How to Overcome Mental Barriers That Keep You From Getting What You Want in Life’ With Krisha Young

Hello everyone. Welcome to the Raise Capital Legally podcast and YouTube channel where we talk about topics of interest to real estate syndicators and fund managers with an opportunity for live questions and answers before we sign off. I'm Krisha Young, co-host and business development director and client success coach today for the firm. And this is Kim Lisa Taylor, the founder of syndicationattorneys.com. Before we get started, please note that audio and video from this event will be posted on our podcast platform, YouTube channel, website, and social media, and will be made available to the public. You can ask questions at the end of the broadcast by raising your hand or typing it in the Q&A, and we will answer. Information discussed during this event is of a general educational nature and should not be construed as legal advice. So it's kind of weird. Today our topic is me. Not really. It's how to overcome mental barriers That keep you from getting what you want in life. Kim, I'll hand it over to you for a quick sec.

Yeah. Okay. So you can introduce you guys. If you don't know Krisha, she joined our team, gosh, a little less than a year ago. Yeah, it's almost a year. She's been doing some great things. She participates in all of our weekly client masterminds. And whenever there's like a touchy-feely question, I say, go ask her, right? Because I'm going to give you guys the blunt legal answer, or, you know, I might just say no. She'll say it much more gently. But anyway, we've found some really great synergy, and we wanted to be able to share some of her hidden talents with you because I think she's an untapped resource that our firm has that perhaps makes us a little unique in the marketplace. But also, she's a very unique person with some some great talents that I think can be really beneficial to a lot of our clients, you know, because it's so hard to get into the right— I'm not going to say, you know, those words, but it's so hard just to get into the right framework so that you are comfortable talking to investors or, you know, or brokers or lenders, sellers, whoever it is you need to talk to to make your business move forward. in a real estate context and maybe in some other areas of your life as well. Anyway, so we'll go ahead and get started. I just thought it'd be great to share this with you guys, and I hope you get a lot out of it. So, Chrystia, how did you get started? So you have a background as a personal coach. Tell us about that and how you got started with that.

Yeah. First of all, I just want to say how grateful I am to be here. And thank you, Kim, for recognizing what can be given to our clients to really help them step into their identity as a syndicator. And that's what I'm excited to talk about today, is how the listeners can do that, right? Um, and so my journey started, you know, like everybody. Like, I just had this maze of personal and professional challenges that I was experiencing where I wasn't hitting the goals that I wanted to, and I was frustrated in my life. And I started to really dive in and Explore personal development in a very deep way, and I turned it into a career. So I was in corporate before, you know, working for top companies in Canada, and I was like just not fulfilled, and I really wanted to help people. And I opened up my doors as a holistic nutritionist, and that venue opened up my eyes to things like energy work and emotional intelligence and somatic therapy that really gave me these tools and skill sets. to be able to help myself transform into the person I am today and who I continue to evolve into be, and give my clients really unique tools to be able to move through their own patterns, to step into their, their greatness. And so I've been doing this professionally for about a decade, and I absolutely love it. And once upon a time, my clients used to call me the sabotage slayer. So I love helping people slay their sabotages. I like that a lot.

I think you need a new outfit for that, right?

Yeah, right?

Okay. So what are mental barriers? What are we talking about when we're using that term?

So what we want to do is think about this kind of like, let's think about this as like a little bit of a video game, right? And so when we're playing like a video game, there's like, or a hero's journey or something like that, right? We're kind of like meandering around the path and then all of a sudden something comes and like knocks us out. Right? That's a mental barrier. It's something that is sneaky. It is a fear. It's a doubt. It's a worry. It's some past programming that comes up and kind of blindsides us, right? And like makes us feel like we're not good enough or we're not capable or we can't do this thing or whatever. And I call it the lie that feels like the truth. It feels so true inside of us that we can't do this thing or whatever it is, but it's a lie and it's a barrier that blocks us from actually stepping Stepping into the thing that we say that we want to do. Carl Jung says, "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you'll call it fate." And he did a lot of work on shadow work, which is basically your unconscious. It's these barriers that are kind of buried really deep in there, and you need to think about it like they're very past old programming, and it's almost like a five-year-old is driving your life. All of a sudden, you're like cruising along, and you're doing so good, and then like you hit up again. Against something like talking to an investor, or somebody says no to you, or whatever, or you're like, oh my gosh, this is daunting. And then you kind of go into that like 5-year-old self, and now the 5-year-old is like driving, and you're just like, ah. So you want to like bring that to your forefront, of those mental barriers to your forefront, so you can like expose them for what they are— the lies that feel like the truth. And then heal them and move into the identity that you're trying to step into.

