Mark Evans DM talks fatherhood with a 4-year-old and 8-year-old, treating it as seasons rather than balance. He keeps his marriage strong through date nights and shared time, and builds his days around early workouts, school runs, and family meals.
4 years old and 8 years old.
How do you balance? How are you as a father? How do you spend time with your kids? To me it's not about balance, about priorities. There's seasons of life. I have a 4 year old and 8 year old. They're going to be that once, there's going to be deals forever. I'm hanging out with kids, there's nothing that is going to change that. But I'm very conscious of they see dad work, I get up early, I go to work out, I do my thing, they're in school, they do their thing, I do my thing, they'll be hanging out with dad and mom, I just hang out with my kids, dude. I think it's the most important thing. But keep in mind when they turn 12, 14, and then they turn 18, like that's going to be a different season of my life with my wife's life. I'm not necessarily worried about the kids as much as I am with my spouse. Making sure we don't separate in the journey of life where we pull apart as opposed to closer together. Because right now we're just, everyone's busy doing stuff. But what happens when they turn 12 and you're looking at your spouse like, dude, I kind of hate you. Either that or I kind of like you more. We got to keep those cycles going. So you got to have date night, you got to have kids stuff. But I'm usually done at like 4 or 5. I go play football, ride motorcycles, hang out with the kids, jump around, I go to bed, I eat breakfast with them, I dinner with them. I really try not to miss ever.
