Why do some people succeed and others don't?

Hi, Mary. I've always been fascinated by why some people are successful and others aren't. In the past, I believed the law of attraction perspective that we create our reality by how we are thinking and feeling. Like attracts like. Now that I'm into the 3 principles, I'm wondering what determines our ability to be successful, however you define that for yourself. Why is it working out for you, meaning me, and not other 3 principles, uh, people/coaches? How do we call in our success? I hear Three Principles people say there's nothing to do, but what is Michael Neal doing or being that is giving him his amazing life? I'd love to delve into this topic with you. So I'm going to preface my response by saying that this is not the be-all end-all answer, and I would love to continue this conversation. And in fact, it's really the basis of everything that I'm doing. Professionally is that I am attempting to help people to connect with what it is that they really want to be doing with their time. And it's not because I feel like— excuse me— people, you know, shouldn't have jobs or anything like that, or, you know, they should break free from the cubicle, or or anything like that. It's, it's a much bigger mission that I'm personally on. And my personal mission has to do with the fact that when people are listening to and responding to the inspiration that they hear within themselves, what they bring out into the world, what is created through them, is a way in for other people to feel the connection that is present within us at all times to, in 3 principles, speak mind. If you're not familiar with the 3 principles and some of what I'm talking about may seem a bit obscure, and I'll just pause here to say, if you'd like to learn more about what the 3 principles are, I highly recommend Michael Neill's book, The Inside Out Revolution. That was the book that introduced me to all of this and basically transformed my entire life. And I would be remiss if I didn't recommend my own books. As well. But my real goal with everything that I'm doing is to help people to hear from a space of clarity what it is that they would like to be doing with their time on this earth. Now, what they want to be doing might change over time— excuse me— and that's fine. We're not set in stone in anything. My sense with a lot of coaches is that something happens that I will explain here. And I have coached a lot of coaches. In fact, they make up the— by far the bulk of my client base. I've been a professional coach now for 2 years, and even before that I was talking to people and most of them were coaches, not necessarily Three Principles coaches, although a lot of them lately have been, but coaches from all arenas. And what seems to happen is that people will go through a coach training program or several programs, they spend a lot of money on these programs They spend a lot of time on these programs. They learn a lot about themselves through these programs and get tremendous benefit from that time. But somewhere along the way, they may realize that they don't actually want to be a coach, that that particular profession isn't right for them. And yet, because they've spent all this time and energy and money They feel like they have to. They feel like if they don't capitalize, if you will, on all of that expenditure, that it will have been a waste of time. And that's the situation that I see a lot of coaches in who aren't actually working as coaches. They feel like they have to be a coach And so they, um, are sort of subjugating all of the other, uh, desires and inspiration that they have in order to try to focus on something that isn't sitting well with them. What I have tried to tell these people who've been through all this coach training and aren't making progress is that whatever it is that they have learned about themselves. And, um, you know, whatever that is can be shared in any realm of life. It doesn't have to be coaching. It can be anything. It can be teaching people, uh, how to garden. It can be, uh, writing books, novels. It can be, uh, painting houses. It can be teaching, uh, at a university. It can be absolutely anything because it's not the medium that counts. It is the fact that you are inspired to do something, and through the creation of that, through the process and through the outcome, whatever it is that it gets created through you people are feeling more and more consciously this connection to their true selves— self with a capital S, not little s that lives up in our heads. So, um, to kind of swing back to your question about what determines our ability to be successful, to me it seems like it's two things essentially, or maybe just one thing. It's answering inspiration. It's taking action on what really is drawing you, no matter how that might look. You know, um, I haven't shared this much publicly, but I'm going to be honest since we're having a very forthright conversation here, that I don't have any coach training. I came across the 3 principles via Michael Neal's book in 2014, and I, you know, had a fairly quick realization of what he was talking about in that book and had a major life transformation very fast as a result of that. And I knew right then that that was all I wanted to talk to people about. For the foreseeable future. And I was going to do that any way that I could. I was still in a full-time job at that point. And I gave the book to some of my colleagues, gave it to my friends, started having meetings with my friends about it. I set up a Facebook group for friends and family if they wanted to hear about it. I, at that time, was doing some work on the side for making marketing videos for people. I started asking them if they wanted conversations and I just talked to anyone who would listen, essentially. I'm sure I was a bit obnoxious about it, but that's the way it is. Um, and then, you know, 2 years ago when, uh, I was in a different job than the earlier one and I lost my job, I