Let's not get too far ahead. So what I'm hearing here is sometimes we hear people talk about negative self-talk, right? Where all of a sudden that little voice goes in your head and like, you can't do this. What are you thinking? You're crazy. Maybe it was a parent. I mean, honestly, I had a parent my whole entire life that used to tell me, at the rate you're going, you're not going to get through high school. At the rate you're going, you're not going to get into college. At the rate you're going, you're never going to graduate from college. At the rate you're going, you're never going to get a job in your career. And at the rate you're going, you're just never going to accomplish anything. And so, you know, I think he said that to some of my other siblings too, some of whom listened to him. I got mad. I just said, yeah, screw you. I can show you I can do whatever I want. And, you know, my mom died when I was really young, but she told me I could do anything. So I decided, all right, even though she wasn't there, I'm still listening to her, you know, because she said I could do anything. She said, you know, so sometimes it's just like, who do you choose to listen to? And maybe it's not even someone in your own past, but somebody you can manifest, right? Like someone you admire that you can bring in and say, hey, what would this person do? And what would they be saying to me? And that's a lot like Napoleon Hill said in Think and Grow Rich, right? When he created his whole mastermind concept, he had a roundtable of mastermind attendees of these great thinkers. And he would have conversations as if they were telling him their thoughts on what he should be doing. And, and, you know, he used that to propel himself forward. And we can all learn from that and do that too. So I think this is just completely amazing. It's a little woo-woo for me, but, but it, you know, I know it works. And so, you know, I'm glad that you guys all came to listen. All right. So, so is this the same thing as mindset or are we talking about 2 different things?

No, we're talking about 2 different things here. So mindset is the overarching sort of Like, what do you want to call it, the big picture, the lens for what we— where these barriers live, right? So there's 2 different kinds of mindsets that we can look into here. There's a fixed mindset and then there's a growth mindset, right? And so when we're looking at a fixed mindset, this is somebody who is like, this is how things are. It's just— it just is the way it is. I can't change. I won't change. You know, this is just it. Right? Where do you go with that? You can't go anywhere with that, right? Versus a growth mindset that is open and curious and like, oh dang, like I can see where I'm holding myself back, or I can see where this thing is and I really want to change it, and it's okay that I change it, you know? It's okay. It's safe for me to, to change this, right? Um, I'm glad that you brought up Think and Grow Rich because I do believe that that book is kind of like gives you the roadmap that Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill gives you the roadmap to go from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. I believe that that's pretty much in its entirety what it's telling you to do. You know, stop thinking this way, start thinking this way, right?

Yeah.

Being so limited in your thinking, start being more open in your thinking. There's, there's a world of possibilities out there, and I skew to the the growth mindset very much, but, and I also have a very fixed mindset. My kids will tell you, you know, my partner will tell you, like, you know, like we have both in us. And it's like just when somebody brings that to your attention, then you can go, okay, well, what are my mental barriers? What are my blocks? What are my fears? What are my doubts that are standing in the way for me growing in this area of my life?

So I think that, you know, kind of, so mindset is, if I can condense what I think you said, like, you can completely correct me if I'm wrong, is that's like, you know, our belief system, right? It's like kind of the basis where we're at. Whereas mental barriers are these things that crop up in the way and then stop us. And, you know, we say, well, you know, that all sounds really easy, but I'll never be able to do that. You know, I remember hearing one time that, you know, everything is possible. Every miracle is— everything is possible, you know, as long as there's just one miracle, right? You know, Big Bang Theory, right? You know, we all exist because there was one miracle. And, you know, it's like, you know, so how do we get past that so that we don't have to have that miracle thinking? We know that it's really things that we can step You know, go through step by step. Isn't that what you're kind of saying when you're talking about slaying these sabotages?

Yeah, absolutely. Right. So take an assessment. You know, are you feeling fixed in every single area of your life? Do you honestly believe that change is not possible? Or are you like, no, like, I don't like this thing. I don't like how this is going in my life, and I am open to change. And I am— it's like It's ego. It's like the willingness to, like, admit you might not be right, you know? And, and then, but then it's like doing the work in order to transform that within yourself. So, yeah. And if you have a rich environment for that within yourself to be open to make that change, then the barriers— I call it like whack-a-mole, right? Like a barrier will come up, you're playing whack-a-mole, and then another one comes up in its place. You play whack-a-mole, you know, like it's just constant and it's an evolution and it's never going to end. But, you know, you get better at it over time if you can cultivate a rich growth mindset.

