Tony Robbins runs a live exercise where people scan a room for brown objects, then try to recall red ones they saw. Most remember more brown because they looked for it first. He argues beliefs work the same way: once you decide you're successful or screwed up, you'll interpret everything to confirm it, making your belief real.
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I'll give you a little test. Look around this room right now and notice everything you can see that's brown. Okay? Everything you can find. It's a test. Look all around, both sides of you. Anything you see that's brown. People at home, look at that in your own room. What do you see is brown? Okay, close your eyes. Tell me everything you just saw that was red. Now obviously you saw a lot more brown, didn't you?
Yeah.
Why? Because you're looking for it. Open your eyes. Now look for red. Look for red anywhere you can find red. Any place you can find red. Okay. Okay. Did you find more red this time? How come?
Because I was looking for red.
That's right. Once you develop a belief, you find what supports it. So watch this. You will find stuff that's not even there in order to be successful. I bet you saw some beige, called it brown just to feel successful, did you? Right over there. I bet you saw some things burgundy and called them red just so you could feel successful.
I factored in some of those, uh, now and later.
You see what I'm saying? If you think you're screwed up, you're messed up, you're gonna find and you're gonna color yourself that way. Whether you think it's true, whether you think it's not, it's gonna be true for you. In other words, whatever you believe is self-evident. You reinforce what you believe. You found what you were looking for.
I love following guys like that that just think big. Some people ask why I don't work after selling a company. I'm like, you're the guy who bought my company, still working 100 hours a week. You know what I mean? It's like, it's funny watching people's perspective.