Marisa Rudder describes her experience with subspace in a female-led BDSM relationship, including how spanking and discipline create a mental state that deepens intimacy. She covers safe words, aftercare, and how the practice intensified her orgasms, drawing inspiration from Marissa Ratto's book.
Okay, here's my big awakening on how I leveled up my female led. I read Marissa Ratto's book Spanking and I added some consensual spanking and discipline because why not try it? I'm a total love and obey queen running the show in my female led marriage. And to be honest, adding this dynamic was a total game changer. We talked it out for weeks, set boundaries, safe words, all that good stuff. We started with light spanking during playtime, then built to full on discipline sessions where I'd call the shots. It's empowering as hell for me and he loves surrendering control. He's first real subspace moment. Oh my God. It was magical. We'd been in a session, me with my bamboo paddle, him bent over the bed, building intensity slowly. It was all tense at first, breathing heavy, but as the spanx landed rhythmically, I saw him melt. He's body went limp, eyes glazed over like he floated away. He checked in and he just murmured all good. Our safe word wasn't needed. He was deep in it. He shared later, all starryad subspace. Feels like your brain hits the off switch on everything stressful. The world blurs, all pain and it turns into this warm tingling wave that floods your body like endorphins on steroids. Sounds quiet. Time slows to a crawl and you feel this euphoric case. Totally detached, yet hyper connected to your partner. It's vulnerable but safe. Like being wrapped in a cozy blanket of trust. No thoughts, just pure bliss. My man loved it and I loved giving it to him. And the afterglow, wow. It amps up lovemaking tenfold. Post subspace, he super sensitive eye can see every touch, feels electric, emotions run high. So intimacy becomes this intense soul bonding experience. Orgasms hit harder and that emotional high carries over. Taking vanilla sex to a feel fantastic. Next level passion. I also talked to Marisa's digital twin relationship coach. Sometimes I texted, sometimes I called her to talk, and I even tried a zoom call with her. She has all the knowledge to answer very personal questions about your unique female led relationship. It was Marissa's book and coaching that inspired me to try spanking and discipline. And I am so glad I did. Eat helped my man discover his subspace. The whole experience was fire. Afterwards, he thanked me for being his dominant wild queen and showing him just how high our sex could go.