Well, and I think every time you overcome one of those barriers, it builds your confidence, right? And then when those negative thoughts come up, you can say, yeah, no, that's not right because you told me that before and I did it anyway, so I'm not listening to you again.

Exactly. That's where the lie that feels like the truth becomes the lie.

Yeah.

You see it as a lie.

Yeah. That's amazing.

That my dad said that about me.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's right.

What the?

All right.

So what are some common misconceptions that you hear from people that are, you know, that kind of stop them from achieving their goals?

Oh my gosh. So that if you fail at something, that you're a failure. Right? No, not true. And that, you know, if you are like perfectionism actually is a big one that I see in a lot of my clients because they're they're very smart, very very smart, successful people. And when they are trapped in perfectionism, right, then they don't move forward. It turns into procrastination. It turns into like all the reasons why you can't, right? And so if you're looking for perfect Perfect. You're just never going to find it. You know, you have to just like look at progress, not perfection. And then the belief system, which is which is very rich in a fixed mindset about life happens to me. This is happening to me. Why me? It's not my fault. It's their fault, right? Which is it's very prevalent. You know, we all have that in us, right? But if we are really sunk in that. Then now this is going to stop you from being able to move forward into something that's richer, into that growth. Life doesn't happen to you. It happens for you.

I remember when I was a kid, and of course, this is going to date, but when I was a kid, we had black lights, right? And we had these black light posters. And one of the ones that we always had on our wall, my sister and I shared a bedroom, was the 2 vultures standing on a branch looking down into this desert of nothingness. You know, one of them says to the other, yeah, hell, I'm not waiting. I'm going to go kill something, right? Because they're vultures. They're waiting for something to die so they can eat it. And they're like, yeah, no, I'm not just going to wait. I'm just going to go kill something and get this over with so we can have some food. Right. And so I kind of adopted that mindset early on. It's like, yeah, I'm not waiting for things to happen. I'm going to make them happen.

Right.

So I'm just, you know, whatever it is, I'm just going to forge ahead. I also have learned from some of our immigrant clients. So clients that come here from other places are— they've just done some amazing things. I mean, Vinnie Chopra is a perfect example of that. We have some other clients. In fact, we're going to be interviewing one of those people very soon on one of our podcasts. But what they think is that they're coming here to the land of opportunity, America, the land of opportunity, and they believe all things are possible. So they just forge ahead. I mean, I think Vinny came here with $7 in his pocket and, you know, and just, I'm gonna, you know, set the world on fire. I'm gonna achieve all these different dreams and goals. And he didn't see any of those impediments that we sometimes as Americans, we grew up, we're used to rules and, you know, following rules and being told no, that you can't do this and you can't do that. So I think sometimes we get stuck in that and then we, you know, oh, we're worried about being sued or we're worried about our reputation or we're worried about something, some fear of something that could happen in the future. That these immigrants, they don't even know those fears are out there. So they just forge ahead and they're sometimes just wildly, wildly successful. I mean, I had a client that came here with $25 in his pocket and he and his brother owned multiple truck stops around the country and, you know, made a huge success of it. So I've just seen that happening again and again. So sometimes when we get stuck, you know, I try to think, what would I do if I was just immigrating to the US and I believed all things were possible, just Just keep going. Don't worry about it. Just, you know, you'll get through it. You'll whack down those barriers as they come up, and you'll just keep getting through it. All right, that's amazing. So what role do habits and routines play in overcoming mental barriers?

Okay, so think about it this way. If you want a hot summer bod, you know, like you want a hot body, you— or you want to be healthy, You don't go to the gym once. You don't just drink a glass of water once, right? Like, you need to have healthy habits and routines. You need to go to the gym. You need to walk every day, or, you know, like, do some squats and eat a salad. You know, like, those are things that you need to do on a daily basis in order to develop the ecosystem, right? So that's what we're talking about here is what is your ecosystem? And you need to develop a healthy ecosystem in order for things to thrive. So if you're feeding yourself, you know, junk food every single day and you're sedentary, your ecosystem is going to be reflective of that. But if you're feeding yourself really healthy foods and you're drinking water and you're enjoying nature, you know, now your ecosystem is, is going to be flourishing in a different kind of way. It's the same thing with this topic, right? So if you're constantly thinking negative thoughts and believing those, those lies and having that fixed mindset, then you're just going to continue getting what you've always got. Right. But if you start to develop some, some, you know, tools and strategies and I have a framework that I take people through that has tools in it and I like using a framework rather than just tools because tools can vary from person to person. Right. But if you have a framework where you can see your progress and you you, like, are an active participant in creating the abundance within your life, now you're creating an ecosystem that feels really good and really exciting and really nourishing for you. And then you're going to want to keep doing that more and more and more. You know, I— you actually recommended this book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.

