Mark Evans DM writes letters to his wife Dina after conflicts, sending them in the morning so she can process over a day or two. He says writing immediately after an issue helps him recall why they got together and express feelings clearly, which gives him relief and improves how they resolve things.
I have a very combative approach to things. Say, yeah, it doesn't work. It's like, well, you're being a web. Here's what you need to do. As opposed to, like, okay, tell me more. My approach is a little different. And with Dina, I've realized, like, she has to process stuff a lot longer than I do. She likes to think about it. So I give her a letter, send it in the morning. We talk about it in a day or two. It's helped me out a lot. Anybody ever has an issue with their spouse, I always say, write a letter immediately. Write a letter, talk about why you got together. Talk about the first date, why did you like her or him? It's gonna end some way or shape or form. The letter is very powerful, guys. Goes a long way. Even if it doesn't work, at least you got it off your chest. Truth is, I do the letter for myself. Just so happens there's good benefits to the letter. I like doing that. It actually works pretty well.
