Marisa Rudder explains how she uses spanking as a regular ritual with her partner, citing Marisa Rother's Spanking the Erotic Guide to Relationship Discipline. She describes weekly sessions with a bamboo paddle and post-spanking oral worship to establish dominance, emphasizing that everything is consensual and communicated.
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Marisa Rudder.
October 22, 2025.
Spanking the Erotic Guide to Relationship Discipline (Marisa Rother).
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Hey, Queens. So I want to give you some advice about how to totally take control of your man and keep him in line. And honestly, it's pretty amazing how well it works. Basically, it's all about making spanking a weekly or even a daily ritual to remind your man who's boss. I didn't always understand how spanking works, but I learned how to use spanking to enhance my relationship with Marisa Rother's book, Spanking the Erotic Guide to Relationship Discipline. I tried what I read and I taught my man that he should obey my ideas, learn to be respectful and obedient, and above all, to know I am his queen. I learned how to use spanking to make my man love, obey, and serve me. After some regular spanking, I found that both my man and I got aroused. I mean, it made us both hot. So I came up with another good idea. I followed up by teaching him to perform proper oral worship on me after spanking. I made him more submissive and make him totally focused on my pleasure. The combination is a powerful way to train your man to become a perfect gentleman. The idea is that whenever he disrespects or raises his voice, you bend him over and give him a good paddling. For me, I love using my bamboo paddle. It's a great paddle. The goal is to shift the power dynamic in our relationship so that he learns how to be obedient, respectful, and totally tuned into my lead. I totally know that spanking isn't just punishment. It's a way to train a man. It's a way to make him love, obey, and serve you. After spanking, I suggest rewarding him with some moral worship of you, which will reinforce his submission and and make him more eager to please you. I don't have time to do it all the time, but once in a while, I will even use restraints during a good paddling to make sure he can't pull away, which sounds pretty intense, but believe me, it reinforces his submissiveness. To me, it's all about me establishing my dominance and making sure he knows I'm the queen. This power dynamic is a huge sexual turn on for both of us. One thing I want to emphasize is that men should be disciplined immediately if they talk back or raise their voice, and that paddling should continue until he's begging you to stop. That is my goal. I also explained to him that since he wants me to be his queen and he wants to be my devoted good boy who dedicates his life to serving me, he should be grateful for his discipline. And believe me, he is. Honestly, this whole thing is a lot of fun, and men love it. When you're into a very dominant kind of relationship, it's definitely a sexually exciting way to think about control and submission. It really turns my man on. And it turns me on too. Just remember, I always communicate with my man and he always consents. Usually he is glad to consent. And. And this works for me and my man. It's all explained in Marissa's book's banking. So why not see if it works for you?