Yes.

Really great place to start if you're new to this, right? They have—he calls it savers. I—the way I operate is I read all the things and then I synthesize it. So I have like this massive, like, like well and toolbox. And so when somebody comes to me, I listen to them and I hear where they're at and how busy they are and what they like, what they've tried in the past, you know, blah blah. And then we set up a custom plan for them. So, it's not like you have to do these 3 things. You have to wake up at 5 in the morning. Who wants to do that? Not everybody. So, it's like adapting to whatever it is that you enjoy doing. So, take that Miracle Morning concept and apply it to yourself in using tools that you feel are moving the needle forward for you towards a growth mindset, right? Towards feeling better about yourself. It's all about feeling better about ourselves.

Yeah. And I'm really glad you mentioned that Miracle Morning because it is funny because before you even said it, I had written it down. Like, this is a book we need to tell everybody about. Um, some of you probably already know that book. I used it when I was in a really dark place and, uh, needed to kind of get out of my head and, and keep moving forward. And so I was really depressed over some things that were happening in my life and, uh, started using these SAVERS. And it really lifted me out of that doldrum and got me back into that mindset of growth and moving forward and not staying stuck in one place. And that there's, you know, the only reason I was there was because I put myself there and I was the only one that could dig myself out. And that Miracle Morning gave me the tools in order to dig myself out. And so highly recommend that book for anybody that feels stuck, or if you feel a little depressed, or you feel like you're not making the right progress, you know, it can help you just kind of reformat your brain so that you start thinking a little differently and you stop getting stuck and being stuck in that place. I think it's fantastic for that. And it certainly helped a lot of people. And the author, you know, has his own amazing story about how he even came up with it and how it worked for helping him overcome some, you know, very real and tragic circumstances in his life. That he then turned out into something positive that he could now share and help so many other people with theirs. So somebody asked if we could repeat the book name. It's called *The Miracle Morning*, and it's by Hal Elrod. So so it's available on. He may have his own website. I'm not sure, but I'm sure it's it is available on Amazon. I'm going to put it in the chat if you guys can see this. Elrod.

I have it also.

It's a great book, definitely. And you can do it every day. He claims you can do it all within an hour, or you can take longer. But it's really just kind of giving you a bunch of little tools and just kind of nitpicking away at all those little things that are holding you back. I think it really works for that. Um, okay. Well, that's awesome. Um, so can you discuss, like, um, how do you cultivate more positive self-talk? I mean, I guess that book would be one way, but what are, what are some tools that you share with your coaching clients?

Um, yeah, so I, I take my, like I mentioned before, I take, I take my clients through, um, a framework. And which I'll talk about in a minute in more detail and apply it to our listeners when it comes to like doing a syndication. But it's like becoming aware, aware, aware of that inner dialogue, right? And so one of the things in Miracle Morning is scribing, which is like another word for journaling. And, you know, like just writing down what is this thing in your head saying? You know, what's it saying about you? Right. And so like becoming aware, putting it on paper and just being like, wow, would I talk to like my dog like this? Would I talk to my daughter like this? Would I talk to my best friend like this? Probably not, you know. And then we then, you know, so it's like bringing awareness. Awareness is my first step in the process that I use and then like reframing that. And so when I'm working one-on-one with somebody, we come up with customized, like, counterphrases or affirmations or whatever you want to call it, right, for that particular statement. And then we go deep, like, as part of the coaching work, we go deep into like, okay, where's that coming from? You know, like, let's get that out of your nervous system and work on the somatic and the energetics of it all, right? So but that's like Way beyond what we're talking about here. So it's like awareness. Become aware. Holy, right? You again? Like, for real? Like, I wouldn't say that to like my enemy. Like, why are you saying that to me? Like, uh uh, right? And creating—you just gotta start to create separation because it's the lie that feels like the truth. So it feels so. So as soon as you can create a little bit of separation, that tiny little bit of light between those 2 concepts, then you can be like, oh, okay. And then you can work on that particular negative thought. And then keep— and then you—

