Anthony Kuo argues that most people chase someone else's definition of success, often their parents', without questioning if it fits them. He followed his parents' template for years before realizing it left him unsatisfied, and says the real work is figuring out what fulfillment actually means to you.
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It's with that knowing that I engage with people, that the first thing we have to do is to define their version of success, to define what success, what satisfaction means to them. Because one of the trickiest places people can get to that leads to that feeling of "there has to be more than this" is when we chase somebody else's definition of satisfaction rather than our own. I experienced this. Right? In my personal and professional life, I was chasing essentially my parents' version of success. I didn't know it at the time, and it was certainly not put upon me with any sort of malicious intent. Quite the opposite. You know, my— of course it was. Of course I was given a template with the best of intentions. And it just so happened, as it is for so many of us, that that template is not what I needed. It's not what I was seeking.