In this informal monologue recorded from Oxford, Mary Schiller introduces herself and invites viewers to her website for free audio resources. She critiques the popular self‑help notion that one must "attract" desired outcomes—wealth, relationships, success—arguing that the premise is fundamentally flawed. Drawing on the Three Principles, especially the Principle of Mind, she asserts that human beings are innately complete and already possess everything they need; the idea of lack is a mental construct akin to the sun needing to avoid darkness. Mary shares her own history of feeling deficient in many life areas, then describes the rapid shift she experienced when she recognized her inherent wholeness, likening it to Dorothy discovering the Wizard of Oz was inside her all along. From this perspective, external goals become optional experiences rather than necessities, and life can be lived with freedom from attachment. She concludes by encouraging listeners to explore the deeper reality beyond thought, offers contact information, and notes she will return to caring for her ill daughter.
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Oh, am I on? I was getting a mixed message there from Facebook on whether or not I was live, so maybe I am. I'll just proceed as if I am. Uh, hi there, this is Mary Schiller, author and coach of maryschiller.com. And before I jump into the topic, I want to invite you to visit my site Again, it's my name, maryschiller.com, and there you can download 2 free audios if you'd like. So I'm coming to you today from Oxford in England. I am here visiting my daughter, and we were going to do a bunch of fun stuff while I was here, but she came down with the flu a few days ago, so, um, I am kind of taking it easy here with her, and I may go out this afternoon and do a little exploring. Exploring on my own, as I did a little bit yesterday. Uh, hi. Oh good, thanks Brian. And so something that has been on my mind a lot lately, and I just wanted to talk about it for a few minutes, is this idea that is floating around everywhere basically saying that in order to have something in our life that we want, we have to somehow attract it. That if things aren't going the way we want them to, it's perhaps because we are repelling something, and instead we need to learn how to attract the things that we want or the people that we want. Sorry, this is a little bit jiggly, but anyway, we have to somehow do something different in order to attract all of the things that we'd like to have. And, um, as I, uh, have gotten more and more, I guess, in-depth in this understanding of what these three principles point to, it, it looks more and more ridiculous to me that we would ever think we had to attract something. Because the way it looks to me is that human beings, just by virtue of being born, already have everything. We don't lack for anything. The idea that we could have some sort of a mindset of lack or scarcity would be like saying that the sun has to concentrate on not bringing darkness into the universe. I mean, it just seems a little bit nutty to me now. And you might say, well, what am I doing wrong then? If there are things that I want in my life and I don't have them, how do I make them happen? If I don't have to attract the light, if you will, because I am the light, then what do I need to do to change things? What if, you know, my life just isn't going the way that I want it to go? What are there— what if there are things that I want to have, or, you know, maybe I'm not in a relationship and I would like to have a relationship, or maybe I would like some more money to do certain things that I haven't been able to do, or, you know, any number of things like that. And my answer always comes down to something really simple. It's recognizing that we don't need any of those things. We don't need any of those things. So when you start to kind of get clear on the fact that you don't need any of those things and that there's nothing riding on anything at all because you already have everything— and I'm not talking about materially, I'm talking about much bigger than material things— life starts to look very, very different. From this perspective. You know, and I'm speaking as somebody who really saw myself as lacking before. I mean, in pretty much every way, I thought that my life was not what I had wanted it to be, except for a few things like being a mom, which I loved, and, and I love my current husband and, and things like that, and my family and friends. But In a lot of other ways, my life looked very paltry. I definitely saw myself as lacking. And it was amazing to me how quickly after coming across these 3 principles and even just seeing a tiny glimpse of what they were pointing to, particularly the principle of mind, that I realized that I had had everything all along, sort of like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, you know. I just didn't know where I was. I didn't know very much about what I was. And so now my investigation of life with a capital L is about discovering what we are and where we are. And if along the way I can have some fun with money, or I can travel, or I can have wonderful relationships, well, that's cool, but nothing is riding on those things. Those don't have any impact on what you and I actually are. So I don't know if this is making sense, but I think I'll close by just saying that You know, life can look very real to us, real with a capital R. You know, we can have all kinds of experiences and we can have all kinds of circumstances we find ourselves in, and everything can look very real. But there is a reality beyond the one that exists from thought to thought that we're having, and that's what I would encourage you to explore, particularly if it seems like something is missing in your life, because you will soon discover that nothing is missing and nothing was missing and nothing could ever be missing. So with that, I will leave you today and go back to tending my ill child. Child— she's in her 20s, but they always need mom, right? So I'll talk to you again soon. Soon, hopefully tomorrow. And again, feel free to post a comment here if you'd like, and email me if you have something you'd like to let me know about personally: mary@maryschiller.com. Bye for now!