That sounds like such a great idea because once you confront it and you realize that it's just all in your mind and nobody would ever say that to you, and why are you saying it to yourself? Then you can be like, Banished. Not saying that anymore. Not going to believe that anymore. I like that a lot. So awareness is huge. Getting aware of self-aware. And a lot of people aren't self-aware inherently. I happen to be one of the lucky people that kind of looks and laughs at myself. I also, like you mentioned earlier, I don't mind being proved wrong because when I'm being proved wrong, when somebody tells me I'm wrong about something, I just learned something. And it's like I learned so many things from just having that. I don't care. Tell me I'm wrong. Okay. Yeah, you're right. You know, so, you know, I learned so many new things from all the people I encounter every day, clients and, you know, potential clients, staff, you know, and my staff constantly, they have total permission to tell me I'm wrong and they do regularly. So that's okay. In fact, I have given them permission to fire me. So if I'm ever not here, you'll know what happened. So anyway, what are a couple of tools that You know, people can use to get past these self-imposed barriers. Yeah.

Before we go there, there's just a couple little things for this thought thing. Practicing gratitude and celebrating your wins. That's really important. Gratitude is the elixir of this life. If you can get into gratitude and it's not— there's a grocery gratitude list. I love my dog. I love my house. Where there's no connection to it versus true gratitude. Where you're like, imagine a time when you're just like, oh, so reverent, so like, ah, that is gratitude. And having that, cultivating that every day, every moment, or as much as you possibly can, is what's going to help you shift. And I want to introduce a term, pronoia. This is the opposite of paranoia. Okay. Pronoid. Then we are now Expecting the best to happen rather than expecting the worst. We are such a, like, oh my gosh, the shoe's gonna drop, like, the worst is gonna happen. Like, that is how we're wired, right? And, and we're wired this way. This is our brain and our nervous system. We are wired this way for a reason, but we don't really need to be this way as big as we are anymore. So we can start now stepping into pro-noia, right? Um, and I think I, that I love that word, and I just wanted to share that with everybody here.

I love that. You know, I know Somebody who's practiced that their whole entire life, and that was my stepmother. And she didn't come into my life until I was well into my thirties. But she had so much amazing wisdom, and she had this mindset that we'd go somewhere and there'd be a raffle, and she'd get indignant that she didn't win. Right? Like, how come I didn't win that? I should have won that. I was supposed to win that. I you know, and she won so many times. You know, I saw her beat leukemia just by saying, yep, no, this isn't happening to me. I'm not ready to go yet. I'm way too young. I've got too many things to do. And she had cards coming pouring in of all these people whose lives she had positively impacted. You know, the hospital staff was astounded. It covered like an entire wall. And they're like, we've never seen anything like this before because people are just like, you know, you're not going to die. We've got, you know, too much going on here. And You know, and she cured herself literally, and the doctors were amazed. And you know, she's now 92. I just saw her last week, and she's amazing. So it does work. You know, she just always had this, you know, it's not going to be me. And yeah, I'm a winner. I'm always going to win. I always do, you know. And that worked for her. And you know, so my husband has this thing where he always thinks we're going to get the front parking spot, and then he sends this butterfly ahead of us. To find the perfect parking spot. But what he says is, in order to find the perfect parking spot, you have to drive to the front of the store or wherever you're going. And so then I'll start my little naysaying, like, "Well, there's a parking spot right there, and there's one right there." And he gets really angry at me because he says, "You're interfering with the butterfly. She's not going to find her spot now. So if you just stay out of it, she's going to find her spot." And so many times he just drives right to the front, and and he gets that spot. So it's it's pretty amazing. He learned it from his grandmother and his mother. And, you know, so I just have to, you know, I'm a little negative self-talk, you know, well, just park here, you know, like, no, no, we're going to the front. So, you know, you can use it in so many little aspects of your lives. And if you have children, you can teach this stuff to them so that they don't grow up with the same negative thoughts and, you know, and habits that you might have created in your own life, that they can, they can replace those with positive of things. So I think that's really cool. So tell us some of the tools that people can use to get past these self-imposed barriers.

