Sarah describes her level 2 female-led relationship with Jake, where she makes final decisions on money, plans, and household matters while he focuses on supporting and pleasing her. She says it reduced petty fights, improved communication, and dramatically increased intimacy.
Hi. Many of you know me, but for those who don't, I'm Marissa Rutter, and I have spent the last eight years converting couples from male led relationships to female led relationships with my 16 FLR books, my female led relationship podcast, and my AI relationship coach. Now here's my second video featuring Sarah with her level two FLR that feels like the sweet spot to her.
Okay, Queens, it's my turn. Sarah here, an original FLR evangelist, and I've gotten thousands of dms like Sarah. Sarah, what's level two? Actually, like all you dming started this whole conversation. So grab your wine or your mocktail, because I'm about to tell you why. Level 2 has been the absolute Goldilocks zone for Jake and me. Just the right amount of female leadership without going full intensity first. Quick context. So we're all on the same page. Level 2 is where the woman is clearly in charge of the relationship and the household, but it's still pretty relaxed and loving. No contracts, no chastity devices, no super strict protocols. Like level four. I make the final calls on pretty much everything. Money, plans, weekends, big life stuff. Jake supports, serves, and honestly loves pleasing me. There's a gentle power exchange. He calls me the captain. I call him my good boy, but it's wrapped in so much affection and playfulness. How did we get here? Girl? A few years ago, our marriage was fine, but just fine. We loved each other, but we'd bicker over the dumbest things. Who's cooking dinner, why the bills got paid late, whose turn it was to walk the dog. It wasn't dramatic, but it was draining. Then one night, I'm scrolling in Stumble on Marisa Rutter's female led relationship podcast. She was talking about female led relationships and how the woman leads the household, makes the big decisions, and the guy supports her vision. And it sounded like a ridiculously happy lifestyle for couples. Like they're giggling, can't keep their hands off each other. Happy. After listening to a few podcasts, I was hooked. I played an episode for Jake in the car, half expecting him to be like, uh, no thanks. But instead, he looked at me and said, I'm game to try. I trust you. My heart legit skipped. I actually gave him Submissive, one of Marissa Rutter's books, and he loved it so much he also read Oral Sex for Women. I didn't ask him to do that, but I'm glad he did. After that, we started small. I took over planning decisions, even little things like where we eat or what we watch. Jake stepped up at home, cooking, cleaning, organizing our life. It wasn't me barking orders, it was us leaning into what we're each naturally good at. I'm the big picture planner. He's the nurturing, detail oriented one. It just clicked. Fast forward three years and our home is pure harmony. Jake has happily become my sweet good boy partner. He's always eager to please, anticipating what I need and thriving in his supportive role. He says it's such a relief not having to pretend to be the Alpha 24 7. And me. I feel empowered, adored, completely seen. We talk deeper than ever. Real conversations, no surface level stuff. And the intimacy, oh my God, you guys. Prioritizing my needs has been an absolute game changer. Jake has turned into a champion at Orel. Seriously world class. And. And he loves it because he loves seeing me lose it. We're always kissing, touching, passionate. Like we're still on our honeymoon, but better. It's this constant spark because he's focused on my pleasure. And that energy just feeds right back into making him feel desired and appreciated. Best part, zero petty fights, none. Decisions get made quickly by me and he's happy to follow through. We're a team. I'm the captain. And it works beautifully. I can't even imagine going back to that old back and forth, male led power struggle, female led just makes everything better, calmer, hotter, closer. Level two feels like the perfect balance for us. Clear leadership from me, devoted service from him, wrapped in playfulness and passion. If you're curious, but higher levels feel too much, this is the sweet spot to start. It changed our marriage from good. We've been married for a while to like we just met and can't keep our hands off each other. So who's intrigued? Anyone thinking about taking the wheel a little more? I'm here for all the questions. Let's talk.
So as you can see, there are many kinds of female led relationships. And the funny thing about this is that your boyfriend or husband will thank you in the end. Men love flr. Men love strong, confident and wild women. Some even say men love crazy. So ladies, it's time to live authentically. Take control, take charge, and live your relationship the way you want. Find out all about a female led life at loveandobe. Com.
