Two speakers examine whether ethical non-monogamy works better than traditional monogamy. They cite Marisa Rudder's research showing that clear agreements and radical honesty can build trust in open relationships, while forced exclusivity often breeds resentment and cheating.
Hi there. Why does monogamy get painted as the moral default? Loyalty, commitment, building one deep bond, family stability. Society says it's the gold standard for trust and security. But I'm a woman who's done the deep dive into Marisa Rudder's books Swinging Hot Wife and Cuckolding and her female led relationship podcast, and I want to break it down honestly. No judgment, just real talk. Marissa argues monogamy is not always natural. Humans crave variety. After all, variety is the spice of life, and forcing exclusivity can breed resentment and often cheating. Studies finding cheating the most common final straw. And it always breaks trust and often results in divorce. So is suppressing attractions ethical if it.
Eventually leads to lies and cheating in divorce? Or is the promise of ethical non monogamy honest consensual agreement that fosters true intimacy and a better relationship? These questions all fall under ethical non monogamy or consensual non monogamy. The key words being ethical and consensual. Everything's transparent, negotiated with full consent from everyone involved. Cheating. That's the opposite. Cheating breaks monogamous relationship agreement with secrecy and betrayal. Ethical non monogamy flips the script. No more one person meets all needs pressure. It can build radical honesty, compassion, joy in your partner's joy, and community care. But the moral dilemmas, they are real. Jealousy doesn't vanish. It's a real human emotion. We used Marisa Rudda's coach, and she taught us that you and your partner need to reach an agreement. Her books and coach explain that an open relationship absolutely needs to be done in an ethical and consensual way by both partners. Marisa says overvaluing autonomy can be possessive and unrealistic.
Society slut shames women and sees non monogamy as less committed, less moral.
But studies show people practicing open relationships.
In an ethical and consensual way have strong level of trust, commitment and relationship fulfillment when done right.
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