Marisa Rudder (speaker) explains that men commonly experience spontaneous desire (sex drive arising out-of-the-blue) while most women experience responsive desire (desire following arousal). She emphasizes that in female-led relationships, partners should focus on foreplay, emotional support, compliments, respect, and communication to create sexual desire. Practical suggestions include kissing, touching, sensual massage, sexy talk, compliments, daily gestures (notes, listening, helping), and romantic rituals (bubble bath, candles, playlist). The transcript ends with a promotion of her book "Queendom" as a guide to building chemistry and sustaining desire.
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So how to create desire in a woman is one of the most important aspects which you must understand when it comes to satisfying your queen. Men experience spontaneous desire, while women experience responsive desire. Spontaneous desire can be thought of as feeling that you get when you randomly, out of the blue, want sex. It is what most of us traditionally view as being horny. Whatever you want to call it. Most men primarily experience desire in this way. However, most women are different. For most women, sexual arousal actually precedes the feeling of sexual desire. Women's desire is primarily responsive desire, meaning sexual desire that occurs in response to sexual arousal. This means that your queen needs to feel aroused before she's ready for sex. It's normal for women to need a little warming up before the experiencing desire to have sex. So getting her in the mood must must occur right from the beginning. How she's feeling throughout the day, in the hours leading up to the night, is crucial to whether she's going to be turned on during sex. So today, with busy lives, it's challenging to switch gears and moment. To go from work and responsibilities to feeling sexy and aroused is downright difficult. But as her main supporter, it is up to you to do everything in your power to support her, compliment her, inspire her and get her into a sexy mood. In a female led relationship, love is about respect and admiration. Your queendom works with collaboration, empowerment and harmony. So how do you make your queen desire you more? Make time for lots of foreplay. Most women need foreplay or some action before getting in the mood for sex. Add excitement and increase her desire by kissing and touching her body. Give her a sensual massage or add some sexy talk to her repertoire. If you're not sure what she likes or what turns her on, just ask. What makes makes a woman crave a man? Women crave men who are direct about their desires. When a man is honest and trustworthy, he instantly becomes more appealing and desirable to a queen. If he's dependable, truthful, genuine and speaks out from the heart, he's a guy worth having. And it's a serious turn on for any queen. How to make a woman feel desired as the man in her life, it is your job to reassure her that she is a beautiful temptress. Even if it's just to you. You need to remind her that you adore her sex appeal and that no matter what, you will always love the way she looks. You will be very surprised at the positive payback that you will receive once you start convincing her that she is sexy. How you show your queen that she is desired is by treating her with the utmost respect and doing things throughout the day to show her she is the most important person in your life. Do you compliment her? Greet her properly, listen to her, inspire her, Send her some love notes during the day, do something that she needs out of the ordinary for no reason, support her dreams, be emotionally available and learn what truly turns her on. All of these will go a long way to showing your queen you desire her. So before sex, draw her a bubble bath. After a long day at work, go the extra mile by lighting some candles, put on her favorite playlist, treat her to a back massage, and when she gets out of the tub, make love to her like never before. Always remember that women love being wooed. Being romantic by pampering your queen with the simplest things is a surefire way to let her know you find her alluring and you appreciate her. And of course, that'll only make her feel more sexy, desirable and way happier. As a couple, you both must be turned on by each other. The Queendom lifestyle is one that is focused on respect, support and partnership. My book Queendom is filled with all sorts of ideas on how you can help your queen to feel more desired and sexually turned on. It is your complete guide to everything you need to know to build hot chemistry, keep the flames of desire burning, as well as how to inject excitement and adventure into your female led relationship to create your perfect queendom for you and your queen. As you delve into the enchanting journey of cherishing your queen and making her feel desired, remember that you are not just transforming your relationship, you're creating a very sexy, exciting and fulfilling sex life.
