep a client who shows up late and eats Twinkies instead of following the plan. The speaker uses this analogy to explain why he ends relationships with people who repeatedly break commitments, but stresses asking permission first before setting that boundary.
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I give a lot of analogies. I've learned that it's so crazy what I say and what people hear, how different they are. Analogies help bridge that gap for me. And when I look at this, to me, one of the most common ones I use is if, if you're hiring me as a personal trainer and I say, here's what you need to do for workout, here's what you need to do for a diet, and you show up to the gym 30 minutes late every day with a Twinkie in your mouth, I'm not going to be your trainer anymore. I'm out, right? And so I, I tell people, and I don't, I, I don't want it to come across mean when I say it, but if you don't do the things you say you're going to do, I'm 100% sure I'm going to quit you before you quit me. Is that okay? And I asked permission. The mistake I made early was I just did it. Like, that wasn't the good way.