A short YouTube clip featuring Rebecca Zung and another speaker explaining behavioral signs of narcissistic individuals in new relationships — notably intense early charm and rapid attempts to 'lock in' partners (meet family, business partnerships), followed by exhalation and emergence of red flags. Zung references her book 'Tiger of Beijing' as an example.
How do you know that you may be dealing with a narcissist?
Most of the time, when you're just starting a relationship with them, they come on very strong, very charismatic, very perfect for you. They want you to think that you're amazing, that you are meant to be together, that you're soulmates. They want to meet your family right away, or they want to be business partners right away. They want to get locked in as quickly as possible. Once they're locked in, then they get to breathe. I always say it was. It was almost like they were holding their breath. And then once they lock you in, then they can exhale, and that's when you'll start to see the red flags.
I've had my fair share of dealing with narcissistic people, and I think one good example, if people are interested, is in my book Tiger of Beijing.
