Mark Evans DM argues that people stay stuck in unhealthy situations because they get used to them, and it takes a shock to force change. Real comfort comes from pushing past what feels safe, not from staying in patterns that drain you.
It's hard to change the mindset, but at the same time, it's even harder if you keep. The thing is, is people are comfortable. Everyone talks about this comfort zone. The comfort zone is the least comfortable place you could be. Comfort zone. You're in a very bad situation with your spouse and kids, but if you're comfortable with it, we're comfortable with that. We know how to live inside of that bubble. But once something catastrophic happens, either one person taps out or someone passes away, that's typically when change happens, is when something really earth shattering happens in one's life. Because very few people are conscious enough to ask proper questions, to get a different answer, to go seek a new solution. Because it takes a lot of work.