So what I want to do is I like to give people a map, right? Because like I said earlier, the tools are interchangeable, right? We can do different things at different times to move the needle forward. But what I have found over the years of coaching people is that if we're just giving them tools, then they're just like, well, I don't see a result, so Throw my hands up, right? And it's because this stuff takes time, and it's a spiral staircase, and it you you might shed something over here but still have something over here, right? And so I've got a framework. It's called I call it pattern release coaching, and it goes through five stages. And the first stage, which we've already talked about, is awareness, right? So this is where you're like becoming aware of the issue. So I want to I want to. put this into context of the people who are listening, okay, or watching. So we've got somebody who's stepping into their identity as a syndicator. So they might be super professional in their day job, right? They might already be a real estate professional or a doctor or a lawyer or something, have connections, like be really like a rock star in that part of their lives. But now they're stepping into securities laws, potential fraud, material claims, material facts. I'm just like notices, distributions, all this stuff, right, that we as a law firm help people with in terms of keeping them legally sound and creating a really successful syndication business, right, for themselves. Now, that's stepping into a brand new identity, right? So communicating with investors, networking, right? We talk a lot about this. Having these conversations with investors, right? And this can seem really daunting. And so now cue all of these sabotages, all of these moles that are coming up, right? And sometimes you don't even know that they're there. So the first thing, become aware, admit that you're afraid, admit that you're taking on something new and start journaling, right? Just like be aware of that. And the book that I love is Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Dr. Travis Bradbury and Jean Greaves. This book is really great in helping people become aware of these, like self-aware around, around some of these concepts. The next step would be observation. Now you want to study yourself like a scientist, right? And you want to now tune into your body sensations. And this can all be done in your Miracle Morning if you want, right? So like Oh my gosh! I'm having this thought. I'm totally afraid. I do not want to smile and dial. I do not want to go and give this webinar to these investors. I don't know what I'm doing. I haven't done this before. Whatever the self-talk is, right? Where do you feel that in your body? Do you feel it here? Do you feel it in your stomach? Right? Because our nervous system—this is somatic work—and this is what's missing sometimes out there when people are trying to make changes. It's in your body now. Your body is going, and if you're not aware of that. Then you're gonna stop. It's gonna stop you from moving forward because you're gonna freeze. You're gonna be in freeze or fight. You're gonna be in a nervous system that doesn't allow you to move forward. So become aware of it all. Observe what's happening and make notes on all of this, right? And then you move into clarity. This is now where you all of a sudden become clear. You're like, oh my gosh! I can see now. This is coming from when my dad used to say these things to me. I don't need this anymore. Or whatever, right? Now I'm clear. I'm clear on what it is, why I'm doing this. I'm clear on what it is that I want, right? And so now you can do affirmations, right? See how the tools are layering in on this. Now you can do some affirmations. You can, you know, put create a vision board or whatever you want to do at that point. And then you move into ownership. And I love ownership. And ownership is where you change from that. To me mindset into that for me mindset where you become that vulture that we talked about before, that like, I'm going to— I want this, right? And like, yeah, I've got fears. Yeah, I know who I am. Yeah, I know that I can be, you know, indignant. Yeah, I know I can talk over people. Yeah, I know I can do these things and I'm working on it. And I feel way more confident in myself now because I'm seeing all my patterns and I'm not getting blindsided by myself. Right. You're not cutting the knees out from under You, and I love Brené Brown's work. Dare to Lead is really great for moving you into ownership. You know, like really taking personal responsibility for where you are in your life and creating that life for yourself. And then lastly is refinement, and this is where you're letting go of that perfection we talked about before, right? Like it's a spiral staircase. You're gonna go around. You're gonna hit it again. You're gonna go around. You're gonna hit it again. But every time. You're getting better at moving through it because you now have this massive skill set, all of these tools. It's like, oh yeah, I just have to journal about this. And oh yeah, I just have to do some breathwork or movement or observe myself or go for a run or get into nature or talk to my therapist or my coach or, you know, whatever it is, right? Like all of these different tools. You now have in your tool belt. And so when you hit up against the thing again, you can pull that out and just be compassionate and gentle with yourself and say, oh yeah, been here, done that. Cool. Know the map. I just got to go all the way back to awareness now. Right? So I like that.