decided, well, I guess I'm going to be a professional coach now since this is basically what I've been doing for the last 2 years, just not getting paid for it. I'm going to put some prices on a website and see what happens. And it was because I was— I wasn't— I didn't have anything on it, you know. Um, that phrase is used a lot, but to me it is just crucial to get that when you can ignore— and I say ignore because you can't stop these thoughts from coming in, it's not possible— but if you can ignore any sort of expectation type thinking Uh, it really allows you to tap into all this freedom that you already have intrinsically. I had no expectations at all about any of it. I didn't know what was going to happen. I didn't know if I would completely bomb. I had no idea. I didn't know that the books would be popular. No, no idea about that. I did it because somebody asked me to put one of my free PDFs on Amazon. Uh, thank you, Dorothy. And the rest is history, as they say. And, um, it all came because I was listening to— and if there is a second piece, it's acting upon inspiration. It really, really helps to know, and this is where the 3 principles understanding has been invaluable to me— is not even the bigger— a big enough word. It really helps to know that there is nothing riding on anything ever, ever. And I'll give you an example. Some people have heard this example. So when I left my full-time job, I went to work for a startup and I was doing sales for them. I had never done sales in my life, and we were selling big-ticket items. They started at $10,000 and went up to $25,000 or $35,000. I can't remember. I wasn't keeping track of how many sales I made. I wasn't getting paid on commission or anything. And at the first quarterly meeting we had after I got hired, the CEO at that time and the co-founder came to me and said, you know, you've made a lot of sales in this first quarter. You've made twice as many as the other salesperson who happened to be an experienced salesperson. Excuse me, there's a lot of dust in my apartment from this construction. It's kind of getting to my throat. Hang on one sec. And they said, you know, how are you making all these sales? It turned out that I had made a quarter million dollars in sales for them, and the other salesman had done about $150,000 or $140,000, something like that. And I said, well I know it doesn't matter if I make the sale. There's nothing riding on it. And they said, what do you mean there's nothing riding on it? I mean, if you don't do well, you can lose your job. And I said, well, that's okay, I'll go find something else to do. And ironic, right, that they let me go a few months later. But, um, that was for a whole different reason. Basically, I called them on the carpet for something they were doing, uh, that was unethical, not to mention against the law, and they didn't like hearing that. But in any case, uh, that was a good lesson to me, that when you really know without even having to trust it or anything that you don't need anything, that you already have everything, that all your needs have always been met and will always be met, it makes it a lot easier to act from inspiration, to act from this innate courage and fearlessness that we all have within us. When you are listening to something that is calling to your heart instead of listening to a bunch of old stale thinking that says what you should do or what you have to do now because you spent all this money on coach training and you have to go that way, you are much more likely to be successful, however you want to, you know, define that for yourself, by doing what you want to do instead of doing what you think you have to do or you should do. I've learned that lesson too, that when I was in these jobs, especially not the sales one but the one before that, that I was in for a number of years that I really didn't like at all, there was nothing inspirational about it at all. Didn't use my skills and abilities. I wasn't able to exercise leadership there. I was constantly being told what to do and when and all that stuff. When I broke free of that, well, it's no surprise that I've been able to make a lot more impact, first of all, and a lot more money, second of all, because I'm tapping into this infinite and infinitely generous well of creativity, of new ideas. You know, I, um, I think I did a video recently. I'm going to do another one. You know, 99.9% of the work is already done for you. It's already done for you. You have inspiration, you have intuition, you have creativity, you have courage, you have, uh, fearlessness. You have everything at your fingertips right now. If you don't like a specific idea, another one will come along in a minute. The only piece that is yours to do is to take one tiny step. If you take one tiny step, it's like the river comes and says, oh great, here, we'll push you a whole bunch of, uh, miles down the road, and then you can take another little step, and then we'll push you some more. So, um, I guess what I would say to kind of wrap this up for now— and I of course am and totally open to continuing this conversation because as you can tell, I, I, I am really passionate about it— is that if you feel like you're in the wrong profession, if you feel like you're not doing the thing that you really want to be doing, it's okay to stop. You have permission to stop and to do something else, even if you're not sure what the something else is just yet. If you can just give yourself some rest from all the tired old buzzy thinking, the thing that you will do next will start to become obvious. At least a step will. And we only know what this first step is in front of us. We can't see down the road. We don't have the ability to predict the future. So all you have to see is one step right here, and you already can see that from where you're standing right now. So I hope that this video has been at least interesting, perhaps thought-provoking, and somewhat helpful. I'll talk to you guys later. Bye.