You are not broken. Never have been. Never will be.

Hello, it's Mary Schiller, author and coach of MarySchiller.com, coming to you from my couch today in my apartment here in Paris, France. And you've got sort of a double view of me here with— oops— me in the mirror. This place is full of mirrors. There's one behind me there, there's another one there, and it helps to make the small space feel a bit bigger. I was just, uh, writing an email to go out to my wonderful community today, uh, mentioning that today's the last day to sign up for some individual coaching with me related to the 3 principles, all done via video. So I will include the link to that program in a comment here on this video when I post it. I was realizing that the topic that I was covering in the email that I sent to them might be helpful to you today, so I decided to jump on here and do a Facebook Live, and hopefully this message will be helpful to you or to someone you know. So please feel free to share if you think it would help somebody else. You know, one of the biggest moments of my life, and I don't say that lightly— hi, Maria— was when I heard a truth via listening to some things related to these 3 principles, as they're called. And it was such a major moment in my life that I literally had to sit down. When I became aware of it. I would rank this moment up there with the birth of my daughter, with the death of my mother and father, and all kinds of major events like that. It was perhaps even bigger, believe it or not. You know, as you may know if you've heard me speak or read much of my stuff, you know, I was told that I was mentally ill for many, many, many years and I was told that essentially nothing could fix me, that I was permanently broken. And the best I could do would be to learn to cope with the symptoms of what they call post-traumatic stress disorder. But there was no cure and there was nothing that could actually be done to get rid of it or to even alleviate it all that much. It was more like you're going to have to do things the rest of your life to try to cope. And that was incredibly demoralizing to hear because I felt like literally, you know, my life had been taken from me by the actions of a person who decided to be abusive towards me. And many of the professionals that I spoke to over the years were, I wouldn't say dismissive, but they were almost like, you know, why are you even looking for a permanent solution to this because there isn't one. And I grew pretty desperate at certain points. There was one point in time around 2010 where I was trying to find a doctor in New York City who would prescribe me a drug that was not regulated for use for PTSD but had been proven to be successful in treating it. And it was basically called— I forget the actual name of the drug, starts with a P. It's a long, complicated name, but They called it the memory drug because it seemed to have the effect of erasing memories of traumatic events when they had tested it with certain people. And I had looked for a clinical trial for that drug many times and had only seen clinical trials for veterans, war veterans, not for women, let's say, who'd been through domestic violence and rape and things like that that I had. So I was trying to find a doctor who would prescribe this drug for me. That was probably one of the lowest points in my whole adult life in trying to cope with this supposedly incurable mental illness that I had. And then when I came across the principles It took me a little while to see this, but not that long actually, surprisingly, just a few weeks really, where it literally felt like a bolt of lightning had hit me and I realized that everything I had been told about being permanently damaged, broken, unfixable, All that stuff was completely wrong, and it was so obvious to me that I almost couldn't believe that I hadn't seen it before, except that no one had even come close to indicating that to me in the past. No one sitting across from me in those I mean, a multitude of offices and, you know, I lost track at like 24, 25 different mental health professionals that I saw over those years. Not one of those people sat across from me and saw me as okay. They saw me as damaged goods, but they were wrong. And I feel very, very strongly that this message needs to get out into the wider world. I appreciate the fact that it upends an entire industry based on seeing people as unwell or worse. I understand that it upends an an entire industry related to supplying drugs to people who have been told they are unwell or worse. But I really don't care because if the people who have designated themselves as helpers of those who are struggling really want to help those people who are struggling, then they need to look in a new direction. They need to look towards the fact of innate and limitless health, that the only reason anyone ever looks like they've got something wrong with them is because that person is listening to a story in their head. That that story isn't who they are. It has nothing to do with their state of health whatsoever. Those things are completely disconnected. It looks really weird to me now to equate those two things because that person is not those thoughts. They don't have to do anything about those thoughts. There's nothing that needs to be done to that person except kind of wake them up to the fact that they're actually okay. It's why I talk so much about feelings not being problems and things like that, because we're so conditioned in this culture to see ourselves that way as broken because we have a certain type of thinking for what someone has designated as too long or something like that. So we then add to it by saying to ourselves, well, certainly that indicates there's something wrong with me, that I'm sick. It's all a made-up story, and unfortunately a lot of people are walking around believing that there is something wrong with them, that they are broken, that they can't be fixed, They have to constantly engage in all kinds of self-improvement, and it's a waste of time. And the world needs these people. It needs people to see this truth for themselves and start acting more and more from this place of innate health. Hi, Maria. I love your message. It's my experience that this is what people want to know, that we are all okay. It's so much easier to be on the roller coaster of life when And we know this absolutely because the roller coaster of life is thought. And we're designed this way. We're designed to have ups and downs. We're designed to have side to sides. That's how we're made. We have all of the resilience we could ever want built into us because we are not just this form that we are inhabiting. We are not the thoughts that run through our minds. We are so much bigger than all of that. We have no limits on us. We have no— there's nothing that is impossible. And I keep wondering, what would the world look like? What would the world look like if every single person was born into a culture that told them that no matter how things look to them, no matter what things occurred, that they could never be harmed by them. They could never be tarnished or broken or chipped or cracked or anything. That they didn't have to lash out at another person because they wanted something that that person had because they have it already. You know, to me, this is the only message that matters related to these 3 principles. And if there is someone watching this video right now who has the sense that there is something here in what I'm saying, you know, please get in touch with me. I'm happy to talk with you. Send me an email, mary@marieschiller.com. I'll put that in a, in the description or in a comment or something, because this was so big in my life, like I said, that it has changed everything. It has changed the way that I interact with people. It's changed everything that I do every day. I no longer have any sort of fears around doing things or exploring new things or taking risks. There's nothing ever at stake. You know, there's nothing ever at stake when you, when you see that you're not broken and that you can't be harmed. You're free to experience this incredible freedom and spaciousness that we're born into. Just by being human. So I think I will leave it there for today. There's so much more to say on this topic, but I'll just leave you with this truth: that no matter what anyone has ever told you, no matter what thoughts you hear going through your mind, you are not broken. You never have been and you never can be. It's impossible. For anything to be wrong with you. And I'm saying that with all the love I have within me, no matter what the current culture is saying, no matter what the doctors say, no matter what the psychologists say, no matter what all the big self-help gurus say, you don't have to work on yourself. There is nothing to fix because you're not broken. Thank you so much for listening today. I'll talk to you again soon. Bye.