And sometimes you just have to do what people tell you to do. Like, you know, I've tried every diet under the sun. They all work. If you do exactly what they tell you to do, right? But I learned a long time ago that, you know, Weight Watchers doesn't work for me because I refuse to record my food. So I have to find a different way to keep track of the food that I eat because I already know that if somebody told me, you're going to die if you don't record your food, I would be like, okay, see ya. It's been fun, right? Because I know I won't record my food to save my life. And, you know, so that's just me. But, you know, there's other things that I could do. I can weigh my food. I can, you know, portion control. I can do all these other things and I can either integrate it into that system Or find a different system that works better for me. So you, you really kind of have to take everything that you learned, whether it's from your books, whether it's from a coach, whether it's from a, you know, personal development coach, someone like Krisha, who's gonna help you kind of, you know, figure out what those things are, and you just have to figure out how to make it work for you. I would say that even happened to me earlier today. And oh, before I say that, let me just remind everybody that you can ask questions if you wanna raise your hand. Or if you want to type a question into the Q&A, we are happy to take questions here in just a couple of minutes. But I've been listening to this really great book that one of my coaches told me to read called Living Forward. And what it does is it makes you create a life plan for yourself and it makes you categorize these different aspects of your life and what you want to have happen in each one of them and kind of assess where you're at in the, in the things that you have, your relationships, At home, your your work environment, you know your finances, you know all these different aspects of our lives, and it helps you kind of figure out what are the categories most people use. And and then they were when I was listening to it today, they were saying, well, you know once you write your life plan, you need to take an eight-hour day and you need to write it, and then you need to review it daily for ninety days, and then you need to review it, you know monthly, and then you need to review and revise it quarterly, and then you need to do annually. And I am like driving, saying. There's no way in the world I'm going to do any of that. I'm just not going to do that. But then I shifted my thinking and I started thinking, well, how could I make this work? How could I make it work in a way that I would do it? You know? And so I, you know, I came up with some ideas for myself that would be like, okay, this I can do. You know, I'm not going to, you know, I know I've written marketing plans before. I've written business plans before. I haven't looked at them in like 2 or 3 years. Right? Since the last time somebody forced me to do one. So, you know, those, those long written plans, they don't work. But there are tools and things out there that can actually help. And we're actually thinking about doing a workshop for our clients, or, you know, anybody that wants to come, where we can help you create kind of a, you know, condensed version of, of that life plan, of your business plan, of how you're going to find deals. and your investor marketing plan and how you're going to find and cultivate those relationships with investors. So if any of you are interested in that, we'd love to have your feedback in the chat on, you know, whether you think that would be something that you'd like to know more about. But I do want to tell you, you know, go to our website if you haven't been there in a while. We're constantly putting up new content. We do have an opportunity to get a free copy of one of our books. I happen to have one of the latest ones right here. In fact, This one is getting ready to come out on Audible. So, uh, keep an eye out for that. Uh, we're just in the final stages of getting it uploaded and published right now, and then we'll let you know when it's all available. Um, but, uh, yeah, we want to make sure that everybody has the book in any form that they want it in. Um, so, uh, you know, we're going to have an opportunity for you to get that for free, uh, and at our website right now, we'll mail you a physical copy of it if you don't already have one. Uh, you want to sign up for that? That's great. We do have— we've talked a little bit about our masterminds. So if any of you aren't already clients who are participating in our masterminds, we have a pre-syndication agreement. It's very low cost that will get you in with us. You can have a client success call with Krisha or investor marketing plan template strategy session with Charlene. You can have a one-on-one call with me or Mola. the securities attorneys, so that we can help you strategize like where you are right now, what you, what your next step should be, you know, who you should be getting to help you, you know, propel forward along this journey. And it's not, it's not always us. It's, you know, we have other resources and people, you know, that's the whole point of this podcast is to introduce you to all kinds of people along the way that can help you grow your business as your business starts to grow. So if you want to know more about the pre-syndication agreement, you can go to our website and you can schedule a consultation. with either Krisha or Charlene, and they can tell you all about that. And then with that, you get access to our weekly masterminds for a year. We're actually creating our own internal community of our hundreds and hundreds of clients. So we're just trying to get as many people as are interested to participate where you'll be able to exchange contact information. Maybe you can co-TP deals together. You know, maybe you can, you know, share information about your best books, best resources, you know, best contractors. Things like that in certain areas. But we really encourage our clients to network with each other and learn from each other. And so that's kind of the gist of our mastermind is to, you know, help answer your questions both legally, but also, you know, things about like what Chris is talking about. What is it that's holding you back beyond just understanding the law or the deal structure or, you know, what are the barriers that are keeping you from getting where you want to go? So we've, we've had some really great success with that, and we have a lot of clients that come week after week. We do them every Wednesday right now at noon Eastern time. Towards the end of the month, we're gonna start a new— we're actually launching Circle in July. So probably right after that launches, we're gonna start doing a second one in the evening for any of you that can't come during the day. But we're also gonna post all the old recordings. With, you know, AI, we're integrating AI into our practices. So AI summary, so you can scan it and say, hey, is this one I want to listen to? But they usually go about 90 minutes. So we get a lot done. We cover a lot of topics in those meetings. And I think it's really helpful for a lot of people. And we love it. You know, we love doing it. Chat or in the raising hand. So you know, I'm hoping that you guys are getting what you need out of this. If you want to talk to Krisha about any of this, or you know, figure out how to get a strategy session with her, you can contact her directly at krisha@syndicationattorneys.com. That's krisha@syndicationattorneys.com. And you know, she can figure out how to get you guys what you need, and you know, maybe talk to you a little bit about whatever. Personal issues you might want to help get past, you know, but I do recommend the 2 books that we've talked about, the Living Forward and the Miracle Morning. Living Forward is interesting because, you know, their whole premise is unless you have a roadmap that says, you know, unless you know where, what your destination is, you know, then how are you ever going to get there? And, you know, you could end up going down the wrong road. Because you just didn't really have your final destination in mind. So we need to think about, you know, looking into the future. What, you know, what do we want people to— I mean, they even start with that. What do they— what do you want people to think about you, you know, after you're dead? What do you want them to say about you? What do you want people to feel about you? And, you know, then beyond that, what do you want to do in between to make sure that that's a reality and that you don't feel like you got cheated? You know, one of the The things I always tell myself and my staff and my clients, don't forget to live your life. You have to remember to live your life. And someday you might wake up and realize that you didn't, and then you'll be sad and sorry that you didn't and that you might have missed some really great things you could have been doing. So, you know, there's always time to start. It's never too late. But sometimes, what do you think? You know, I think a lot of people just don't tell people. You talked about gratitude. Like, you know, I had that conversation just the other day with my husband, and I said, you know, I just love the life that we've created together. I love, you know, where we live. I love the lifestyle that we have. You know, it's just really fantastic, you know. And just saying those words, you know, can be so powerful for you and your relationships. And, you know, even just telling your kids, you know, I just just love you so much, and you're such a great person, can do wonders for them as well.

Yeah. And if we take that into how does that feel like? It's a very different feeling inside your body than like, I hate this. Right. And so if we can feel that love, that's now changing that environment, it's changing that ecosystem for us. So now we're We're able to really tap into that excitement and that enthusiasm towards building this life that that we really want, right? And I love using like values. I do a lot of values work with people. Like what are your values? Are you living your values? And when you're so when you're making these life plans, if you're following along, if you have your values following alongside, then when these opportunities come up. You can be like, okay, well, yeah, this aligns with my values. This is an integrity. This feels really— this feels really good and positive for me. And so if you're feeling really good and positive, then that's going to have this beautiful ripple effect to your partner, to your kids, to your work, to everything that you're, you're bringing, you know, into this life. So there's the touchy-feely stuff for you.

Well, so if you want more of it, you know, definitely talk to Krisha or Charlene about joining Our Mastermind program. We'd love to see you there. Actually having one this afternoon for, you know, the people that we've met this year that, you know, we would like to show them a little bit about what our Masterminds are. But we're just looking forward to talking to all of you and helping you guys succeed in the business that you Nope.

Did we lose her? I lost her. Part of the issues we were having this morning was some internet issues on Kim's side, but I think we're still going. I think we're still recording and on here, and we're nearing the end of the hour, the top of the hour. And so yeah, Kim's right. We want to— we really want to help you That's what we're here for in every way. And that's why we have the programs that we have and the support that we have and the team that we have. So please don't hesitate to reach out to any of us. Go to our website. You can schedule a call. You can still hear me? Okay, awesome. Thank you. Thank you, Michael, for letting me know. You can schedule a call and chat with us about anything that we talked about here today. And we're here to support you in your syndication journey. And oh, she's back. Yay, you got back. I was just closing off. Okay.

All right. Well, that's awesome. Thanks everybody for coming today. I'm glad we were able to, you know, get as far as we did before my internet went wonky on us. But we look forward to talking to all of you at some point in the future.

Yeah, absolutely. All right.

Thank you.

Thanks so much, Kim. Thanks for having me on.

Thanks, Krisha.

Bye, everyone.